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I've identified myself as greysexual, ask me anything

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Original post by ChocoCoatedLemons
Why?



Then really, you shouldn't bother having sex at all. The only people who do that are some very, very strict religious people. People who don't belong to these religions simply don't do that.



Aren't cuddles like that? Me holding someone close to them? I wouldn't WANT to be the one to cuddle as I don't want to touch breasts.t cud

As long as I get cuddled I'll be fine without sex. but sometimes I feel like I want to have a son or a daughter...
Original post by Odd socks
Ah okay, I'll edit my quote so it's taken out :smile: I can see why just going with the flow works for you then :smile:

Yeah it helps a bit, but at the same time I don't want to get too caught up in labels :/


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Thanks, that's sweet of you. :tongue:

Yeah. I just don't think it's healthy. We should all just be us, we need to stop caring what everyone else thinks. I know that sounds idealistic but eventually, no one will label sexuality anymore, that's my belief.
Original post by MylittlePlusle
Aren't cuddles like that? Me holding someone close to them? I wouldn't WANT to be the one to cuddle as I don't want to touch breasts.t cud

As long as I get cuddled I'll be fine without sex. but sometimes I feel like I want to have a son or a daughter...


Wait, what? You want to be the cuddlor or the cuddlee?

You'll have to find someone with the exact same preferences as you. Most people in a relationship wanna **** at some point.

Adopt.
Original post by ChocoCoatedLemons
Wait, what? You want to be the cuddlor or the cuddlee?

You'll have to find someone with the exact same preferences as you. Most people in a relationship wanna **** at some point.

Adopt.

I would prefer to be the cuddlee (I knew there was a word for it!), I've always disliked the idea of a female's breasts touching me.

I understand that, I will most likely have sex just to make/keep her happy as her happiness will come first...
Original post by MylittlePlusle
I would prefer to be the cuddlee (I knew there was a word for it!), I've always disliked the idea of a female's breasts touching me.

I understand that, I will most likely have sex just to make/keep her happy as her happiness will come first...


You're welcome for the word. :tongue:

You need therapy. Seriously. It's not healthy to have that much dislike if you're not gay.

Don't have sex to keep someone else happy. That's a **** reason to do it and if you couldn't get it up it wouldn't work anyway.
Original post by ChocoCoatedLemons
You're welcome for the word. :tongue:

You need therapy. Seriously. It's not healthy to have that much dislike if you're not gay.

Don't have sex to keep someone else happy. That's a **** reason to do it and if you couldn't get it up it wouldn't work anyway.


There's also the chance I might feel sexual attraction to the female.
Why else would I have sex with someone, I would just want her happy. I don't like saying no to people anyway.

I'm not antisexual. I did technically used to be sexual when I was younger but it disappeared.
You simply have a low sex drive, and possibly a hormone deficiency.
Original post by scrotgrot
You simply have a low sex drive, and possibly a hormone deficiency.

Isn't there a grey area with having a low sex drive/asexuality? I've been told that I could have low levels of the male sex hormone.
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Original post by ChocoCoatedLemons
Then really, you shouldn't bother having sex at all. The only people who do that are some very, very strict religious people. People who don't belong to these religions simply don't do that.

For someone who, as far as I have been able to tell, likes to think they're progressive, you're incredibly dismissive and willing to tell other people what they should or shouldn't do or feel, simply because they express something you haven't come across before.
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Original post by alow
It's a bit sad. Why can't people just be who they are without all of these (frankly ridiculous) labels? I can't remember there being this many a few years ago...


Labels can be a big a part of people's identities when they don't fall into what's assumed to be the norm, as I assume you do because you've never really thought this through. It takes a lot of thinking to figure things like this out, and it can help a lot to put a name to things, because it allows you to find other people who are the same or at least similar. Obviously that's not an issue when you're in the majority of a particular group, but it's not like the labels are hurting anyone, are they? They're words. It's like getting upset about their being too many Pantone colours. :frown:
I'm all for identifying yourself however you want, but tbh I'm a little confused...if you're greysexual then if means you have sexual desires of some kind. But what are they? You say you're straight and yet you're disgusted by women's bodys? Are you only aroused by porn?
Basically, what turns you on? I can't see any evidence from your side that says you get turned on by anything....which would mean you are completely asexual.
greysexual lol is such a label necessary?
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Who even cares about your sexual orientation? (if you even have one)
It's absolutely none of our business to know when you pleasure yourself, so what enticed you to create this thread? This just seems like a cry for attention if you were to ask me...
"cool wow he is so, is he greysexual wow cool so! So unique so!!!"
Original post by alow
It's a bit sad. Why can't people just be who they are without all of these (frankly ridiculous) labels? I can't remember there being this many a few years ago...


Greysexual is so indie/hipster all of a sudden, haven't you heard?

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Original post by buchanan700
I'm all for identifying yourself however you want, but tbh I'm a little confused...if you're greysexual then if means you have sexual desires of some kind. But what are they? You say you're straight and yet you're disgusted by women's bodys? Are you only aroused by porn?
Basically, what turns you on? I can't see any evidence from your side that says you get turned on by anything....which would mean you are completely asexual.


Yes, right now I don't like the female body... I do not watch pron, I see no point in it really, I used to watch it when I was 11-14/15, I guess my testosterone levels were at its peak when I was 14/15, after that it dropped.

I did get sexually aroused when I was 14 however, but after that nothing really. I've yet to find someone sexually appealing like.. I would want to have sex with them, or I keep thinking about them sexually, or I just have to masturbate to them. I do however get crushes on females of course, I do find them attractive.
Original post by MylittlePlusle
Yes, right now I don't like the female body... I do not watch pron, I see no point in it really, I used to watch it when I was 11-14/15, I guess my testosterone levels were at its peak when I was 14/15, after that it dropped.

I did get sexually aroused when I was 14 however, but after that nothing really. I've yet to find someone sexually appealing like.. I would want to have sex with them, or I keep thinking about them sexually, or I just have to masturbate to them. I do however get crushes on females of course, I do find them attractive.


So again, and really really not trying to be harsh, but if it's been that long and zero sexual attraction surely you are describing asexuality and not 'greysexuality? There is a real difference between finding someone attractive/ having crushes and wanting to have sex with them.
Original post by buchanan700
So again, and really really not trying to be harsh, but if it's been that long and zero sexual attraction surely you are describing asexuality and not 'greysexuality? There is a real difference between finding someone attractive/ having crushes and wanting to have sex with them.


I don't know really, the fact that I masturbated to a female when I was younger means I must be able to have sexual feelings/have sexual urges. I know that, I get crushes on females, but I don't think about sex with them, my goal is to just get them in my arms and cuddle. I only like one female at a time of course.
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Original post by MylittlePlusle
I don't know really, the fact that I masturbated to a female when I was younger means I must be able to have sexual feelings/have sexual urges.

Some believe that sexuality is fluid, so you can become asexual. In which case you could label yourself as that. If you're more comfortable with Grey-A then that's fine too, but seeing as for all intents and purposes at the moment you're Ace you might as well identify yourself to others as such- it seems far simpler. :smile:

Edit: It would appear you're a sex-repulsed demi. :dontknow:
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Original post by MylittlePlusle
Well done for making me laugh...

To answer your question, there could be many, I do not know how many.


:wink:
Isnt this metrosexual?

how old are you?

I'd say give it some time, you will grow out of it. It's important that you are social even though you are asexual. i am pretty sure its a phase.

today at waitrose, i saw this man in knee-length coat, beard, thin, long thinning hair, skinny, boots, buying a ton of cats food. man, he is asexual and asocial. he smells. you dont want to be like that.

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