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As a kid did you think you were good?
When you were a kid did you think you were better than everyone else? I used to as I used to beat every other kid at most things (or it seemed that way) I was the fastest in the school, no one could beat me at arm wrestling, was the only one who could climb to the top of a tree and do other dangerous things, I was really big headed!! It didn't help that I got a lot of praise and people were like 'omg you should be in the olympics' but now im just the total opposite lol Ive no confidence whatsoever and Ive realised that im average at most things, there are loads of better runners than me I can only get 15 secs at 100m (so how come I was so fast before
), I can't sing, I get really average grades, well below average -C, D at A level and have anxiety. Now I just wish I was better at things and unlike before my parents just ignore me most of the time.
Was anyone else like this and thought they were special until a certain age? How come I used to win everything when I was younger but now im just a waste of space? Im female btw lol
), I can't sing, I get really average grades, well below average -C, D at A level and have anxiety. Now I just wish I was better at things and unlike before my parents just ignore me most of the time.Was anyone else like this and thought they were special until a certain age? How come I used to win everything when I was younger but now im just a waste of space? Im female btw lol
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Nutter
For some reason or another, I think I led a rather deprived childhood...
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Why was that, my friend thinks that too her sister was always the favourite.
i had the same problem... i am still okay at somethings but whereas i used to be the best im no longer the best. I used to be the fastest too, and I am not the fastest at the 100 any more ;( I can do it in just under 12.5s though, so its still pretty fast, but its simply not good enough but hey, got to get on with life...
but hey, got to get on with life...
yeah, i used to be really really good at piano and win a lot of competitions, but then eventually i got worse, partly cos i got so nervous cos of the pressure for me to win, and i couldn't be bothered to practice anymore.
i agree with kizer, it is a part of growing up for some people...
and also, you are not a waste of space, at least you are realising that things are slipping, so you can do soemthing about it! to continue to be the best requires not just talent, but a lot of practise and hard work!
and what do you mean your parents ignore you?
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i agree with kizer, it is a part of growing up for some people...
and also, you are not a waste of space, at least you are realising that things are slipping, so you can do soemthing about it! to continue to be the best requires not just talent, but a lot of practise and hard work!
and what do you mean your parents ignore you?
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I reckon it's common for kids to develop massive egoes, especially if they live in a protected environment. The most obnoxious people I've ever met tended to be only children from a rich family who had always been "protected".
I know bullies are a terrible thing but to say that there shouldn't be someone to know you down a few pegs when you have a massive ego... is wrong.
Lack of self-awareness is a dangerous thing and can get you in trouble later in relationships and friendships with other people and in your career. If you think that you're a lot better than you actually are, you're not going to get anywhere in life.
I know bullies are a terrible thing but to say that there shouldn't be someone to know you down a few pegs when you have a massive ego... is wrong.
Lack of self-awareness is a dangerous thing and can get you in trouble later in relationships and friendships with other people and in your career. If you think that you're a lot better than you actually are, you're not going to get anywhere in life.
As a child, I was always quite clever but never really noticed it myself. I'd get good reports and was a bit of a "teacher's pet" but I guess it wasn't really a big deal at the time. I was quite shy but I wouldn't say I had no confidence.
As I got older I think I realised that teacher's respected me because I was clever but not big-headed. I like to think I'm quite clever now but because I don't brag about it I'm still respected for it.
(That was a bit waffly - lol - sorry!)
As I got older I think I realised that teacher's respected me because I was clever but not big-headed. I like to think I'm quite clever now but because I don't brag about it I'm still respected for it.
(That was a bit waffly - lol - sorry!)
Well I least I wasn't the only one I swear though I could make things happen! Like my family had this bowling competition when I was about 8/9 and I was the last bowler and it all depended on me to get a strike to win and I knew I could do it and told myself It was going to happen and I did it Now I can't knock more than 5 skittles down to save my life lol!!
Other things happened like this too but now im just a loser who I would say has below average talent at most things. Its weird how I got called the best badminton player ever at primary school and high school yet at the club I go to im the worst, unless everyone I knew before was useless at it.
To the person who said that this usually happenes to 'protected' kids in wealthy families (I was protected but not wealthy) Ive noticed a lot of poorer, deprived kids act like they are the best too, unless thats just to do with extremely low confidence or something.
