help! arguing with bf after a peaceful month

My relationship with my bf goes in phases - like every relationship, I guess - we have phases that are a couple months long, always (friendly ones, horny ones, deep-love ones, argumentative ones).The problem is that he always starts picking arguments, starts finding faults in our relationship after a period of peace and love. He just seems not to be comfortable with having a nearly-ideal relationship and comes up with vague imperfections that he needs to talk to me about. Then we talk, argue and enter a new argumentative stage. He often admits that he was wrong with whichever argument he made first, but what's done is done. It's a circle and I know he loves me, but I'd really love him to stop being worried about having a GOOD phase all the time.

Thanks xoxo

Reply 1

Laika

Sounds like a normal relationship to me.

Reply 2

fairycakes

hey...

i have to admit, i used to do that to my bf (i'd like to think i don't do it anymore)...

i think i just wanted things to be absolutely perfect, and also do be honest, i find arguing (little ones) makes you not take people for granted and i find it a bit boring if it's plain sailing all the time. sorry!!