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Problems with taking the pill....

Ok, i know i have posted this on another forum titled "just another pregnancy question" but i want some advice based specifically on this situation, this has nothing to do with me thinking i was pregnant! lol.

ok, so basically, i've just had a pregnancy scare and i now want to go on the pill so that i can be more reassured next time and just for more protection really. but ive got three major problems with it:

1. My mum has scared me telling me that all of the girls in my family who are now married and trying to have children cant because they were on the pill.

I know i've said this before but it is still something that is worrying me. i want to have a family when i get married (obviously).

2. I don't know where to go!

I cant go to my GP because he is a close friend with my parents and i dont want them finding out. and im scared that if i even go to my local health care centre, i will be judged because the majority of nurses and pharmacists there are indian, which is a prob for me because indian people tend to judge younger girls in the community as we are not allowed to have sex before marriage (sorry if ive offended anyone). I don't want to be judged and i certainly don't want my parents finding out incase someone happens to know them and tells them.

3. What if i forget to take my pills?

I know this is a question i should be asking my GP but i feel uncomfortable in talking to him as he knows my parents. I don't want them finding out. And i can't get another GP because they will start questioning me and i won't have any answers. As some girls in this forum are on the pill, i'd really appreciate it if u can tell me how it works and how often you have to take it and what will happen if u forget. also, how do u ensure that u take it everyday?

I'd really appreciate some help, thank you so much!

Reply 1

CheesyBeans

I know how you feel about not wanting your parents to find out. I asked my mum about going on the pill because I used to get terrible period pains. My mum said she didn't think it was a good idea and also I didn't have a boyfriend at the time unlike my other friends who take the pill. I was paranoid about going to my family GP and also the clinic as it is near my house and I thought it might be too risky. However once I went to university I registered with the local doctors and get my pill from them.

If you really want to start on the pill maybe you should just go along to the clinic. You might be worried of the nurses judging you but at the end of the day it's your decision whether you have sex before marriage or not. At least you are prepared to use contraception.

I don't know what type of pill you would be prescribed but if you do miss a pill you take it as soon as you realise and also use extra contraception for 7 days. I guess it depends on the type of person you are as to whether you can ensure you'll take the pill everyday. I get quite forgetful but now taking the pill is just a daily thing I do without having to think much about, like brushing my teeth.

Reply 2

la fille danse

1. Your mum is wrong.

2. Go to a clinic.

3. Set an alarm on your phone. You have to take it once every 24 hours.

Reply 3

Lib

Anonymous

1. My mum has scared me telling me that all of the girls in my family who are now married and trying to have children cant because they were on the pill.

The Pill can cause a delay in the return of fertility. My mum planned on getting pregnant with me earlier than she did, but couldn't because her periods took a while to start regulating themselves when she came off the Pill. It does NOT cause infertility though. Either those girls in your family had conception problems and didn't know it BEFORE they started on the Pill, or they haven't been off it long enough.

Anonymous

2. I don't know where to go!

Go to the health center. There are worse in the world then being judged. You only need to see these people 2/3 times a year, so would them judging you really matter versus being protected from pregnancy?

Other option... look on NHS direct or similiar for family planning clinics in your area. Or find somewhere further afield that is near a bus stop or train station. If you're at university then go to their health centre.

Anonymous

3. What if i forget to take my pills?

You have a 12 hour window in which to take your pill. If you get up (or go to bed) at the same each day, do it then. Or set an alarm on your mobile for the same time each day to remind you. If you did forget then you'd have to use condoms (or other back-up) for 7 days after the missed pill.

If you think you'd be bad at remembering the Pill then ask about alternatives, such as the injection, the patch, the ring or the implant.

Anonymous

As some girls in this forum are on the pill, i'd really appreciate it if u can tell me how it works and how often you have to take it and what will happen if u forget. also, how do u ensure that u take it everyday?

Read this: http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/articles/article.aspx?articleId=415

Reply 4

abc137

Your GP will not tell your parents if you go on the pill... he can't, it's confidential. He can lose his job for it i think. The only reason a GP would pass on confidential information to another relevant person, would be on a 'need to know' basis - which means if you are at risk of harming yourself, harming others, or if there is something illegal involved, etc, only very serious situations - there's no way he would tell them you were on the pill.
If you think you would forget to take your pills if you were on it, why not look into alternatives such as the implant, injection, etc, perhaps they would be better for you if you think you would forget to take your pills.
By the way, if you really do feel uncomfortable talking to your GP about this then use the internet to search for GUM clinics and health centres in your area, they are often held on certain evenings in hospitals.
Hope that helps x

Reply 5

loopymeg

1) The pill can mean that it takes a bit longer than usual to become pregnant once you've come off it (although not always, my sister had nooo problem at all!)

