Hi. I really need some advice.
Okay so, background information. My girlfriend and I have been together since we were 15, and we're now 21. We don't argue much at all, and never have, but over the last 18 months or so, my feelings towards her have changed, and she doesn't know. She's currently half way through spending a year abroad in Europe.
I never thought I'd be in this situation. I still love her, naturally, but I see our relationship as friends rather than lovers. As I say, I've felt like this for sometime but I haven't told her as I didn't want her to be upset. She was really worried about going away to Europe, so I was supportive of her and
reassured her that everything would be alright. She is happy where she is but she often messages me to say she misses me, and that she loves me, and in truth, I can't honestly reply to say the same. It makes me feel so guilty because she has done absolutely nothing wrong, I've simply fallen out of love with her and I see no future for us.
I'm supposed to be going to see my girlfriend next month for a weekend, and the advice I have been given is to tell her how I feel there and then. The advice came from my mum and another trusted friend, who both noticed before my girlfriend went away that things are not right between us.
I know I need to be honest with her, but I know when I tell her, it will break her heart. I still care about her as a friend, so I don't want her to be any more upset than necessary. In the long term I know that it will be better for both of us, and it's eating away at me more and more each day. I need to tell her as gently as possible.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? And, what would you suggest I do?