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My mum and me

hay eveyone
well this has been going on for a while now, well its been happeneing when i was small, me and my mum get really mad at each other for on reason and we always end up n a fight, with me crying or her mumbling to my dad about me or saying things about how she never could do that when she was my age to her mum :frown:

i want to stop these argumnets because in her eyes i am a daughter who does not love her as "other" girls my age do and in my eyes shes a non understanding mum who keeps what she says right.
i justed wanted to ask people if i can get some suggestions on how to control my anger over her.
thanks n sorry for maing this a long post :smile:

Reply 1

Sazarina88

Is there no reason at all, however small, that you get angry at each other?

Have you ever tried telling her that you do love her and that you don't like getting angry? And how does your Dad stand on all this?

Next time you feel angry, try to think about the little that you will achieve by fighting with her and try to bite your tongue.

Good luck
Sarah x

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

well my dad supports her but he looks at the situation from both sides, i have told her lots of times that i dont want to get angry but that starts another argument with her, hummm can i have a suggestion a lil less painfull lol cause bitting my tongue is gona hurt

Reply 3

baby_emmy

I kinda have the same problem, i'm not at all girly and not as clever as other girls who i/she knows... Which often causes arguments, as to me it seems like she wishes i was more like them and often compares me to them. As immature as it sounds, whenever we argue i just leave the room so i don't get too angry at her and i just calm down - then i go back to her later and apologise (and she will too). Only started doing that within the past year but it has improved our relationship so much! So maybe it's worth a try?

-x-

Reply 4

Sazarina88

You do realise that biting your tongue doesn't actually mean physically biting your tongue?

Good suggestion made above about leaving room.

Do you spend much time together? Perhaps if you don't, you could try to see each other more and find something you both enjoy doing.

Sarah x

Reply 5

aleathiel

My mum and I have been like this for years, she puts it down to me being hormonal (now) but in the past we have had really bad fights :frown:

I guess our personalities clash sometimes and the fact that we dont get to spend so much time together cos a) my little brother gets more attention and they have a closer bond which I envy and b) My stepdad is ill which limits the ammount of mother daughter time we have :frown:

Reply 6

randum_nandom

humm y dont u tell her that what both of u are doing is just making you both upset and theres no point, y dont both off u kust write down on a paper on what you disagree on and solve it out like that rather than getting into a argument eveytime you talk about it