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"Month"iversaries!

Basically x month anniversaries in a relationship.. what do you think of them?

My bf and i have been together coming up to 8 months, and so far, on our x month anniversaries (1 month, 2 months etc), we've text eachother a nice message and spent the day together, and went out for a meal (only pizza express etc, nothing real fancy) for our 3 and 6 month anniversaries. I think 3 and 6 are more milestones, and seeing eachother on our other anniversaries, or indeed going for a meal, isn't anything out of the ordinary for us anyway.

I've got 2 friends, who have both been in relationships for roughly the same length of time, and 1 makes such a huge deal out of their "monthiversaries", ie they go out for a proper meal (don't do this any other time though), buy eachother "i love you" bears, cards etc, and he didn't want my friend to go on holiday the week we've planned to because she'll miss their 8 month anniversary. now, i think this is excessive. he's very protective of her, possessive and a bit sickly romantic with it, like he has to make a show or big deal of things.

do you see the point? 8 months isnt a particular milestone is it? do you think its necessary to go overboard, or even to do anything at all?
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Reply 1
I'd only ever really do something on 6 months (maybe) and a year. Then every year thereafter.
Reply 2
prettyblueeyes
1 makes such a huge deal out of their "monthiversaries", ie they go out for a proper meal (don't do this any other time though), buy eachother "i love you" bears, cards etc


Sickening.

I'm not sure what love is, but most signs point to a deep emotional connection, something that is hardly likely to be fully expressed with an "I love you" bear. These are the sort of people that will probably sign into MSN to change their name to "I love [partner's name]" and think that it counts as a genuine indicator of affection.

If she's celebrating monthly anniversaries, that's probably because there won't be all that many of them. :smile:
Reply 3
In some countries, they call it a "monthsary".
prettyblueeyes
Basically x month anniversaries in a relationship.. what do you think of them?

My bf and i have been together coming up to 8 months, and so far, on our x month anniversaries (1 month, 2 months etc), we've text eachother a nice message and spent the day together, and went out for a meal (only pizza express etc, nothing real fancy) for our 3 and 6 month anniversaries. I think 3 and 6 are more milestones, and seeing eachother on our other anniversaries, or indeed going for a meal, isn't anything out of the ordinary for us anyway.

I've got 2 friends, who have both been in relationships for roughly the same length of time, and 1 makes such a huge deal out of their "monthiversaries", ie they go out for a proper meal (don't do this any other time though), buy eachother "i love you" bears, cards etc, and he didn't want my friend to go on holiday the week we've planned to because she'll miss their 8 month anniversary. now, i think this is excessive. he's very protective of her, possessive and a bit sickly romantic with it, like he has to make a show or big deal of things.

do you see the point? 8 months isnt a particular milestone is it? do you think its necessary to go overboard, or even to do anything at all?
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Well to be honest my 3 year anniversary in October is more of a milestone than 3 months, but me and my gf tend to celebrate every 6 months kinda thing.. so, 6mnths, 1yr etc...

i think every month is a bit too much to be honest!
^Exactly.

A month isn't exactly enough time to start going too over the top.

And after about 6 months they'd probably be sick of having to spend 1 in 4 weekends looking for some crappy 'I love you' bear or whatever they buy for each other.
Reply 6
I don't think 8 months is very important. Maybe just see each other or send a nice message or something but I don't think there is a need to spend money or anything like that. I would consider the only important ones to be 6 months, 1 year, 2 years, etc!! Or maybe every 6 months - but I say that because me and my boyfriend's half-year anniversaries fall on valentines day, too :smile:
Biffy Clyro
^Exactly.

A month isn't exactly enough time to start going too over the top.

And after about 6 months they'd probably be sick of having to spend 1 in 4 weekends looking for some crappy 'I love you' bear or whatever they buy for each other.


lol:P think of the money you'd spend on all those bears! - how many different ones are there? or are they all the same?
Reply 8
I don't think there's anything wrong with reflecting on it and thinking how nice it is that you're together, however I think when people start buying each other anniversary cards and presents for monthly dates it's a bit weird.
tom_pinnock54
lol:P think of the money you'd spend on all those bears! - how many different ones are there? or are they all the same?


