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Girl Problem

Right well this will probably be long, complicated and boring.

Right well basically i used to work with this girl, and i have since left. We were really good friends, and still are. After i left, we've been 'out' a few times as friends. When i say out i mean to the cinema and stuff. Now I dunno but we've grown closer, and I cant work out whether theres anything there. I guess i like her and she may (or may not) like me. I mean we spend quite a lot of time together for just being friends (my m8s always think theres something going on when i tell them we're going to the cinema). Last week i was feeling down and txt her, and she was like what do u wana do. So we just met up on a spur of the moment thing, it was fun and made me think i guess.
Problem is, i know she's the shy type when it comes to guys, secondly theres no way of working out whether she likes me/letting her know i like her without messing up the friendship and thirdly, becuz we're such good friends, i see no way of moving further.

To add to the mix, she's in the year above. Basically what im saying is how do i find out if theres anything 'there' without doing anything to jeopardise our friendship - its weird i just like hanging out with her.

Sorry for the long post
You don't even know if you like her... how are we supposed to know if she likes you? :smile: Stay friends until it becomes obvious she does, and if it doesn't, leave it.
Ninja32
Right well this will probably be long, complicated and boring.

Right well basically i used to work with this girl, and i have since left. We were really good friends, and still are. After i left, we've been 'out' a few times as friends. When i say out i mean to the cinema and stuff. Now I dunno but we've grown closer, and I cant work out whether theres anything there. I guess i like her and she may (or may not) like me. I mean we spend quite a lot of time together for just being friends (my m8s always think theres something going on when i tell them we're going to the cinema). Last week i was feeling down and txt her, and she was like what do u wana do. So we just met up on a spur of the moment thing, it was fun and made me think i guess.
Problem is, i know she's the shy type when it comes to guys, secondly theres no way of working out whether she likes me/letting her know i like her without messing up the friendship and thirdly, becuz we're such good friends, i see no way of moving further.

To add to the mix, she's in the year above. Basically what im saying is how do i find out if theres anything 'there' without doing anything to jeopardise our friendship - its weird i just like hanging out with her.

Sorry for the long post


I had a similar experience with a girl in my year. It turned out she was using me.

By all means find out if she likes you in the way you like her, just be careful. If you wanna know, say something like, "People keep telling me there must be something going on between us two. You reckon there's anything in it?"

Good luck.
Reply 3
yeah I'd say the same as generalebriety- if you keep spending time with her and become even closer mates she may feel comfortable enough with you to tell you if she does like you,even if she is shy (cos I'm quite shy and that's the sort of thing I'd do). Hope this helps :smile:
Reply 4
hmm k thanks guys, was thinking ud say that. Im almost sure i like her....maybe just not man enough to do anything about it :P
"I guess I like her".

!? Agh. Stop. Seriously - if you don't know that, then you're clearly trying to grasp at a relationship for the pure sake of BEING in a relationship.
Reply 6
lol im really not - you know nothing about me. If i wanted a relationship i'd go get 1. Its just not everyday you find some1 you actually genuinely get on so well with, that you dont want your feelings to complicate things. So even by my own weird logic, i'm trying to stop myself from liking her, so that things dont get complicated.
Ninja32
lol im really not - you know nothing about me.


Then surely it's futile asking for help on a Student Forum, where people indeed know nothing about you.