What are the PEOPLE who go to private schools like, versus state schools? Watch

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I go to a private school and I did not notice any kind of segregation. There are kids from both low/medium/high income families that socialise everyday with each other. Personally, in my school there is little emphasise on your monetary value, not sure about other places.
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It completely depends on what part of the country you go to.
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Depends on the school, the area and their home life.

I was internally motivated for most of my school life. After doing well on the SEA (11+) (and a year of doing nothing due to bullying and quitting high school), I went to Queen's Royal College which is selective. I have never been privately educated.

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People who go to private schools are generally better socially, academically, professionally, and otherwise.
I guess there are always exceptions .
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My sister was with a girl who went to a really posh private school as her roomate in her first year. My sister's exact words about her were, "She's the *****iest and sluttiest girl I've ever come across."

I saw a picture of her and you could easily tell she's a spoilt brat. God knows how she got into the same uni as my sister.
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It's funny. While I hate the concept of private education, I was surprised to find that I was quite similar to the first privately educated person I'd met. We had the same work ethic, same drive to do well etc, but then she was also a bit of a snob, saying she'd 'never send her kids to a state school'.

I guess the reason why we have a similar work ethic is because her rich dad is paying for her education and it will be a waste of his money if she doesn't do well, while I'm trying my hardest to pull myself and my family out of poverty.
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(Original post by Kvothe the arcane)
Depends on the school, the area and their home life.



I guess there are always exceptions .
:lol: Swine. :cool:
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I think we're just the same as state school students. We have chavs (with money), brain boxes, snobs (they certainly exist in state sector too), many who have to work hard to get their grades (me included) and generally worry about our futures the same as everyone else. One thing which private schools do extraordinarily well is ensure we leave school assured and confident. Example. Being in a couple of weeks I'm sitting my driving test and it wasn't until my mum pointed out to me that anytime this crops up in conversation I've said "I'm passing my test" in however many weeks it was at the time. I'm anything but arrogant but this contrasts with a cousin also learning to drive who mentions her test in very negative language. For me this is what my folks have paid a fortune for.
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I went to a state primary and am now in Y11 of a private secondary! I'm not rich so I don't really have anyone to look down on. I've had the best of both worlds but I do think state schooling was a lot more laid back and more fun. I know that some people are stuck up but I think it depends on your upbringing as well as the school you go to.
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I went to a state primary, then private school for years 7 - 10, and then I've been in state ever since! (I'm in Year 12 atm) My family is comfortable, but definitely in no way rich at all.

Honestly, it's not super different. I think that going to an all-girls school helped me with my confidence a lot, and I loved the general atmosphere (everyone was friends and really kind to each other), and the general work ethic was a lot higher - or maybe the expectations were a lot higher? (it was really shocking if someone got a B) We didn't look down on state kids (our school was next to a state school) but we did look down on the other all-girls private school in our city! I will note that we were spoon-fed information, though, in contrast to state school where you often have to find things out for yourself. (I think I prefer having to find things out: good uni skills and all that!)

With state school, it's helped build my confidence in a very different way - a sort of street-smart, how to interact with people who won't be super polite to you automatically and will sometimes talk over you (there was this one student in my history class last year who made me cry and I just had no idea how to deal with him, because I'd never had to deal with someone being really rude to me before. That's a big downside of going to a private school, I think.). I'm a lot more confident when it comes to everyday life, now, whereas the private school confidence made me super comfortable with asking questions in class, going for essay competitions, etc. That kind of 'the world is your oyster, go grab its pearl' confidence, I guess.

When it comes to '*****iness' or whatever, there's honestly no difference. There was rumour-spreading at the private school I went to, and there's rumour-spreading at the state school I go to. Teens will be teens. But I will say that at state school the teachers are more willing to help you out after school; at private school that wasn't really done. Occasionally there would be a lunchtime session but otherwise you wouldn't see your teachers very much outside of class, which is very different to state school as far as I've experienced! I actually really like that my teachers here feel more supportive than my teachers at private school sometimes did. Lastly, state schools tend to be more supportive in general of 'high achievers' than private schools, because you're a shinier fish in a normal pond rather than a shiny fish in a pool full of other shiny fish (did that even make sense?). I've been able to get a lot of support in doing extra subjects (7 AS levels here I come) for free in my current school, where it would have easily cost like 300 at least at my old private school!

