Wetting day & night

Sorry about previous empty thread... i posted this before and the anon didnt work so i wanted to post it them edit it after realising it was anon... but i couldnt because i didnt realise it didnt know who actually posted... well anyway not i cant delete the other one

Hello, sorry to people if there has already been a post on this subject but...

I have been bed wetting for all of my life. It changes from being bad to worse depending on how things are going/how much im drinking/how much it bothers me etc. I have been going to the nurse at the local hospital to try and get something done about it. Me and mum have been going since i was about 10 <about 6 years> on and off. I have tried sooo many methods to try and control it: i now own a bed wetting alarm (it rarely wakes me at all.... mostly all the house wakes apart from me... im a deep sleeper)/i have used nasal sprays (caused serious constipation)/ i have used drugs... cant remeber the mane (caused me to become very dehydrated)/ cut down my drinking (did nothing) etc etc etc. I have recently stopped going to see the nurse because i didnt see the point... nothing was working and i always dreaded going... she was so patronising and i nearly always felt that it was my fault! Have any other people had experience of night-time bed wetting? It had never really bothered me because i would wear discreet pads at night if i was sleeping out/i never told my friends because i never felt it was too important.

But i have recently started wetting during the day too. It is normally if i need to go to the toilet quite badly (not bursting)... i just cant seem to hold it in for any longer that 60mins (which seems quite long but in real life it's not.... but i realise lots of people cant hold it for longer than 10mins). Thankfully, i have never wetted at school (only slightly.... not the whole way). But last night i went for a meal with my mum a bunch of her work colleagues. We were on our way home and i started laughing at what was being said and i just wet myself slightly. I then laughed again about 20 secs later and i wet myself completely. I didnt even need the toilet!! I had to take my thoodie/top thingy off and walk around with it around my waist and hang my handbag in front of the top of my legs to disguise it. I am sure that some of the people realised... i felt soooo embarrased. And this is not the first time.... it has happened about 3 times before on days/nights out. I dont understand it. Have other people had experience of this?? Please talk to me about it... i am really worried! I am unsure on what to do next.... i dont know if i should tell my mum this soon after leaving the clinic. I had to put my trousers and pants in the wash smelling bad but i couldnt take them downstairs to put them in the washing machine because we had guests. I ended leaving them in the wash pile in my bedroom and im sure she noticed. Btw i am quite close to my mum and coudl explain this i think but it would be a difficult situation for her because i am not sure if she would know what to do without embarrasing me.

I dont think i would be able to cope with wearing incontinence pants 24/7... they are so visible and this only happens once in a while.

Please help... this with my serious weight problem (overweight) is just another thing to worry about.