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I can't stand the way she treats me
My best friend has been getting so jealous about my other friends. she yelled at me because one of my friends gave me a surprise visit last week, and it was totally unexpected! my best friend accused me of "stabbing her in the back" but i dont understand what i did wrong. the girl just came to my house for literally 2 mins. all the girls (including my best friend) were going to a party together, and when my best friend saw me and this girl arrive at the venue at the same time, she literally threw a fit! she went to the toilets and when i went to go and check on her, i overheard talking about me to someone on the phone. and when i explained to her that it was unexpected, she just said "yeh, ok, whateva, i dont give a ****" This is the second time that something like this has happened. what shall i do? to me it seems like she has no respect for me and certainly does not trust me.
Honestly is she worth the hassle of calling her a friend? I used to know people like this, people who enjoy drama and thrive on arguments. You'll be so much more happy getting rid of her. So my advice is phase her out. Don't even react or explain when she gets all moody, never apologise. Spend more time with other friends.
Are you a girl or a boy? If you're a boy, it could be a sign that maybe your best friend fancies you.. and it's just jealousy.
On the other hand, she could just be feeling insecure at the moment.
On the other hand, she could just be feeling insecure at the moment.
she may think you are leaving her out as shes mnt to be the one u arrive with and c at ur house often etc:
i have the same problem with my best friend but she dnt have a fit lol
i have the same problem with my best friend but she dnt have a fit lol
Did she post on TSR last week? There was a post of someone saying her friend visited another friend secretly and she was mad about it...
Is she Nikki from BB?
if shes going to be like that tell her fine and make a new best friend.
It might make her wake up,
if it doesnt tough, if she cant handle the fact you have other friends its not worth it
It might make her wake up,
if it doesnt tough, if she cant handle the fact you have other friends its not worth it
Just because she reacted that way doesn't mean to say she has a lack or respect for you or trust. Asking strangers on an internet forum is not going to get the answer you are looking for. You need to talk to her to find out what the problem is. It may depend on how much time you spent together in the past and how much time you spend together now? Maybe this friend has other problems going on but doesn't mean to snap. Maybe these other friends have betrayed her? Who knows - talk to her!
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My best friend has been getting so jealous about my other friends. she yelled at me because one of my friends gave me a surprise visit last week, and it was totally unexpected! my best friend accused me of "stabbing her in the back" but i dont understand what i did wrong. the girl just came to my house for literally 2 mins. all the girls (including my best friend) were going to a party together, and when my best friend saw me and this girl arrive at the venue at the same time, she literally threw a fit! she went to the toilets and when i went to go and check on her, i overheard talking about me to someone on the phone. and when i explained to her that it was unexpected, she just said "yeh, ok, whateva, i dont give a ****" This is the second time that something like this has happened. what shall i do? to me it seems like she has no respect for me and certainly does not trust me.
tell he to stop being so petty an jealous, your her best freind and she's yours and if she keeps getting so insecure about you having other freinds, she risks losing you as a friend altogether. the whole world doesn't revolve around her
sorry, but she sounds like a complete piece of work. talk to her and explain like you just have to us. maybe she'll see that her behaviour is out of order. i certainly hope she does. although, if she doesn't, you have to question her mindset. what kind of friend starts talking crap about you on the phone just because you have other friends? you don't want someone like that on your back.
These people forget she is your best friend for a reason and you must have a good friendship. Give her one last chance and see what the problem is. TSR causes trouble sometimes rather than help.
Oh dear...it's never nice when friends start getting moody and stroppy on you 
I don't really understand what caused her extreme reaction - only she will know herself, but a few good ideas have already been mentioned:
1) She is feeling left out - perhaps you're basically her only friend and she's terrified of losing you to your other friends. So in order to keep you, she wants to make you grovel a bit and make you say sorry. A bit like playing "hard to get". Unfortunately, she's going the wrong way about it - you're probably being put off her rather than liking her more, I would imagine?
2) She has negative feelings towards your other friend - if she doesn't like your friend, it would be even more galling for her to see you palling up with her.
3) She is trying to break away from you - I'm sorry to raise this issue, but sometimes girls try to break away from a friend by turning the friend against them. A girl might like to break away from a friend, but not know how to do it politely and nicely, so she might attempt to make it the other person's fault, as it were. So in this situation, she's accusing you of not being a nice friend, perhaps in order to break away from you. Of course this is only one idea - I'm sorry if this offends you in any way.
4) She is suffering from Pre-Menstrual Syndrome - I know that when I've got PMS, I'm a bit more crabby and irritable than usual. It could be that coming in with your friend would have mildly annoyed her normally, but with PMS coming on it turns into some big thing.
Again, just to reiterate that these are only ideas, but I hope they help in some way. If I were you now, I'd leave her to calm down a bit. Perhaps she's now feeling really embarrassed that she struck out like that, so the kindest thing may be not to mention it when you see her again. Of course, if she's still being stroppy or ignoring you or whatever, then that's her problem. Remember, you haven't done anything wrong - it's her who's in the wrong here. She's misjudged you, so you don't need to feel guilty. Just continue acting normally and generously towards her, and I'm sure she'll come round.
Good luck - PM me if you want to!
xxx
I don't really understand what caused her extreme reaction - only she will know herself, but a few good ideas have already been mentioned:
1) She is feeling left out - perhaps you're basically her only friend and she's terrified of losing you to your other friends. So in order to keep you, she wants to make you grovel a bit and make you say sorry. A bit like playing "hard to get". Unfortunately, she's going the wrong way about it - you're probably being put off her rather than liking her more, I would imagine?
2) She has negative feelings towards your other friend - if she doesn't like your friend, it would be even more galling for her to see you palling up with her.
3) She is trying to break away from you - I'm sorry to raise this issue, but sometimes girls try to break away from a friend by turning the friend against them. A girl might like to break away from a friend, but not know how to do it politely and nicely, so she might attempt to make it the other person's fault, as it were. So in this situation, she's accusing you of not being a nice friend, perhaps in order to break away from you. Of course this is only one idea - I'm sorry if this offends you in any way.
4) She is suffering from Pre-Menstrual Syndrome - I know that when I've got PMS, I'm a bit more crabby and irritable than usual. It could be that coming in with your friend would have mildly annoyed her normally, but with PMS coming on it turns into some big thing.
Again, just to reiterate that these are only ideas, but I hope they help in some way. If I were you now, I'd leave her to calm down a bit. Perhaps she's now feeling really embarrassed that she struck out like that, so the kindest thing may be not to mention it when you see her again. Of course, if she's still being stroppy or ignoring you or whatever, then that's her problem. Remember, you haven't done anything wrong - it's her who's in the wrong here. She's misjudged you, so you don't need to feel guilty. Just continue acting normally and generously towards her, and I'm sure she'll come round.
Good luck - PM me if you want to!
xxx
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