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accidental pregnancy

hiya everyone, i've found myself in a difficult position as i have just found out that i am pregnant. i am 18 and going to uni in a couple of months and dont really want to be tied down to a child. one day i would love to have children but not at the moment. has anyone got any advice on abortion?

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Obviously none of us are qualified to make any advice. but going to see your parents or the "father" of the child. And talking to a doctor might give you some ideas.

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i think she might also want advice thought of people her own age who might be/ have been in a similar situation, surely that advice is as valid as a doctors/parents.

Well I have a friend who kept a baby from an accidental pregnancy and one who had an abortion. Both have some regrets but neither would change where they are now in life. It really lies with you and whats best your you in your opinion. Noone else knows you or your personality or how you would best cope with the situation.
How pregnant are you if you dont mind me asking?
Also is the father supportive?
It could be possible (although difficult) to go to university with a baby have you looked seriously at your options?

If you have genuinely thought it through and know 100% you want an abortion then you need to see a doctor asap. There are clinics you can ring up for advice also and good websites on abortion options such as the brooke advisory site.

i dont like to say this, and i hope you wont base your decision on what i say (im sure you wont) but i would have an abortion if i was in your shoes. think of the opportunity you have in uni, i dont think you can throw that away. also, if you arent in a decent situation at the mo to have a baby (im not saying you arent, just suggesting...) it may not be a desirable life for a baby. well, thats what i'd do, i guess you just have to make a decision on your own : \

lottielou

hiya everyone, i've found myself in a difficult position as i have just found out that i am pregnant. i am 18 and going to uni in a couple of months and dont really want to be tied down to a child. one day i would love to have children but not at the moment. has anyone got any advice on abortion?

How far into the pregnancy are you?

I had a scare when I first started going out with my bf, but now I've been with my bf for 3 years I know I couldn't have an abortion if I became pregnant . My mind races thinking things like: what if he died and I always regretted not having had the baby.

lottielou

hiya everyone, i've found myself in a difficult position as i have just found out that i am pregnant. i am 18 and going to uni in a couple of months and dont really want to be tied down to a child. one day i would love to have children but not at the moment. has anyone got any advice on abortion?

It is YOUR decision. Dont let other people push you into what you should do or how, do what you think will be best for you. If you decide to do an abortion then go talk to a doctor as soon as you can. I thinkit will be easiest for you to make up your mind and then go through with whatever decision you make. The longer you think about it the more difficult it is going to be to make a decision. And remember, do what YOU think is the best.

Sorry, didn't know it was possible to get accidentally pregnant. :rolleyes:

:rolleyes:

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Sorry, didn't know it was possible to get accidentally pregnant. :rolleyes:

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You need to talk to someone. A clinic or your doctor should be able to advise you what is available in your area.

Counselling is about you finding out how you realy feel and help you make a decision,you could start with this site. http://www.mariestopes.org.uk/uk/abortion-online-couns.htm

rIcHrD

Sorry, didn't know it was possible to get accidentally pregnant. :rolleyes:

:rolleyes:

Nah, it is possible to get "accidentally pregnant" although with all the things available today (i.e. the pill, after-morning pill, contraception), it's pretty careless (if not stupid) to end up in that situation! Especially if you're going off to uni in a few months!

Anyway, I would deffinately have an abortion, even though I'm quite against them. Now that you're in the siuation, I guess all I can really say is Good Luck! Don't rush into anything.. think it all through first (which I'm sure you've probably already done). Talk to your parents, boyfriend, boyfriend's parents, etc.

*Tara*

OP

thanks everyone for your advice, i am guessing i am about 5 weeks gone. i have a doctors appointment at 11 today and i have decided that it is for the best to have the abortion. i know i am stupid getting myself into this mess but it was a genuine accident.
Does anyone wanna chat ?

lottielou

thanks everyone for your advice, i am guessing i am about 5 weeks gone. i have a doctors appointment at 11 today and i have decided that it is for the best to have the abortion. i know i am stupid getting myself into this mess but it was a genuine accident.
Does anyone wanna chat ?

good luck, hope everything works out for you. :smile:

:smile:

OP

thankyou, do u know n e one who has ever been in the situation?

lottielou

thankyou, do u know n e one who has ever been in the situation?

no, but i have worried about what i would do in your situation.....its a hard decision to make...

If you don't mind me asking, were you on the pill?? or did you use protection???

OP

no am not on the pill but i will be as soon as this was sorted. yes my boyfriend always wears protection, the only thing we can think of is that it split slightly without us noticing.

lottielou

no am not on the pill but i will be as soon as this was sorted. yes my boyfriend always wears protection, the only thing we can think of is that it split slightly without us noticing.

its a shame when things like that happen, cos you were obviously being careful....have you told your boyfriend what you are planning to do??

OP

yes i have told him. him and my best friend are the only people who know. i havent told my family, they would be very dissapointed in me and i hate letting themd own. i am going to the doctors on my own though so i am quite scared about that.

lottielou

yes i have told him. him and my best friend are the only people who know. i havent told my family, they would be very dissapointed in me and i hate letting themd own. i am going to the doctors on my own though so i am quite scared about that.

take one of them with you...that may make you feel better?

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