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He can't love both it's 1 or the other, you cannot do anything unless he leaves his girlfriend, or rather i would not do anything till he does, if he even leaves her.
I wouldnt ever cheat - ever! Its something I absolutly hte the idea of etc etc
Carl1982
He can't love both it's 1 or the other, you cannot do anything unless he leaves his girlfriend, or rather i would not do anything till he does, if he even leaves her.
Cant love both, but love for one may be fading and the other he may fancy and think it would be great with....
I didnt break up with my ex because of the new girl. I broke up because it wasnt working, and I really wanted it to
beach_surf_babe
I don't think its just you...people are so nosy!
aah....
Anthonyjm71
Its hard to know what to do.I think its best to talk through it , you know that can only be with one person.
He still hasnt told the g/f yet, he decided that she would absolutly flip if she knew - especailly since she managed to blame her being drunk and her ignoring him on sat on him
not entirely sure how that one works...Carl1982
He can't love both it's 1 or the other, you cannot do anything unless he leaves his girlfriend, or rather i would not do anything till he does, if he even leaves her.
and I know I cant do a thing till he does - he just keeps putting it off - he hates confrontations of any type...
I did my best to tell him today, and he said that he couldnt rush this. And hes disappearing off on holiday tomorrow so slightly stitched...
Anonymous
and I know I cant do a thing till he does - he just keeps putting it off - he hates confrontations of any type...
well i guess give him an Ultimatum, to either leave his g/f or don't bother until he has left her.
I cant give ultimatums 
and I havent met his g/f all i know is her name and that she doesnt go to my school and that they met at a party...no idea how to get hold of her or anything...
and I havent met his g/f all i know is her name and that she doesnt go to my school and that they met at a party...no idea how to get hold of her or anything...
Please take my advice. I cannot stress enough the importance of letting him choose.
I have been through the same thing. I got dragged into this mess of a relationship where the guy told me he'd break up with his girlfriend but didn't and he still hasnt.
First he told me things weren't working out between then and that he wanted to get out of it ASAP. Then he told me it was hard to because he was so attached to her.
The summer was his ultimatum...And he still hasn't broken up with her. So I've told him that he can go to hell (in a nicer way).
This guy couldn't choose and it seems that neither can your guy.
My advice: Don't come near this guy before he breaks up with her.
I am serious. It is really hard to get out of something like this and I'm still paying for it.
I have been through the same thing. I got dragged into this mess of a relationship where the guy told me he'd break up with his girlfriend but didn't and he still hasnt.
First he told me things weren't working out between then and that he wanted to get out of it ASAP. Then he told me it was hard to because he was so attached to her.
The summer was his ultimatum...And he still hasn't broken up with her. So I've told him that he can go to hell (in a nicer way).
This guy couldn't choose and it seems that neither can your guy.
My advice: Don't come near this guy before he breaks up with her.
I am serious. It is really hard to get out of something like this and I'm still paying for it.
An update: He broke up with his girlfriend last week, I just got the text about it today. It wasnt anything to do with me, thankfully. I really dont know how I feel. I mean this is what I've dreamed about, and now its happened I cant get my head straight. Im happy that that hes single, and I have another chance with him, but Im sad that hes split, because it means that someones been hurt. I know it probably would have happened anyway but still.
So stupid...What I want happens and I dont know what to think, and I cant work out where I feel.
So stupid...What I want happens and I dont know what to think, and I cant work out where I feel. 
Well, then you have the following choices:
1) You can get in with him while he's still single, the consequences be damned. The advantage? You get what you want. The disadvantage? It probably won't last, because you're not actually sure what you want, so that would be rushing, and hence inadvisable.
2) You can decide that he's not for you, and stay well back. You should probably tell him that you're not looking for a relationship with him, so there's no problems with mixed signals. Again, the advantages of this is that it allows you time to assess how you really feel, and hence make any move you make in the future more certain.
3) You do neither, and talk to him about how you feel. Advantages: you get the air between you cleared, and you both know where you stand with each other. He can tell you how he feels about the situation, and you can work out a decision on whether to be together or not. You have to be clear and open and honest with him, though, otherwise the decision you make will be flawed. He has to be the same, too, but I gather you'd make sure of this, otherwise you wouldn't want to go out with him
. The disadvantages: if you don't reach an agreement straight away (and decisions like this are best when time is taken, I think) you leave the possibility of him going on to find someone else while you're trying to figure out how you feel.
