Can I "win" her back?

So about 2 weeks, a bit out of the blue, my gf broke up with me. She told me that she didn't have time for a relationship right now and she brought our 10 mth old relationship to a close. She's got a load of uni exams atm so I guess the stress she was under got too much and she decided to cut me out.

I'm gutted by this so much right now. I never wanted to be like a burden to her and made sure not to be. She told me she still wants to be friends but I said I didn't know whether I could really agree to that and she started crying. I told her I needed time to sort stuff out and couldn't really see her for a while. About 3 days later, I told her that I did want to be friends cos I still want her as a part of my life but it was going to be difficult cos I still really like her and will do for a while. She told me she was v happy to hear that and said she still likes me but that was why she had to say what she did.

Since then, i've tried to go "cold turkey" and not have any contact with her but its killing me. She's respected my wishes not to talk to me but I feel like I've ****ed up massively by trying to do that. I just remember how happy we were over Christmas when we met up and the fact she told me she still has feelings for me. I badly want to speak to her but don't want to cause drama for her right now with exams. The more time I don't speak to her though, the worse I feel.

If she says she still likes me, can I win her back? Will not talking to her worsen the chances of that happening and make her think I don't care or that she can do without me? I just don't know what to do.

Thanks for the advice. That's what I was thinking, leaving it until after the exams, but they don't finish until early Feb I think so until then its going to be a real hard slog not speaking to her.

I wish it was that easy but it's not. I'm trying that approach now and its killing me. I can't forget about her and I can't cut her out completely when we've got a mixed friendship group.

Thanks for the advice guys. Think I've already had the one that got away!

Still haven't spoke with her but its killing me. Only a week or so to go though.....Which has got me thinking. Instead of if I can win her back, how do I do it? I don't want to go in guns blazing looking desperate

Sorry to say, but how do you know she'll even want you back?
Tbh, I don't get why you didn't continue your relationship but scale back how much time you spend together/communicating. Due to the fact she broke up with you outright rather than this, it'd be a sign to me that the relationship is over.

Uni over love?**** that, she doesn't care enough.Would you ever do the same? Would you break up with someone because you had exams? If anything your partner should be there to comfort you about exams.Doesn't seem like she's worth it tbh.

Believe it or not, I did say something like that to her when breaking up but she said she did which was why she was doing it. I wouldn't do the same but I know what I was like when I had a set of exams like what she has now before we met. I wouldn't have dumped her but she probably would have dumped me as I could be unbearable with the stress I was under.

Thanks for all the help and tips on this. Really appreciate it. Bit of an update...

I broke cold turkey and txt her to say good luck with her exams this week and the generic "you'll do fine". She txt me back with to say thanks, she was nervous with them plus told me she hoped I was all good. Told her I was fine, re-assured her again and told her to let me know how they all go. Bog standard kinda stuff, nothing committal, all fairly neutral.

What I didn't expect was to feel all angry about this. (I know the 5 stages grief and all that...I've done them all now bar one, just not in the right order!)

I went out on Friday with my mates but left early cos 1 tried to be "bad cop", making me question why she broke up with me etc. But next day, all over FB, she'd apparently been out Friday too. I was a bit "wtf?" cos there she is telling me 3 weeks ago she doesn't have time for a relationship but she does have time to get pissed with her mates the weekend before an exam. I get people need stress relief, I know I did in same situation, and I know relationships are more than just seeing each other and its the expectation of seeing each other and plans etc, but I really can't square it all in my head.

On the one hand, I see the girl I pretty much loved and, looking back, the girl who I saw the stress of exams niggling away at; the one who I welcomed the new year in with, the one who bothered to txt me when I was away if only to tell me to enjoy myself and the one who I knew before the Christmas break, the girl who I described in the OP. On the other hand though, I see the girl who, without any consideration for me, broke us up to focus on exams, the girl who's going out all the time after telling me she wanted to cut that down this year; Basically, the girl who doesn't give a **** about me.

i dunno whether this is me reacting to what my friend said, questioning her reasons and all that, or whether I've just been ****ing kidding myself. My mates say I need to speak with one of her mates, sort it all out, but I'm not just going to txt them cos itll go back to her. Again, I dunno what to do.

Has she just lied to me to make it easier to break up? Why the hell has she decided to give me false hope if that's the case? I got told she didn't want to speak about the break up 2 wks ago by a mate and took it as a sign she was upset. Was it just perhaps she can't be arsed? This whole situation is so frustrating.