I definitely don't regret going to private school - it was a really great atmosphere, and I loved it - but I'm glad I'm in a state sixth form now, because it's giving me other really useful life skills that I wouldn't have gotten at a private school.
(sorry this ended up being so long!)
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(Original post by roarchika)
I went to a state primary, then private school for years 7 - 10, and then I've been in state ever since! (I'm in Year 12 atm) My family is comfortable, but definitely in no way rich at all.

Honestly, it's not super different. I think that going to an all-girls school helped me with my confidence a lot, and I loved the general atmosphere (everyone was friends and really kind to each other), and the general work ethic was a lot higher - or maybe the expectations were a lot higher? (it was really shocking if someone got a B) We didn't look down on state kids (our school was next to a state school) but we did look down on the other all-girls private school in our city! I will note that we were spoon-fed information, though, in contrast to state school where you often have to find things out for yourself. (I think I prefer having to find things out: good uni skills and all that!)

With state school, it's helped build my confidence in a very different way - a sort of street-smart, how to interact with people who won't be super polite to you automatically and will sometimes talk over you (there was this one student in my history class last year who made me cry and I just had no idea how to deal with him, because I'd never had to deal with someone being really rude to me before. That's a big downside of going to a private school, I think.). I'm a lot more confident when it comes to everyday life, now, whereas the private school confidence made me super comfortable with asking questions in class, going for essay competitions, etc. That kind of 'the world is your oyster, go grab its pearl' confidence, I guess.

When it comes to '*****iness' or whatever, there's honestly no difference. There was rumour-spreading at the private school I went to, and there's rumour-spreading at the state school I go to. Teens will be teens. But I will say that at state school the teachers are more willing to help you out after school; at private school that wasn't really done. Occasionally there would be a lunchtime session but otherwise you wouldn't see your teachers very much outside of class, which is very different to state school as far as I've experienced! I actually really like that my teachers here feel more supportive than my teachers at private school sometimes did. Lastly, state schools tend to be more supportive in general of 'high achievers' than private schools, because you're a shinier fish in a normal pond rather than a shiny fish in a pool full of other shiny fish (did that even make sense?). I've been able to get a lot of support in doing extra subjects (7 AS levels here I come) for free in my current school, where it would have easily cost like 300 at least at my old private school!

I definitely don't regret going to private school - it was a really great atmosphere, and I loved it - but I'm glad I'm in a state sixth form now, because it's giving me other really useful life skills that I wouldn't have gotten at a private school.
(sorry this ended up being so long!)

I completely agree with your opinions here!! I go to an all girls private school and will be moving back into the state sector for sixth form.
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(Original post by Nicsy)
I completely agree with your opinions here!! I go to an all girls private school and will be moving back into the state sector for sixth form.
I agree too. However I have been at an all girls private school for several years and it is undoubtedly an extremely *****y environment. I am consequently moving to a mixed school for sixth form.
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http://www.opinionpanel.co.uk/2016/0...ke-you-better/
An article I wrote on Private school! Would appreciate comments and feedback - positive or negative
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I was educated privately from nursery to GCSE level. Generally I found the environments comfortable and pleasant for an individual of my nature (I have aspergers) whilst subjects were taught with good enthusiasm and accuracy. Going to a state sixth form really opened my eyes on other schools but also the complacency which I had possessed when in a private school environment. Don't wish to sound condescending but in all honesty (apart from the few who do know their goals), the state lot were more misguided and extremely erratic from my experience in a wide range of scenarios..

But private isn't all a land of milk and honey. Socially, I found that and the few mistakes I made growing up caused individuals to have an embedded opinion of who I was which caused me extreme discomfort and eventually the mockery took a toll on my pubescent confidence :mad::mad:

Private summed up

PROS

-smaller and quieter working environment
-better cleanliness and hygiene inside buildings
-Perhaps more direction
-More intelligent and articluated peers

CONS

-MASSIVE hierarchial social system
-Some teachers see you effectively as walking £ signs
-Peers discriminate if others are deemed sufficiently different from rest or behaviour deemed otherwise...
-If you run up on hard times, the school will not be bothered and essentially kick you out until you can recover lost financial ground.
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(Original post by AspiringMedic8)
What sort of people are popular at private schools?
Just really nice friendly people.