I can't tell you which option to take, although I think taking your time when you feel indecisive and unsure is the best course of action. If your gut feeling says you're not sure, then stay away from relationships. I also think communication is important, so my advice is option #3. You may have other options, but from my outsider perspective, that's my read on the situation.
Hope it helps.
1) You can get in with him while he's still single, the consequences be damned. The advantage? You get what you want. The disadvantage? It probably won't last, because you're not actually sure what you want, so that would be rushing, and hence inadvisable.
2) You can decide that he's not for you, and stay well back. You should probably tell him that you're not looking for a relationship with him, so there's no problems with mixed signals. Again, the advantages of this is that it allows you time to assess how you really feel, and hence make any move you make in the future more certain.
3) You do neither, and talk to him about how you feel. Advantages: you get the air between you cleared, and you both know where you stand with each other. He can tell you how he feels about the situation, and you can work out a decision on whether to be together or not. You have to be clear and open and honest with him, though, otherwise the decision you make will be flawed. He has to be the same, too, but I gather you'd make sure of this, otherwise you wouldn't want to go out with him
. The disadvantages: if you don't reach an agreement straight away (and decisions like this are best when time is taken, I think) you leave the possibility of him going on to find someone else while you're trying to figure out how you feel. I can't tell you which option to take, although I think taking your time when you feel indecisive and unsure is the best course of action. If your gut feeling says you're not sure, then stay away from relationships. I also think communication is important, so my advice is option #3. You may have other options, but from my outsider perspective, that's my read on the situation.
Hope it helps
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BlackHawk
In my opinion it is impossible to truely love two people equally as romantic partners. From the sounds of it it sounds like a typical teenage romance and he may be getting feelings of love confused with a deep emotional connection.
Seeks, if you love your girlfriend then you'll stick by her and come out the other side.
Seeks, if you love your girlfriend then you'll stick by her and come out the other side.
I agree true.
Demon_AS
Well, then you have the following choices:
1) You can get in with him while he's still single, the consequences be damned. The advantage? You get what you want. The disadvantage? It probably won't last, because you're not actually sure what you want, so that would be rushing, and hence inadvisable.
2) You can decide that he's not for you, and stay well back. You should probably tell him that you're not looking for a relationship with him, so there's no problems with mixed signals. Again, the advantages of this is that it allows you time to assess how you really feel, and hence make any move you make in the future more certain.
3) You do neither, and talk to him about how you feel. Advantages: you get the air between you cleared, and you both know where you stand with each other. He can tell you how he feels about the situation, and you can work out a decision on whether to be together or not. You have to be clear and open and honest with him, though, otherwise the decision you make will be flawed. He has to be the same, too, but I gather you'd make sure of this, otherwise you wouldn't want to go out with him. The disadvantages: if you don't reach an agreement straight away (and decisions like this are best when time is taken, I think) you leave the possibility of him going on to find someone else while you're trying to figure out how you feel.
I can't tell you which option to take, although I think taking your time when you feel indecisive and unsure is the best course of action. If your gut feeling says you're not sure, then stay away from relationships. I also think communication is important, so my advice is option #3. You may have other options, but from my outsider perspective, that's my read on the situation.
Hope it helps.
1) You can get in with him while he's still single, the consequences be damned. The advantage? You get what you want. The disadvantage? It probably won't last, because you're not actually sure what you want, so that would be rushing, and hence inadvisable.
2) You can decide that he's not for you, and stay well back. You should probably tell him that you're not looking for a relationship with him, so there's no problems with mixed signals. Again, the advantages of this is that it allows you time to assess how you really feel, and hence make any move you make in the future more certain.
3) You do neither, and talk to him about how you feel. Advantages: you get the air between you cleared, and you both know where you stand with each other. He can tell you how he feels about the situation, and you can work out a decision on whether to be together or not. You have to be clear and open and honest with him, though, otherwise the decision you make will be flawed. He has to be the same, too, but I gather you'd make sure of this, otherwise you wouldn't want to go out with him
. The disadvantages: if you don't reach an agreement straight away (and decisions like this are best when time is taken, I think) you leave the possibility of him going on to find someone else while you're trying to figure out how you feel. I can't tell you which option to take, although I think taking your time when you feel indecisive and unsure is the best course of action. If your gut feeling says you're not sure, then stay away from relationships. I also think communication is important, so my advice is option #3. You may have other options, but from my outsider perspective, that's my read on the situation.
Hope it helps
.3 definatly sounds like the best plan of action. Thanks
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