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Approaching a girl in a club

Hello.

What is the best way to approach a girl in a club? I find it very difficult approaching a girl in a clubbing environment because a) approach her and be rejected or b) approach her and find that her BF comes from out of nowhere looking pissed off :rolleyes:

. Besides, I find it difficult because it is so hard to talk to anyone in a club without shouting "what???" 15 times.

Reply 1

PremiershipFootballer

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clubs arent the best places to pick up women because they are more ready to reject you. However, just get dancing and if you notice a girl checking you out, go over and dance with her. take it from there.

Reply 2

UpliftMof0

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PremiershipFootballer

clubs arent the best places to pick up women because they are more ready to reject you. However, just get dancing and if you notice a girl checking you out, go over and dance with her. take it from there.

best thing to do. IF you get an oppoerunity, like if the club has a quieter bar area, ask if you can buy her a drink; something short: shots etc. use the drink (asking her what she wants/likes/dislikes) to get talking and let conversation flow that way.

if its too noisy, you just gotta get your groove on and hope she is drunk enough to start holding onto you :wink:

Reply 3

Ting-Ting

You could just give her a quick compliment like a nice comment on her top or hair or she's a good dancer etc etc. Although if you are complimenting her top then don't stare at her chest.. (>_<)

Reply 4

PremiershipFootballer

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UpliftMof0

best thing to do. IF you get an oppoerunity, like if the club has a quieter bar area, ask if you can buy her a drink; something short: shots etc. use the drink (asking her what she wants/likes/dislikes) to get talking and let conversation flow that way.

if its too noisy, you just gotta get your groove on and hope she is drunk enough to start holding onto you :wink:

thats horrible advice :p:

whats the girl gonna think of the guy thats buying her shots? never buy a girl a drink, unless shes your girlfriend.

be fun, be cool, and if an oppurtunity comes up make it happen

Reply 5

Amnesia

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Clubs are not generally the easiest places to pick up girls. Don't use chat-up lines or make cold approaches on girls in clubs, unless you are very confident in your abilities. Go onto the dance floor with some friends and have some fun. Don't be one of those guys who looks like he is not having fun and or is standing nervously at the side worrying about how he is going to approach girls. Go on the dance floor have fun and if you get any good vibes off of any girls ie: smile or eye contact then dance with her and see how it goes. To increase your chances makesure you are well-dressed, be confident, have decent social proof and don't look like a **** when dancing.

Reply 6

robby88

1

tell her youre a footballer

Reply 7

cinder

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PremiershipFootballer

thats horrible advice :p:

whats the girl gonna think of the guy thats buying her shots? never buy a girl a drink, unless shes your girlfriend.

be fun, be cool, and if an oppurtunity comes up make it happen

I agree with you there. Girls like me tend to let guys buy them drinks then ditch them straight away...punishment for being so stupid. You're gonna get nowhere trying to get a girl drunk. Some guys just never learn this.

The best "chat up" I've had in a club was just a guy who came over and danced in a totally non sleazy, funny and friendly way (he was so cute...almost worked too but I'm taken) Don't go up a girl and start dancing too close...no touching, its too full on and you end up looking like a prat. Just go have fun with your mates.

Reply 8

Amnesia

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cinder

I agree with you there. Girls like me tend to let guys buy them drinks then ditch them straight away...punishment for being so stupid. You're gonna get nowhere trying to get a girl drunk.

Most guys don't do it to get girls drunk. They do it as a way to initiate a conversation or to approach a girl. But your answer is exactly the reason why I would always recommend that guys don't buy girls drinks at clubs or in bars, until you are certain that she is interested in you.

Reply 9

rocketboy86

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I thought guys would have realised that the girl may probably just bugger off right after the drink? I realised that and ended up having a big conversation with a girl once. So, you don't have to think 'drink' to get them talking.
If however, they ask you to buy them a drink - turn it round on them (they're planning to ditch you after) and be playful/teasing and def. don't buy the drink (til they're gone)! The money is better in your wallet unless she's genuine :smile:

Reply 10

1013

1

I would never accept a drink from a guy in a club unless I was interested, which honestly happens very rarely.
The truth is that girls do have their guard up when in clubs as most will be used to sleazy guys trying to hit on them. This is unfortunate for the decent guys but a fact nonetheless.
I would say that if you are going to approach her it's best to make an observational comment about the place in general rather than focussing on her, like, if you are standing at the bar, you could say something about how long it is taking to get served or you could make a comment about the music 'ah, I love this song, it reminds me of when i was....'. Making a comment about her looks will sound cheesy and like a pick up line.

