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I think I want to break up with my boyfriend...
For a lot of reasons, but mainly because I really love being single, this is my first relationship and its so serious, I feel claustrophobic.
I really do love my boyfriend though, I just don't want to be with him anymore. I've been feeling this way for months, but I couldn't really put my finger on it, if that makes sense.
Now I'm back home from uni and he is in another city, I've realised that I enjoy my freedom too much. He also makes me feel old, he is 2 years older than myself, but so much more mature beyond his years! I want to be young, and do what young people do.
Thing is, I would prefer to break up with him when we're both back at uni, that way I can ensure I see him a lot and that we stay friends, I dont want to lose my best friend. I know it is unfair to wait 3 more months though.
Another thing is, I really don't know how to tell him. He's always saying how much he loves me, that he wants to marry me someday and he doesn't know what he'd do if we weren't together. This makes me feel even more claustrobic, I dont want to hurt him.
Do you think my reasons aren't good enough and he's going to end up hating me? Can I have some advice on the subject please.
I really do love my boyfriend though, I just don't want to be with him anymore. I've been feeling this way for months, but I couldn't really put my finger on it, if that makes sense.
Now I'm back home from uni and he is in another city, I've realised that I enjoy my freedom too much. He also makes me feel old, he is 2 years older than myself, but so much more mature beyond his years! I want to be young, and do what young people do.
Thing is, I would prefer to break up with him when we're both back at uni, that way I can ensure I see him a lot and that we stay friends, I dont want to lose my best friend. I know it is unfair to wait 3 more months though.
Another thing is, I really don't know how to tell him. He's always saying how much he loves me, that he wants to marry me someday and he doesn't know what he'd do if we weren't together. This makes me feel even more claustrobic, I dont want to hurt him.
Do you think my reasons aren't good enough and he's going to end up hating me? Can I have some advice on the subject please.
Hi there
In March, My best friend had exactly the same problem as you have had with your bf now .. She wanted to break up with him, but instead she talked (and i mean a proper talk) to him about how she felt,
After that night, they have been so loved up, there always happy with each other.
I dont if that has helped you or not, but communication can do so much to a relationship.
In March, My best friend had exactly the same problem as you have had with your bf now .. She wanted to break up with him, but instead she talked (and i mean a proper talk) to him about how she felt,
After that night, they have been so loved up, there always happy with each other.
I dont if that has helped you or not, but communication can do so much to a relationship.
CassieCoo
Hi there
In March, My best friend had exactly the same problem as you have had with your bf now .. She wanted to break up with him, but instead she talked (and i mean a proper talk) to him about how she felt,
After that night, they have been so loved up, there always happy with each other.
I dont if that has helped you or not, but communication can do so much to a relationship.
In March, My best friend had exactly the same problem as you have had with your bf now .. She wanted to break up with him, but instead she talked (and i mean a proper talk) to him about how she felt,
After that night, they have been so loved up, there always happy with each other.
I dont if that has helped you or not, but communication can do so much to a relationship.
Thanks for the advice, I will talk to him first, but at the moment I just feel like I want to get out...
The thing I'm unsure about the most is when to have this talk.
I was in a similar situation and it may be different for you but I was so happy and relieved when I finally got the courage to break up with my bf. I'm so happy at the moment being free and single as I was so unhappy feeling cooped up in my relationship. My advice is to be honest with yourself and your bf and do what is best for you. I know that seems selfish but it isn't fair on your bf if you're heart's not completely in the relationship like it seems his is. In the end he will understand. Good luck.
CassieCoo
In March, My best friend had exactly the same problem as you have had with your bf now .. She wanted to break up with him, but instead she talked (and i mean a proper talk) to him about how she felt,
After that night, they have been so loved up, there always happy with each other.
I dont [know] if that has helped you or not, but communication can do so much to a relationship.
After that night, they have been so loved up, there always happy with each other.
I dont [know] if that has helped you or not, but communication can do so much to a relationship.
+REP
*Mike*
Tell him, not us.
That's a slightly stupid comment. If everybody went and did things in their relationships without the choice of consulting TSR, what would be the point of this forum existing? It's here for people to ask advice. The OP probably has every intent of talking to her boyfriend, but wanted a few opinions first.
If you didn't feel free when you're with him, doesn't sound like you should be with him...
It seems a shame to break up with him because he seems devoted to you and really cares, i mean many girls would kill to have a guy like that but i guess if your feeling trapped and you rather be single i would advise telling him now not waiting 3 months down the line, but i warn you either way prepare to have him crying over it or least being heart broken.
I felt exactly the same as you in my relationship, I had been with my boyfriend for 4 months, and was feeling incredibly trapped because i am a really independant person, and he wanted to see me all the time. It was fine to start with , but after a while he was ringing me all the time, and asking to meet up all the time. He made me feel bad for saying no , i can't meet up with you today.... I play alot of sport and that takes up a lot of my time outside sixth form, and he found it hard to accept that i have another life appart from him.
don't get me wrong, i liked him alot, but i had to get out of the relationship.
I finished it face to face and he was heartbroken, really really heartbroken and it tore me to pieces to see him like that. He even broke down infront of me and begged me to reconsider and to stay with him. I just couldn't be in a relationship and feel trapped.
It was the worst week of my life, because he constrantly rang me on the phone crying and asking me to take him back.
Just ask yourself , if your not happy in you relationship, then what is the point in lying to yourself and to your boyfriend?
Hope this has helped... I am now happily single x
don't get me wrong, i liked him alot, but i had to get out of the relationship.
I finished it face to face and he was heartbroken, really really heartbroken and it tore me to pieces to see him like that. He even broke down infront of me and begged me to reconsider and to stay with him. I just couldn't be in a relationship and feel trapped.
It was the worst week of my life, because he constrantly rang me on the phone crying and asking me to take him back.
Just ask yourself , if your not happy in you relationship, then what is the point in lying to yourself and to your boyfriend?
Hope this has helped... I am now happily single x
Hi there
In March, My best friend had exactly the same problem as you have had with your bf now .. She wanted to break up with him, but instead she talked (and i mean a proper talk) to him about how she felt,
After that night, they have been so loved up, there always happy with each other.
I dont if that has helped you or not, but communication can do so much to a relationship.
Thanks for the advice, I will talk to him first, but at the moment I just feel like I want to get out...
The thing I'm unsure about the most is when to have this talk.
In March, My best friend had exactly the same problem as you have had with your bf now .. She wanted to break up with him, but instead she talked (and i mean a proper talk) to him about how she felt,
After that night, they have been so loved up, there always happy with each other.
I dont if that has helped you or not, but communication can do so much to a relationship.
Thanks for the advice, I will talk to him first, but at the moment I just feel like I want to get out...
The thing I'm unsure about the most is when to have this talk.
No problem, do it obviosly when nobody else is around, and somewhere you feel comftable with him.
If you talk with him, give it a couple of weeks and it hasnt changed then break it off hun
And keep us posted how its going
Journalistix
That's a slightly stupid comment. If everybody went and did things in their relationships without the choice of consulting TSR, what would be the point of this forum existing? It's here for people to ask advice. The OP probably has every intent of talking to her boyfriend, but wanted a few opinions first.
shes already decided that she doesnt want to be with him anymore, so the only solution is to tell him, not us.
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