Cross with my guy friend

This is more of a rant than anything else...but basically I've just been on a trip with my youth group, about 80 of us went. It was an amazing trip - the only thing was this one guy, who I have admittedly had a major crush on for the past year. I didn't do anything about it several reasons which I won't go into now - but bascialy I'm pretty sure he didn't feel the same way. However, that aside, we are really really good friends, and get on together very well. So you can imagine how cross I was when he left on sat night ((when we got back) without saying goodbye to me. He's off to uni next year, and for all I know, we could never see each other again! I'm so cross that he could just dismiss our friendship like that - I mean, fair enough if he only sees me as a mate when I've fancied him for all this time, but I would have thought I at least merited a hug goodbye! I'm so upset about it! (sorry for anonymous, but i think he uses this site too)

Reply 1

Nutter

16

Lots of times, the guy would be in exactly the same situation as you, and would prefer not to take the first step. Thing is that you'll both lose out that way, so go ahead, take the initiative.

Reply 2

zav

14

I agree with nutter he may feel the same way as you and not think you like him. Maybe he did not want a dramatic goodbye as it would upset him. Go and say goodbye before he goes otherwise you might regret it.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

We're having a party next week, which I expect he might be at - I am almost 100% certain he doesn't like me back anyway, that's not really the problem - I'm fine with it. I actually kinda hate him more than like him at the mo, purely because he doesn't seem to count our friendship for anything! I don't want to say anything to him about fancying him, I get too embarrassed etc etc.

Reply 4

zav

14

Anonymous

We're having a party next week, which I expect he might be at - I am almost 100% certain he doesn't like me back anyway, that's not really the problem - I'm fine with it. I actually kinda hate him more than like him at the mo, purely because he doesn't seem to count our friendship for anything! I don't want to say anything to him about fancying him, I get too embarrassed etc etc.

I think you seem to have a lot of issues around this guy. If he just thinks of you as mates i don't think you can be so annoyed for what he has done. You say you like him but hate him? i think you are really confused about your feelings for him. Either talk to him about how you feel or you will be bitter about him i think.

No point in continuing as you are due to the fact you are so unhappy. He's going away bite the bullet and tell him how u feel!

Reply 5

hippieglitter

19

I think you need to tell him how you feel, he might have no idea and feels the same way. trust me you will regret it if you don't i have been in that position hundreds of times and come to regret not telling people how i felt, if you don't tell him how you feel you will never find out how he feels if he is off to uni with the chance of you never seeing him again what have you got to lose.

Cross with my guy friend

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