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Do you think homosexuality is in your genes or a preference? When I was 11 I thought I was gay, then I 'convinced' myself Im not and I started liking boys when I turned 16 and thought everything was sorted out and now Im 17 Im confused coz now I feel that I am being attracted (kinda) to boys but I want to BE with a girl. I think it might be coz since I was 11 I kept fantasising about being with another girl and nothing has happened so I its kinda like- I WANT some thing to happen -like Im wondering what it would be like. Im thinking, if I was to have a relationship with a girl, then maybe I would see that actually I dont like it and TOTALLY GO OFF GIRLS (thats coz right now, its kinda a physical attraction). But then again, i might be btter than I expect and I might want to choose that as my preference. But then again- I want children.
but then again, I have never had a relationship with a boy so it might just be because Im still so young.
I just thinking about girls soo much-I am so fascinated by them, but I dont know why coz I am in touch with my feminine side. I am soo girly so-WHY IS THIS HAPPENING?
I dunno. So much stuff goes on in my head. If I was to talk about it, I think I would see sense and I wouldnt be attracted to girls.
Maybe its coz I have never really trusted males (dad didnt live me with me when I was growing up) and my mum kinda told me that all men are this and that and the other-but she was kiddin and I really took her seriously) dunno
Someone try and hlp me out a little.Please?
but then again, I have never had a relationship with a boy so it might just be because Im still so young.I just thinking about girls soo much-I am so fascinated by them, but I dont know why coz I am in touch with my feminine side. I am soo girly so-WHY IS THIS HAPPENING?
I dunno. So much stuff goes on in my head. If I was to talk about it, I think I would see sense and I wouldnt be attracted to girls.
Maybe its coz I have never really trusted males (dad didnt live me with me when I was growing up) and my mum kinda told me that all men are this and that and the other-but she was kiddin and I really took her seriously) dunno
Someone try and hlp me out a little.Please?
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Glory
You ever though you might be bi-sexual, girls always think other girls would make good partners, because girls a more emotional and sensative. Whereas lads are just different, they provide different things to what a girl would provide.
Yeh-I thought about it. Dunno how that would work for me though lol
Being gay doesn't mean you have to conform to a stereotype. It's perfectly fine to be a lesbian and not butch with short hair, like it's fine to be gay (and male) and not wear pink and have limp wrists. I'm gay and anyone who sees me thinks I'm straight - why they think that I don't know, I don't act "straight". I act myself and I just happen not to be camp. So the girly thing is no problem. 
Also, why don't you try it out? Don't be scared of experimenting - that's what this age is for anyway. You will be much happier when you find out what you like and what you don't like and have a clear picture in your head of what's for you and what's not - it's not a choice at all. If you like girls you will like girls, and you can't change that, whether you want children or not. (Although there are plenty of options - adoption, artificial insemination, fostering...)
Personally, I'd say try it. Don't commit yourself to a relationship or anything. Just get rid of any stereotypes and reservations you may have, approach it with an open mind, and experiment, openly (even if you don't go telling all your friends) and honestly. Tell yourself you are happy with whatever you end up being - because that's what will happen when you find out. It's not easy for some people - I never went through the long arduous process of "am I or not!?", but I guess I'm lucky. Don't let it put you off though. You will be much happier knowing and accepting who you are than not knowing or accepting.
Edit: in answer to your first question, I don't think homosexuality is either. It's a tendency towards one sex or the other, or both. But I think it's something you grow up with - and it's not a preference or something you can change, but I wouldn't want to.
Also, why don't you try it out? Don't be scared of experimenting - that's what this age is for anyway. You will be much happier when you find out what you like and what you don't like and have a clear picture in your head of what's for you and what's not - it's not a choice at all. If you like girls you will like girls, and you can't change that, whether you want children or not. (Although there are plenty of options - adoption, artificial insemination, fostering...)Personally, I'd say try it. Don't commit yourself to a relationship or anything. Just get rid of any stereotypes and reservations you may have, approach it with an open mind, and experiment, openly (even if you don't go telling all your friends) and honestly. Tell yourself you are happy with whatever you end up being - because that's what will happen when you find out.