I imagine there are thousands. Companies are quick off the mark to exploit the sorry chaps that believe their girlfriends will appreciate recieving a bear monthly.

They probably even have ones like: 'I love you, Sorry I slept with your sister'.
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I think it's sweet. At the start of my current relationship, we made a big fuss of 'monthiversaries' but it was an LDR at that point, so it was kind of special when we got to spend a weeked together anyway. 18 months on, we still text each other nice messages, and generally do something nice, go out for a meal, or get a video and a pizza and a bottle of wine and spend the evening in. We've never done presents though, maybe a bit OTT! As for not wanting to go away over an 8 month anniversary - yeah, maybe that's a little bit too far. Still, its all quite romantic :smile:
Biffy Clyro
I imagine there are thousands. Companies are quick off the mark to exploit the sorry chaps that believe their girlfriends will appreciate recieving a bear monthly.

They probably even have ones like: 'I love you, Sorry I slept with your sister'.


lol! that's fab! and others like, "I love you, innit?!" for the chavs that have succumbed to a chavette in a bright white shell suit!
ive been with my bf for nearly 3 years but we still send a nice text on each month anniversary, but thats it. only the 1st and 2nd year did we do somethin special.

but i suppose people in early relationships are sickly sometimes and go over board, honeymoon phase perhaps? but yeah i your point, 8 months is quite strangeand every month would be too much for me personally- big milestones lose their magic!

But at the same time, why not? one day in the month to celebrate their relationship and spoil the other? better than none at all!
Reply 14
miss liverpool fc
ive been with my bf for nearly 3 years but we still send a nice text on each month anniversary, but thats it. only the 1st and 2nd year did we do somethin special.

but i suppose people in early relationships are sickly sometimes and go over board, honeymoon phase perhaps? but yeah i your point, 8 months is quite strangeand every month would be too much for me personally- big milestones lose their magic!

But at the same time, why not? one day in the month to celebrate their relationship and spoil the other? better than none at all!


Why should it have to be that day though? Just have a good relationship generally and you don't need to be reminded every month with presents or whatever, as you just KNOW it's good anyway.
Sure, I'd drop it into conversation if I remembered the date on that particular day "Oh, by the way, happy 8 month anniversary"... but I wouldn't expect a card or anything! I'd agree - 6 and 12 months are worth celebrating properly. :biggrin:
Oh yes, you're right about the changing MSN name to .. "I love xxxxx", but the thing is with them, its all him, not her! Oh and yes, bears, roses, loveheart sweets spelling out her name, chocolates from thorntons with her name and his iced on them, photo frames of them, more teddies.. she has like 6 me-to-you/tatty teddies.. whilst they're nice, ONE IS ENOUGH! You may be able to tell i'm not all that keen on my friends bf lol. thanks for your thoughts everyone x
tom_pinnock54
lol! that's fab! and others like, "I love you, innit?!" for the chavs that have succumbed to a chavette in a bright white shell suit!


Blatantly. They'd probably be the cheap versions down the market.

I can see it now: 'Buy a genuine Burberry bear for your Biatch.'
Reply 18
We do day-versaries :biggrin: If we're doing something nice, we pretend we're celebrating that particular day of a relationship.

Yes, we are sad, thank you!

I think it's nice to celebrate month-versaries. Though I think time passes quicker if you do :frown:
oh and i agree, its nice to spoil eachother a little, but he somehow must think some tacky teddy and pizza hut one day a month make up for a month of not doing anything like that, as they don't really treat eachother or go out for meals any other time. i just find it odd! as i said in my original post, for my bf and i its nothing out of the ordinary, so dont class it as being ott, but i can't stand all the showy effort he likes to make! sorry for the ranting about him lol x