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Anybody gone back with an Ex?

Hey, to put you in the picture it was a couple of years ago when i went out with this girl, and at the time she was from the same town but went to different secondary schools (coz she had probs at my school). So i got to know her outta school and we got on well but not seeing each other as much as we wanted the realtionship just ended and all contact was lost.

a couple of months ago I was out in brighton night clubbing for a mates bday, and we passed in the street, i didnt see her but she shouted at me and I jst waved and walked on. Then she found me in a night club later that night and started saying how she never found anyone like me. she was drunk, so was I, so i dimissed it and didnt really think bout her since.

We have been texting each ova for jst over a week now and things are ok, coz the realtionship ended in a mutual way. Thigs would be different this time if we gave it a go, as shes out working full time as a flight attendent/hostess and i will be at a local uni in sept.

Just wondeing if anybody has an experience of gettign back with ex's and if they dont mind sharing how they went. or any views on the situation.

Reply 1

BlackHawk

17

Yes, several times. Always ends in tears. Thing is, you split up with an ex for a reason in the first place.

Reply 2

Elusive Moose

1

I did, but our first relationship was a bit rubbish and it was more like 'taking a break' in between the two. I broke up with him in the July after four months and we got back together in the Decemeber. The first relationship was alright, but nothing particularly special, but there were still feelings left over when we broke up after four months. The second relationship was amazing, lasted for 18 months, and I don't regret getting back with him for a minute :smile:

I also think the 5 month gap did us the world of good as I grew up in that time and we ended up appreciating each other a lot more. So in my case it worked, though it was under slightly different circumstances- we saw each other a lot during the time we weren't together.

Reply 3

sweetface.

BlackHawk

Always ends in tears. Thing is, you split up with an ex for a reason in the first place.

Exactly, they are your ex for a reason. You don't really want to go back out with them again, it could bring back all those upsets you had before. I think your also rushing it, i think you two should just be firends.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Cheers for the replies.

I've always made it a rule not to date Ex's again. But she was my first proper girlfriend when we were 15/16 so that may ahve something to do with. As mentioned we didnt really break up over anything.

Thing is theres just something about her that makes me wanna see more her, TBH she aint got the nicest personality.

Reply 5

luceluce

I got back with my ex after over a year after we first split up, and it felt like the best decision, and we was both so happy together. It was great, and the time apart made us appreciate each other more. However, this relationship has since ended because he(the ex) hurt me a lot.

But everyones circumstances are different, I would still say its worth a go, even though I have ended up heartbroken, I'd rather know we gave it a go. If there are feelings still there it can work!

Hope it works out for you!

Reply 6

sweetface.

Anonymous

Cheers for the replies.

I've always made it a rule not to date Ex's again. But she was my first proper girlfriend when we were 15/16 so that may ahve something to do with. As mentioned we didnt really break up over anything.

Thing is theres just something about her that makes me wanna see more her, TBH she aint got the nicest personality.

If you feel that she has a nice personality, then you should just be firends with her. You have said it yourself, you have made a rule not to date ex's again. Just talk to her and tell her that you and her should just be firends.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

I suppose saying she aint got a very nice personality is a bit harsh, to be fair shes funny and makes/gets jokes but she can be well selfish and bitchy, which is why its so annoying shes on my mind alot.

Reply 8

Alewhey

BlackHawk

Yes, several times. Always ends in tears. Thing is, you split up with an ex for a reason in the first place.

This is true... but it may not always be a good reason. Especially when we are talking about teenagers, a couple who are in fact very good together and/or care about each other a lot are still very capable of splitting up for the stupidest of reasons. For example, one party letting down the other one, then both being too stubborn to apologise.

If this is the case then getting back together when both people are a little older and more mature might not actually be a bad thing. I've know a couple of happy couples who have done just that. Granted, they may not be together forever, but it doesn't necessarily mean getting back together was a bad move, does it?