It's not easy for some people - I never went through the long arduous process of "am I or not!?", but I guess I'm lucky. Don't let it put you off though. You will be much happier knowing and accepting who you are than not knowing or accepting.Edit: in answer to your first question, I don't think homosexuality is either. It's a tendency towards one sex or the other, or both. But I think it's something you grow up with - and it's not a preference or something you can change, but I wouldn't want to.
Glory
You ever though you might be bi-sexual, girls always think other girls would make good partners, because girls a more emotional and sensative. Whereas lads are just different, they provide different things to what a girl would provide.
A guy can provide such comforts with a simple trip down their local R-store.
jasonmraz
A guy can provide such comforts with a simple trip down their local R-store.
What's an R-store?
(Why am I asking?)
generalebriety
What's an R-store?
(Why am I asking?)
(Why am I asking?)
What's an R-movie?
Also, I have always been a bit different, or I mean-wanted to do things differently to everyone else and when I realised that I was attracted to girls I thought it might be again because I want to be different. I do kinda feel like that but at the same time I thinnks its wrong, but then again I think it is easier for me to be gay than straight in the way that I can relate to girls better, but then again my closest friend is a boy (we think in the same way and there are HUNDREDS of coincidences with us), but then AGAIN its harder to be gay because it is not entirely logical and doesnt exactly work out smoothly.
I don't really have a clue what an R-movie is, because I'm in England. But I suppose I could have a guess from context.
tehjonny: how long did it take you to think that one up?
tehjonny: how long did it take you to think that one up?
Anonymous
Also, I have always been a bit different, or I mean-wanted to do things differently to everyone else and when I realised that I was attracted to girls I thought it might be again because I want to be different. I do kinda feel like that but at the same time I thinnks its wrong, but then again I think it is easier for me to be gay than straight in the way that I can relate to girls better, but then again my closest friend is a boy (we think in the same way and there are HUNDREDS of coincidences with us), but then AGAIN its harder to be gay because it is not entirely logical and doesnt exactly work out smoothly.
None of this is relevant. You can be gay and act exactly like a straight person. How exactly does a straight person act? (I'm hoping you're open-minded enough to realise everyone acts differently, and you're no exception.
) If you're gay, or bisexual, you will realise when you come to trying it out. That's the only way you'll ever find out - analysing your personality does nothing because everyone is different. Glory
R-store, R-movie... what the hell is the english equivlent?
Um... porn film?
And... porn... oh god, porn shop? I dunno. Not my cup of tea. "Adult video retailer"? generalebriety
None of this is relevant. You can be gay and act exactly like a straight person. How exactly does a straight person act? (I'm hoping you're open-minded enough to realise everyone acts differently, and you're no exception. ) If you're gay, or bisexual, you will realise when you come to trying it out. That's the only way you'll ever find out - analysing your personality does nothing because everyone is different.
) If you're gay, or bisexual, you will realise when you come to trying it out. That's the only way you'll ever find out - analysing your personality does nothing because everyone is different. ok
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Christ, talk about ungrateful.
generalebriety
You're welcome.
Christ, talk about ungrateful.
Christ, talk about ungrateful.
or a troller ensuring the continuation of their thread!
generalebriety
You're welcome.
Christ, talk about ungrateful.
Christ, talk about ungrateful.
I hope you're joking. I am grateful- I was thinking.
thats y boys confuse me
Anonymous
I hope you're joking. I am grateful- I was thinking.
thats y boys confuse me
thats y boys confuse me
It's not really a chat room, is it? If you're thinking don't type something till you have something to type. Having just typed two posts and received "ok", I think I was quite well placed to think you were being ungrateful.
Either way, think on and say something relevant. Make it look like those posts weren't wasted effort on my part.
perhaps u just aspire to these girls - can u actually imagine kissing them without it being kinda weird?
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