I swear though I could make things happen! Like my family had this bowling competition when I was about 8/9 and I was the last bowler and it all depended on me to get a strike to win and I knew I could do it and told myself It was going to happen and I did it Now I can't knock more than 5 skittles down to save my life lol!!Other things happened like this too but now im just a loser who I would say has below average talent at most things. Its weird how I got called the best badminton player ever at primary school and high school yet at the club I go to im the worst, unless everyone I knew before was useless at it.
To the person who said that this usually happenes to 'protected' kids in wealthy families (I was protected but not wealthy) Ive noticed a lot of poorer, deprived kids act like they are the best too, unless thats just to do with extremely low confidence or something.
King Leigh
As a kid, I was pretty smart. People seemed to respect that and I was everyone's friend.
Then we hit year 7, and being smart was no longer cool, and now I'm no-one's friend.
Then we hit year 7, and being smart was no longer cool, and now I'm no-one's friend.
lol yea but all that will change back again once you reach proper adulthood with a decent job etc
Anonymous
Well I least I wasn't the only one I swear though I could make things happen! Like my family had this bowling competition when I was about 8/9 and I was the last bowler and it all depended on me to get a strike to win and I knew I could do it and told myself It was going to happen and I did it Now I can't knock more than 5 skittles down to save my life lol!!
Other things happened like this too but now im just a loser who I would say has below average talent at most things. Its weird how I got called the best badminton player ever at primary school and high school yet at the club I go to im the worst, unless everyone I knew before was useless at it.
To the person who said that this usually happenes to 'protected' kids in wealthy families (I was protected but not wealthy) Ive noticed a lot of poorer, deprived kids act like they are the best too, unless thats just to do with extremely low confidence or something.
I swear though I could make things happen! Like my family had this bowling competition when I was about 8/9 and I was the last bowler and it all depended on me to get a strike to win and I knew I could do it and told myself It was going to happen and I did it Now I can't knock more than 5 skittles down to save my life lol!!Other things happened like this too but now im just a loser who I would say has below average talent at most things. Its weird how I got called the best badminton player ever at primary school and high school yet at the club I go to im the worst, unless everyone I knew before was useless at it.
To the person who said that this usually happenes to 'protected' kids in wealthy families (I was protected but not wealthy) Ive noticed a lot of poorer, deprived kids act like they are the best too, unless thats just to do with extremely low confidence or something.
Yes, I agree with the "protected" part being more important than actually being rich. It's just slightly more common for wealthier kids to be in environments where their aptitudes and abilities are not put into question, where they're less bullied... maybe because of the school they're sent to.
I think this has less to do with your "performance" as a kid and more to do with your interpretation of it. There was this guy on my course (this was in Canada) and he would get Bs and be convinced he was a genius, made to do great things, when most of the class had an A or A+. He was this skinny and small guy who spent a lot of time in the gym. He had convinced himself he was incredibly strong. Anything he did moderately well, he believed he had done fantastically.
As a kid you probably didn't know how to relativise. Plus athletic abilities can change a lot over the years, especially once people go through puberty.
Mine has been the other way around, I used to have extremely low self esteem and feel I wouldn't be able to achieve everything, or make any friends (and I had very few friends in my childhood, and I remember in year 7 I would go to the teacher's classroom before the lesson and talk to the teacher instead of going with anyone else) and now I realise the true talents that I do have and have gained confidence, even if the underlying lack of self esteem does occasionally resurface.
Well maybe you just took it for granted. Or perhaps you had matured earlier which gave you the appearance of being better. Had it really of mattered then you should have practised and not just presume things should come easily
SamTheMan
Yes, I agree with the "protected" part being more important than actually being rich. It's just slightly more common for wealthier kids to be in environments where their aptitudes and abilities are not put into question, where they're less bullied... maybe because of the school they're sent to.
I think this has less to do with your "performance" as a kid and more to do with your interpretation of it. There was this guy on my course (this was in Canada) and he would get Bs and be convinced he was a genius, made to do great things, when most of the class had an A or A+. He was this skinny and small guy who spent a lot of time in the gym. He had convinced himself he was incredibly strong. Anything he did moderately well, he believed he had done fantastically.
As a kid you probably didn't know how to relativise. Plus athletic abilities can change a lot over the years, especially once people go through puberty.
I think this has less to do with your "performance" as a kid and more to do with your interpretation of it. There was this guy on my course (this was in Canada) and he would get Bs and be convinced he was a genius, made to do great things, when most of the class had an A or A+. He was this skinny and small guy who spent a lot of time in the gym. He had convinced himself he was incredibly strong. Anything he did moderately well, he believed he had done fantastically.
As a kid you probably didn't know how to relativise. Plus athletic abilities can change a lot over the years, especially once people go through puberty.
Couldn't the guy see that his results were not as good
Your probably right it may have had a lot to do with interpretation though it was other peoples interpretation as well as mine as I had a reputation for being the best at sport as I always got the best times etc, maybe I concentrated too much on the sports side and ignored my average academic results and my whole load of other faults and this lead to a big ego 
I never showed it though I was always really shy and quiet. So did others think this guy was all that or were you all calling him o the quietAnonymous
Couldn't the guy see that his results were not as good Your probably right it may have had a lot to do with interpretation though it was other peoples interpretation as well as mine as I had a reputation for being the best at sport as I always got the best times etc, maybe I concentrated too much on the sports side and ignored my average academic results and my whole load of other faults and this lead to a big ego I never showed it though I was always really shy and quiet. So did others think this guy was all that or were you all calling him o the quiet
Your probably right it may have had a lot to do with interpretation though it was other peoples interpretation as well as mine as I had a reputation for being the best at sport as I always got the best times etc, maybe I concentrated too much on the sports side and ignored my average academic results and my whole load of other faults and this lead to a big ego I never showed it though I was always really shy and quiet. So did others think this guy was all that or were you all calling him o the quietNo this guy was a bit of a joke which was a shame as he wasn't a bad guy. He just lacked self-awareness. Being too self-aware can mean you end up having low confidence but you need at least some self-awareness to get along with people.
Sports aren't everything... you were probably focusing on that and not realising that you weren't that great in other areas.
Noone can be "good" and that's what you learn when growing up. You have to know your strengths and your weaknesses (why do you think this is such an important question in HR interviews?). If you don't see both of them then you lack self-awareness and that's far more important than being good at everything...
Even if you're really good at sports, as time goes by you learn your limitations. How many kids think they're going to be professional footballers when they're young? They don't question their abilities but then they might realise they don't have the physical build to get into football, aren't fast enough, don't have the dexterity..
Same for academic ability. It's easy in high school to think you're amazing at physics for example, then once you get to uni, surrounded by other people who think the exact same thing about their abilities... you learn that you're not as great as you thought.
SamTheMan
No this guy was a bit of a joke which was a shame as he wasn't a bad guy. He just lacked self-awareness. Being too self-aware can mean you end up having low confidence but you need at least some self-awareness to get along with people.
Sports aren't everything... you were probably focusing on that and not realising that you weren't that great in other areas.
Noone can be "good" and that's what you learn when growing up. You have to know your strengths and your weaknesses (why do you think this is such an important question in HR interviews?). If you don't see both of them then you lack self-awareness and that's far more important than being good at everything...
Even if you're really good at sports, as time goes by you learn your limitations. How many kids think they're going to be professional footballers when they're young? They don't question their abilities but then they might realise they don't have the physical build to get into football, aren't fast enough, don't have the dexterity..
Same for academic ability. It's easy in high school to think you're amazing at physics for example, then once you get to uni, surrounded by other people who think the exact same thing about their abilities... you learn that you're not as great as you thought.
Sports aren't everything... you were probably focusing on that and not realising that you weren't that great in other areas.
Noone can be "good" and that's what you learn when growing up. You have to know your strengths and your weaknesses (why do you think this is such an important question in HR interviews?). If you don't see both of them then you lack self-awareness and that's far more important than being good at everything...
Even if you're really good at sports, as time goes by you learn your limitations. How many kids think they're going to be professional footballers when they're young? They don't question their abilities but then they might realise they don't have the physical build to get into football, aren't fast enough, don't have the dexterity..
Same for academic ability. It's easy in high school to think you're amazing at physics for example, then once you get to uni, surrounded by other people who think the exact same thing about their abilities... you learn that you're not as great as you thought.
Yeah your right about the self awareness I suppose its really important, my weakness was socialising since im quiet, I thought it didn't matter back then as all I thought about was how important it is to be healthy and good at sport when the truth is socialising is one of the most important skills ever, hardly anyone considers athletic ability to be important lol as its not. Hence the huge drop in self esteem
I remember this lad who was my friend actually saying that he could play for England if he trained when even me and other girls could tackle him he was really slow
He finally admitted he wasn't that good but now after a few months of playing guitar he is in a band and he's really serious and said 'its likely his band will be playing at arena's next year'. Maybe they will who knows but he has only been playing for a few months he is 17 I guess some people can't help being like this.
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