2) Patient-Doctor confidentiality. He's not allowed to tell anybody about your business, just like xSweetheartx said. If you're still uncomfortable about going to your GP, then go to a clinic.

3) I have THE worst memory in the world, yet so far, I've managed to remember to take my pills at the right time every day for the past year. Slot it into your morning routine and it should become a natural thing.

Reply 6

bunthulhu

Just an idea - to avoid the issue of your parents finding out you could tell them you want to go on the Pill because you've heard it makes your periods lighter and yours are 'really REALLY painful :frown:

'

Perhaps? :biggrin:

Reply 7

Princess F

Basically to answer your questions:
1) The pill does reduce your fertility chances but not by much.
2) The doctor is not allowed to say anything to your mum as patient-doctor confidentiality rules are in place.
3) If you miss a pill it does not matter as long as you remember to take the next days one.
Hope this helps
x

Reply 8

extremelove

bunthulhu

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Perhaps? :biggrin:

thats what i told my mum, worked like a charm :smile:

its really nothing to be nervous about, everyone has given brilliant advice :smile:

Reply 9

Sheen

more adventurous

1. Your mum is wrong.

2. Go to a clinic.

3. Set an alarm on your phone. You have to take it once every 24 hours.

agreed.
id never remember to take mine on my own so i always set my phone for the same time.

Reply 10

loopymeg

Princess F

3) If you miss a pill it does not matter as long as you remember to take the next days one.

Well, I'm not sure about the other pills, but on mine you can take it up to 12 hours late and it's not a problem. However, if a pill is more than 12 hours late then you have to take the missed pill a.s.a.p. and use another contraceptive method (ie. condoms) for 7 days afterwards

Reply 11

allmyshoes

Anonymous

1. My mum has scared me telling me that all of the girls in my family who are now married and trying to have children cant because they were on the pill.

I know i've said this before but it is still something that is worrying me. i want to have a family when i get married (obviously).

2. I don't know where to go!

I cant go to my GP because he is a close friend with my parents and i dont want them finding out. and im scared that if i even go to my local health care centre, i will be judged because the majority of nurses and pharmacists there are indian, which is a prob for me because indian people tend to judge younger girls in the community as we are not allowed to have sex before marriage (sorry if ive offended anyone). I don't want to be judged and i certainly don't want my parents finding out incase someone happens to know them and tells them.

3. What if i forget to take my pills?

I know this is a question i should be asking my GP but i feel uncomfortable in talking to him as he knows my parents. I don't want them finding out. And i can't get another GP because they will start questioning me and i won't have any answers. As some girls in this forum are on the pill, i'd really appreciate it if u can tell me how it works and how often you have to take it and what will happen if u forget. also, how do u ensure that u take it everyday?

I'd really appreciate some help, thank you so much!

1. scare story. the pros far outway the cons for the pill.
2. GPs are bound by law and no matter how close yours is to your parents, they wont tell. my GP and my parents are very close, but they never told. if they did, they'd lose their job. et cetera.
3. get an every day pill. i used to have problems remembering to take it (because you have a 7 day break from them, when you have your period, i'd forget after the break!) if you're taking the pill every day (in the morning, say) then you wont forget.

don't be afraid to go to your GP. it's their job to be your doctor, not investigator. many many girls/women go on the pill. it's not really anyones business why you're doing it. i went on it at 14 due to heavy periods, i'm still on it 4 years later, mainly for that same reason due to my incredible knack at having no love life. :P

Reply 12

Talya

I didn't tell my mum for 1.5 years. It's not hard to hide if you choose not to tell her.

And just go to your normal doc. He is NOT allowed to say anything to your parents, if he does, you can lodge a complaint against him.

Reply 13

loopymeg

My sister took me to the Doctor to go on it, my mum was on holiday at the time. So in theory, my mum might never have known, but since I live in the middle of nowhere, I thought it would be best to tell her since I would need a lift to the Doc's whenever I needed more pills or checkup :rolleyes: