Just got dumped...

I'm not so great with dealing with rejection. He said that he'd gradually realised that a serious sexual relationship wasn't what he was after - this is after a year of a serious sexual relationship. We were friends for quite a while before it got sexual and he says he wants to go back to that. I mean, things had been rocky in our relationship, but I'd put that down to exam stress and us both going away on holiday a lot.

Every guy I've ever dated has dumped me pretty soon after I've started to get serious about him. We both know that this relationship was special, yet something must've been wrong. The only logical conclusion is that there's something wrong with me.

Just feeling a little like crap right now and could do with some support that doesn't come out of a vodka bottle/tub of ben and jerry's.

Reply 1

Bubblebee

15

Obviously any bloke who doesn't want to be with you is not worth agonizing over. Get out there, live life and stop thinking it's you who have the problem.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

That's all very well in theory, but when you've been that close to someone for that long it's bloody hard.

Doesn't help that he'd been feeling stuff wasn't quite right for a while but left it because I was daftly stressed about my A2s.

Reply 3

norelle

5

Anonymous

The only logical conclusion is that there's something wrong with me.

Nooo, that's not the logical conclusion! You've just had bad luck with men, that's all.

And if vodka, Ben&Jerry's or a combination of both makes you feel better, indulge yourself for a few days. It'll get better, I swear.

Reply 4

MC

1

Seems an easy way out. Maybe he's gay?

Reply 5

BlackHawk

17

Well there is obviously nothing wrong with you, otherwise they wouldn't have got together with you in the first place. To be honest, his reason sounds like an excuse to me. You're only young, and yes it hurts but there are plently of decent blookes out there. :smile:

Reply 6

BlackHawk

17

norelle

Nooo, that's not the logical conclusion! You've just had bad luck with men, that's all.

And if vodka, Ben&Jerry's or a combination of both makes you feel better, indulge yourself for a few days. It'll get better, I swear.

vodka ben and jerry smoothies?

Reply 7

MC

1

Have you considered that you might be getting too full on too soon? Thats enough to push a lot of guys away.

Reply 8

cinder

10

Awww what you need is a hug!
I know the feeling...don't go blaming yourself and getting yourself down. Just let it go, surround yourself with friends.
My advice to you would be not to regress back to that close friendship stage, if you still have feelings for him it'll just tear you apart.

The last time I was dumped I got so low, I just wanted to cry and hide away but it really doesn't help. You're free, enjoy it, go out and have as much fun as possible.

Someone better for you will come along I promise...they always do.

Reply 9

aleathiel

16

there is nothing wrong with you! perhaps you're at different stages right now and want different things out of a relationship..
Are you going to still stay friends or is it over completly?

:hugs:

Reply 10

cinder

10

BlackHawk

vodka ben and jerry smoothies?

and you my friend, are a bloody genuis!

Reply 11

norelle

5

BlackHawk

vodka ben and jerry smoothies?

If you're making, I'm drinking!

Reply 12

Hallie

I got dumped this morning so can I join you in newly found singledom? I've spent all day with friends (mainly guys) laughing and joking. I think he's blocked me but I still feel much better. I haven't cried yet but I'm going to allow myself tonight only to do so and then I'm going to just go with the flow. you're welcome to IM me or anything if you want some support and comfort. Have a hug!

Reply 13

darryl

13

You will feel better soon but its not there is anything wrong with you :smile:

Reply 14

Charl

1

Eat the ice-cream. It will make you feel better. You'll be okay soon. :hugs:

Reply 15

HearTheThunder

17

Probably the age. Most people don't wanna go 'serious', as you put it, at a student age. (That's if you are).

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

I am a student - I'm 18. But the thing is, we were serious, for a year. Then stuff started cooling off a tad, but we were both stressed so I assumed it was a blip. Then he's saying the intensity scared him - but why run scared after a year? It makes no sense.

I think we're going to stay mates though. We both want it and as a relationship our friendship was very separate from our sex life. Hopefully we'll be able to keep that side going - we're planning on hanging out tomorrow actually...

Basically every guy I've ever cared about has ditched me just when I've started (or in this case quite a while after I've started) to truely care about them and rely on them. I know I'm young and all that ****, but it seems to me that when I get really close to someone and trust them with absolutely everything they just push me away. It must be something about me.

Oh, and I left off the Ben and Jerry's as feel quite sick, tis a shame though, as that stuff's lush!

Reply 17

HearTheThunder

17

Anonymous

Then he's saying the intensity scared him - but why run scared after a year? It makes no sense.

Excuuuuuuuse.

Get on the case, detective.

Reply 18

cutcopy

Anonymous

I am a student - I'm 18. But the thing is, we were serious, for a year. Then stuff started cooling off a tad, but we were both stressed so I assumed it was a blip. Then he's saying the intensity scared him - but why run scared after a year? It makes no sense.

I think we're going to stay mates though. We both want it and as a relationship our friendship was very separate from our sex life. Hopefully we'll be able to keep that side going - we're planning on hanging out tomorrow actually...

Basically every guy I've ever cared about has ditched me just when I've started (or in this case quite a while after I've started) to truely care about them and rely on them. I know I'm young and all that ****, but it seems to me that when I get really close to someone and trust them with absolutely everything they just push me away. It must be something about me.

Oh, and I left off the Ben and Jerry's as feel quite sick, tis a shame though, as that stuff's lush!

Listen to that maximo park song.

"What happens when you lose everything? You just start again. Start all over again."

Slightly annoying typing them lyrics as they remind me of my ex. A very troubled girl.

Reply 19

HearTheThunder

17

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