What does she mean?

Me and my g/f have been into a relationship for 3 months now and we have had allot of complications. We originally broke up 2 days back but we kept in contact over the phone still.

I asked her yesterday by text where do we stand and where do we go from here?
She said 'Subconciously I think we need to take things slightly slower to ease reality when we might have to end it'.
I didn't reply so she sent a text saying 'Comment?'.
I replied saying 'fair enough, we will take it easy'.
Then she replied 'dont analyse too much, its not healthy'.

I really do want to be with her as its the first time in a relationship it feels so right and good. Yes there has been aditional complications but she has eventually told me about them and I do have a tendency to over analyse, jump to conclusions and be clingy, which im willing to change about myself.

What does she mean by her text, is she still keen on me or because of the breakup she might not want to make a go of things and slowly let go?

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

Ron Stoppable

I like your ex! :biggrin:

Loading important answers with euphemisms - classic!
She means an N*SYNC song. I believe it's called Bye, Bye, Bye.

LoL, the thing is her culture has arranged marriages hence why the part of 'might have to end'.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Ok just had a talk and she wants to stay with me because of my resits I think. She said if it wasn't to do with family even though she feels less for me now she would still be with me.
Im trying to get her to be with me but because we only have a year together and then she finishes her degree and moving back home she wants to end it now and be just good friend. What do I do?

Reply 3

zav

If she wants to be good friends i know its hard but you will just have to move on. She can if she wants to end it at anytime that she wants.
I feel for you since you seem to like her a lot but i am afraid i would say try and move on since its only been 3 months

Reply 4

amywalters

All us girls over analyse, trust me. lol. But by the fact that she said she just wants to be more realistic, it shows that she just doesnt want to get hurt and is just trying to protect herself more than anything. At the end of the day, she just wants you to understand.. If a girl says that they want to take things slowly it means that they believe they are gonna fall for you really quickly and evidently, if you break up, its gonna hurt her - which you could take either way, but basically, its a compliment lol. :smile:

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

How do I approach this, as I really want to be with her when shes back?
She said hasnt quite said it but I think she meant in september we would be finished as by then because of lack of communication it wouldnt be as hard.

Reply 6

amywalters

Just tell her that without being too in your face as such. Tell her that you hope she would consider being back with you, and you really would like the chance to proove it to her what the relationship could be if only she let you take control and show her what you can do. Aslong as you speak to her and really tell her what you feel then there isnt much more you can do, its all about saying the right things, if you say what she wants to hear (providing its the truth) then thats all she can ask for. Just dont make promises you cant keep to her.

The fact she said dont analyse too much, she obviously is saying, dont analyse too much into what she just said - even though she is analysing your relationship to start off with, if that makes sense?

To me, it seems as though she is saying dont worry, i know what im doing and its for the best. And that once in her head its sorted, then there maybe a possibility.