.... does he lıke me? hes 10 yrs older

me and my friend met this guy called john. john seemed interested in my friend so he called us out one day. he invited his friend mike too. mike is 10 yrs older than me but i cant fıgure out whether he likes me or not. would he be interested in an 18 yr old? theyre really decent guys so they wudnt use us and they,re taking things slowly. this guy isnt making any obvious moves but i got a txt from ma friend and he said was that your bf?? i sed no it was my friend.. and then we were crossing the road he went in my arm and stuff. do u reckon he likes me? i know theres not much i can tell u but this is about it. i also think he kept giving me sneaky looks.

Sounds like a loser.

you dont make sense

Of course a 28 year old could like an 18 year old. And I don't think there's anything wrong with it in theory - the age gap isn't massive. However, get to know him well before oyu start anyhting up. It may well be that you would be looking for different things (physical and emotional) out of any relationship that might develop so make sure you're both clear on stuff befroe you get into anyhting.

Reply 4

Humra

Elipsis

Sounds like a loser.

Agree..

Reply 5

Schmokie Dragon

17

Sure he likes you. But whether he likes the idea of getting frisky with you or simply likes you as a person, or even potential partner, only time will tell. Take it slowly, don't leap in the sack with him and you will find out.

With regards to his age, he is only 28. Sure its possible for him to like a 18 year old! (I speak from experience)

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

why does he sound like a loser?

Reply 7

Segat1

16

Anonymous

me and my friend met this guy called john. john seemed interested in my friend so he called us out one day. he invited his friend mike too. mike is 10 yrs older than me but i cant fıgure out whether he likes me or not. would he be interested in an 18 yr old? theyre really decent guys so they wudnt use us and they,re taking things slowly. this guy isnt making any obvious moves but i got a txt from ma friend and he said was that your bf?? i sed no it was my friend.. and then we were crossing the road he went in my arm and stuff. do u reckon he likes me? i know theres not much i can tell u but this is about it. i also think he kept giving me sneaky looks.

he peed in your arm AND your stuff? gross! :biggrin:

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

Real confidence booster there mate. Because realtionships are all about looking the part and being with someone who society thinks you fit with.... because the people underneath count for nothing.

I am dating a 43 year old. Why? Society says he is too old for me, that he isn't attractive enough, that he is a little weird... so why am I with him? He is old enough to have a lot of experience, and this shows in numerous ways. Looks count for sweet FA in my opinion and his "weirdness" I see as fun and quirky. We have incredably similar interests (literature, physics, philosophy, music etc) and we are both intelligent people. The fact that we can talk for hours about Persian architecture (and not get bored) counts for a lot more than society telling me he isn't suitable.

Reply 9

username47781

20

best thing really is if you want a relationship with him is to take it nice and slow and don't let him walk all over you

Reply 10

34253

2

Its wierd because as your just starting your life he should be well on the way through his with a car, a house and perhaps a wife and a few kids. If he doesnt have these things chances are that he wants them... but do you?

Reply 11

Faraday

people who look of a similar age look like a couple, not like father and daughter, so I think the 10 year age gap is quite huge and I'm kind of put off by that. Sometimes when there is a large gap between couples you're not quite on the same wave length or level as the person who is older and maturer in the relationship - just my opinion.

Reply 12

Lady_Muck

14

Elipsis

Its wierd because as your just starting your life he should be well on the way through his with a car, a house and perhaps a wife and a few kids. If he doesnt have these things chances are that he wants them... but do you?

*******s!

I'm "seeing" a 27 year old at the moment, we met out, he lives in London in the week, he has a flat there. He lives down here at weekends so he can be around his 5 'best' friends and has a house down here, too.

Who says he should be married etc? It's crap, he can marry when he wants. He enjoys my company, as I enjoy his, he's travelled extensively and still does as part of his job, I find that really interesting, I don't like younger guys anyway and his interests interest me, too.

There's nothing wrong with it, he's not necessarily a weirdo, just go with it and see whether you get on. This guy and I get on really well, he's very quick and so am I, it just works. He doesn't act much older than me, maybe I'm just mature, but either way, I'm happy wiht it, stuff everyone else.

Reply 13

Anonymous #2

hmmmmm and it doesnt bother you that you were a toddler while he was in his 20s?

Not really, no. Society tells me I should care, and we get funny looks when we go to restaurants and hold hands in the park, but who cares? Why should I care that someone I don't know is judging me without knowing the details.

Its wierd because as your just starting your life he should be well on the way through his with a car, a house and perhaps a wife and a few kids. If he doesnt have these things chances are that he wants them... but do you?

Not sure who this is directed at, but what the heck....
I know what he wants. He wants to get married and have kids, and abopt as well. He wants to go on an Antarctic expedition and retire to a lake-side house in northern Italy. I know why he isn't married and why he doesn't have kids. He has a past that would give someone people nightmares. Do I find this weird? A tad. Do I care? No.

Sometimes when there is a large gap between couples you're not quite on the same wave length or level as the person who is older and maturer in the relationship

Maybe that is part of the fun...

Reply 14

Anonymous #2

Why? What is wrong with that?

He isn't a great looker and has wrinkles. So what? I hate to tell you this, but relationships are not about "looking good" together and making society think you are acceptable.

Do us a favour and stop having emotive, gut reactions.

If those two people love each other and enjoy each others company, why are we to say that it is "wrong" and "disgusting"? If you don't like it, don't look.

Reply 15

shady lane

16

Only a loser 28 year old would date an 18 year old, unless she looks way way older and he didn't realize her age when they first met. My male friends have confirmed this (I'm 22), women in their 20s are sexier than teenagers because they are less insecure and have more experience. They are more comfortable with themselves and more confident. Why would he take an 18 year old over a fit 24/25 year old? Because the 18 year old is easier to impress, that's why.

Reply 16

shady lane

16

The-Lennon

and besides...... if you are so proud of your relationship with a man probably twice your age, why are you posting anonymously?

Maybe his daughter uses TSR? haha

Reply 17

Philosophia

2

In this instance, I can see both arguments. Who one falls in love with sometimes isn't a choice; it's predetermined I believe. So therefore, if an 18 year old pursues a relationship with a 40 year old, it is important to distinguish whether it is genuine love, or infatuation with 'the elder man' or a desire for a 'replacement father figure'. Sounds quite Freudian, and believe me I don't mean to be, but love and infatuation have extremely blurred lines.

From my own experience, I have never dated someone more than 4 years older than I, but I have been the consequences of such a relationship from an outsider perspective. And they certainly weren't pretty.