Not people trying to be cool or get likes on fb or whatever
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(Original post by Tej98)
I was educated privately from nursery to GCSE level. Generally I found the environments comfortable and pleasant for an individual of my nature (I have aspergers) whilst subjects were taught with good enthusiasm and accuracy. Going to a state sixth form really opened my eyes on other schools but also the complacency which I had possessed when in a private school environment. Don't wish to sound condescending but in all honesty (apart from the few who do know their goals), the state lot were more misguided and extremely erratic from my experience in a wide range of scenarios..

But private isn't all a land of milk and honey. Socially, I found that and the few mistakes I made growing up caused individuals to have an embedded opinion of who I was which caused me extreme discomfort and eventually the mockery took a toll on my pubescent confidence :mad::mad:

Private summed up

PROS

-smaller and quieter working environment
-better cleanliness and hygiene inside buildings
-Perhaps more direction
-More intelligent and articluated peers

CONS

-MASSIVE hierarchial social system
-Some teachers see you effectively as walking £ signs
-Peers discriminate if others are deemed sufficiently different from rest or behaviour deemed otherwise...
-If you run up on hard times, the school will not be bothered and essentially kick you out until you can recover lost financial ground.
On your last con: I'm on a 95% bursary. They're actually incredibly supportive (gone through traumatic **** in last 2 years as well)

Although I suppose it depends where you go
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(Original post by RedSquirrels)
On your last con: I'm on a 95% bursary. They're actually incredibly supportive (gone through traumatic **** in last 2 years as well)

Although I suppose it depends where you go
Absolutely, some schools are extremely supportive! Scholarships are great opportunities especially for those struggling which makes them all the more worthwile. My con came merely from experience as it happened to people I knew as well as (unfortunately) myself for a short period of time which was difficult...
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My cousin who goes is naive of the world. He think everyone gets As and is always willing to work hard, listen and everyone has contacts in high places. Hr also couldn't belive 15 year olds had 'done the intercourse thingy' as he put it. His frienda are exactly the same. They're 17.
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That sounds like my cousin
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OK so to answer the title question:

This is purely based on my experiences at my school, so some may not agree but hey ho.

Like all people, there are ***** and there are also incredibly lovely people. The type of school they go has no bearing on this. Personally, I could not be happier where I am. Whenever there's the odd **** who is horrid to people, no one stands for it and puts him/her away pretty sharpish.

Despite this, there are of course stereotypes that are to some extent well founded. They tend to speak very nicely etc, but as some people attend with financial support, there is fantastic social integration. They also tend to be very industrious and hard working, in part due to inspirational teachers.... too tired to think now so that'll have to do
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Having attended both, I'd have to say that people from state schools do generally have the same amount of academic potential etc but there can be a certain stigma about enjoying learning. At a private school it is actually frowned upon to not study for a test and it is just a much more motivated kind of environment because I think that people feel a kind of duty to do well because they are either on a scholarship or their parents are forking out a HUGE amount of money for them to be there. In my experience people from state schools are also a lot less comfortable talking to adults and are much less confident. I think this maybe stems from the contrast in the amount of teacher contact and the fact that private schools generally try to develop the student as a whole rather than just churning them through exams. I do also think that state school pupils often have a bit of a chip in their shoulder when it comes to private schools. A lot of the comments that are perfectly acceptable from state school pupils towards private school pupils would cause an absolute storm if they were pointed in the other direction. For example, when my friends and I were 11 we were walking past a bus stop and a man said "posh c***s" as we walked past. I am not saying that that is the worst thing that could possibly happen but it wasn't particularly pleasant considering all that we had done to offend him was for our parents to pay for our education. Also at a private school there is usually much less risk of someone kicking off in class because everyone wants to be there to learn. Teacher pupil relations are often great because of the class sizes and most people are really close to their teachers
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I go to state school and know of or are friends with many people who go to private school and 99% of them are pretty much the same as state school students, one or two may have a posh voice or big house but that's it. However I do know of a couple of people at private schools that do act as though they are superior to everyone else but it's important to note that all of them went to state school first.
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