Reply 11

Katmarauder

My friend recently told me about how a guy bought her and her friend a bottle of wine in a club, and they took it and disappeared while he was still paying. I know of some girls who actively fund their night out with this method.
Now I'd feel bad about doing that, but by the time I'm in the club I don't want any more alcohol even if it is free.
Don't do it unless you have enough money to fund a 10% success rate*

Last time I went out I was quite impressed with the guy who came over and just struck up conversation by asking where I was from (A good tactic since it invited the same question in return and he wasn't local, leading to more conversation.)
How you start off the conversation doesn't matter since everyone's drunk, as long as you can keep it up. Persevere if she can't hear you, if she's interested she'll keep trying.

However, I think the next lady was less impressed with how, after I said I had a boyfriend and I'd clarified that I wasn't interested in cheating on him, he immediately moved on to chatting her up. Try not to chat up girls who've just seen you chatting someone else up. No-one wants to know that they're second choice.

Be prepared for a low success rate; some girls will have boyfriends, some won't fancy you, but not many will judge you harshly for giving it a go.

Regarding dancing, dancing well will earn you bonus points, but dancing badly with a smile is usually OK too. Don't look too serious and don't dance provocatively unless you're clearly messing around :P

*Statistic made up on the spot, but it's probably an optimistic estimate.

Reply 12

Elusive Moose

1

And if you're rejected, don't go and spill beer all over the girl...

I dunno, I know I have my guard up in clubs because a lot of the time the guys come accross as quite sleazy (or maybe I just attract the wrong sort *le sigh*). I guess the best thing to do would be what other people have said- see if she shows an interest in you first. And start a conversation about something that isn't her, I'd be much more likely to talk back to someone who did that than said 'Nice top' or something. Plus there's not a lot you can say to comments like that- asking open ended questions is generally the best way to get someone talking, especially as most people are too 'polite' to tell you to go away or say something along the lines of 'none of your business' for a while, so you're less likely to end up with instant rejection.

Reply 13

Anonymous #2

approaching people in clubs is hard because the music's usually so loud, it's 100% based on how you look rather than on your personality because talking is pretty much impossible. And there are usually loads of hot people there who might be completely stupid but how are you supposed to tell if you can't talk to them? :smile:

Reply 14

cinder

10

Whoever neg repped me...you could have made it interesting! First neg rep and I don't even get a comment or a name, not impressive.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

robby88

tell her youre a footballer

Ironically, I have been told that I look like Nolberto Solano.

Reply 16

Zlatan

1

Ha ha, Nobby are you going to take that from a 21 year old who thinks he's a cartoon character?

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

Ron Stoppable

Despite his millions and healthy lifestyle, he hasn't sorted out his poor skin. Don't go around pretending to be him.

I've also been called David Blaine (this ironically) happened when I went out clubbing! Some random drunk guy, started going to all the girls in the club and started saying "look theres David Blaine" - that was a dodgy dodgy night.

I don't pretend to be Nobby, though I wouldn't mind having his millions!

Reply 18

Wonderboy Blue

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Anonymous

Hello.

What is the best way to approach a girl in a club? I find it very difficult approaching a girl in a clubbing environment because a) approach her and be rejected or b) approach her and find that her BF comes from out of nowhere looking pissed off :rolleyes:

. Besides, I find it difficult because it is so hard to talk to anyone in a club without shouting "what???" 15 times.

Just go up to her, say hi. Dance pathetically and then just start grinding, show her what you're workin with! lol.

Works for me. I was even touching her up too and she didn't mind...well she did but I didn't get a slap and we went on loads of dates and were together for six months. Then Spider-Man came lol :tongue:

Reply 19

AndySoOoOoN

Just get your nob out and wave it around infront of her.

Girls LOVE that.

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