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Good points, we're both older now, both have full time jobs and can both drive. plus we only live bout 5 mins apart by car. i also dont think she realised how good she had it with me before (not being big headed but im well anti cheating and am a decent bloke) and as she was saying she got messed around alot i think some of her relationships werent too kind to her. Am def not gonna rush in to anything though.

Reply 10

El Scotto

15

Anonymous

Hey, to put you in the picture it was a couple of years ago when i went out with this girl, and at the time she was from the same town but went to different secondary schools (coz she had probs at my school). So i got to know her outta school and we got on well but not seeing each other as much as we wanted the realtionship just ended and all contact was lost.

a couple of months ago I was out in brighton night clubbing for a mates bday, and we passed in the street, i didnt see her but she shouted at me and I jst waved and walked on. Then she found me in a night club later that night and started saying how she never found anyone like me. she was drunk, so was I, so i dimissed it and didnt really think bout her since.

We have been texting each ova for jst over a week now and things are ok, coz the realtionship ended in a mutual way. Thigs would be different this time if we gave it a go, as shes out working full time as a flight attendent/hostess and i will be at a local uni in sept.

Just wondeing if anybody has an experience of gettign back with ex's and if they dont mind sharing how they went. or any views on the situation.

Ex's are exs for a reason.....

Reply 11

Wonderboy Blue

1

BlackHawk

Yes, several times. Always ends in tears. Thing is, you split up with an ex for a reason in the first place.

Don't be such a pesimist bish!

I say give it a go. For one, she sounds at least quite attractive if she's an air hostess...plus sounds like she really likes you if she said she hasn't found anyone like you, even if she was drunk. Being drunk just inhibits you so all it means is that's how she really felt and she might not have told you if she was sober.

At least try it, you can be happy with each other for a little while - why not?

Reply 12

El Scotto

15

Wonderboy Blue

Don't be such a pesimist bish!

I say give it a go. For one, she sounds at least quite attractive if she's an air hostess...

Have you ever seen the thompson flybe air hostesses? they arnt so good!!

The best airhostesses are the ones in green that are comprised of the finest black girls, and my other favs are the ones who only dress in pink that are comprised of the finest blonde girls.

one day, I'll find out which flights they represent!! then I'll take a flight wherever their planes go!!

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

Yeh, she is pretty hot wonderboy blue, which is another factor why shes been on my mind alot. I think she has matured alot since we went out, we both have now we're 19, and i am leaning towards giving it another go.

she asked me to go on holiday together, and i said no, we could go and have gash time. so am well glad i declined that.

cheers for the replies and help.

Reply 14

tinkerbellejess

13

have done too many times, with the same person. Things rarely change from the last time though, and I'm glad I've got him out of my system!!!

Reply 15

Wonderboy Blue

1

I would go for it. Maybe a holiday together is rushing into things a bit but a few dates and stuff couldn't hurt. Depends on her schedule though I guess, maybe she's not in the country much.

Still, I'd give it a go. Beats being single, plus there are those rewards :wink:

Reply 16

Mutant

6

She does a lot of flights to spainsh islands and comes back the same day, and then she has a few days off, and i hurt my back at work on a construction site so have been given a week off (happy days). So we could prob spend a few days together.

A holiday would def not be good idea, even if she did suggest she could show me the real mile high club :wink:

Reply 17

tinkerbellejess

13

Wonderboy Blue

Still, I'd give it a go. Beats being single, plus there are those rewards :wink:

I'd rather be single than stuck in a deadend relationship

Reply 18

username47781

20

tinkerbellejess

have done too many times, with the same person. Things rarely change from the last time though, and I'm glad I've got him out of my system!!!

Yeah this it you go back they promise to change but they never do, i think also El Scotto's point is correct, they are an ex for a reason

Reply 19

Anonymous #2

I'll tell you how it went in a couple of months' time :rolleyes:

Broke up cus he didn't think he was mature enough and didn't wanna mess me around. Never quite managed cus we kept kissing etc. Now he's proposed and we're getting back together to see if we're the one for each other.

Go for it if you want to. You'll only regret it if you don't. :smile:

Anybody gone back with an Ex?

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