Ex gf is happy and i'm not... what to do :S

Hey everyone,

Alot of info is going to be missing in this post because it'll make the post too long if i include it.

Well my ex left me a month ago to be with another guy [her ex] and i love her loads. She hurt me so much, i asked her about 20 times if she wants me forever and she said yes every time. This happened whilst we were both at uni. But the day she went back home she split up with me to be with her ex. She said being home reminds her of him and she is going to try and make it work and i should be happy for them but how can i!

We don't speak anymore, after the break up she would phone upset saying she still loves me and misses me etc and because i love her so much i wouldn't give myself time to recover but all along she was phoning me less and less so that she recovers. Now she has recovered enough to stop talking to me. Maybe it was because i said i would love her forever so she thinks there is really no need to talk no more as i know she wants me to love her forever and never go out with anyone.

What do i do? I feel so used, it's like she just dated me just because we was at uni together. I hate what she has done and she blames it on me and said "the era i got to know you was when things went wrong" as her dad got ill but that i don't even know her dad!

Do i just walk away and let her be happy whilst i'm here all depressed or do i tell her how i feel and risk her not talking to me ever again as some how she would turn it on me?

I just wish she would feel a little bit the way i do because she hurt me so much and i was always so sweet to her, does that make me a bad person :confused:

I don't want to upset her, i just want her to realise what she has done and that she can't just talk to me like nothing has happened and still treat me like crap [which she does].

Reply 1

username47781

20

That's not very nice what she's done to you, how can you be happy for them the way she has left you, how can she love you if she ran off and left you to go back to her ex, i would advise as painful as this sounds to cut all contact with her.

Maybe have a good night out with your mates or take up a new hobby or something.

Reply 2

dementedbunny

11

she sucks.

move on even though it will be hard. to keep yourself happy, try and keep busy all the time and take on new activities, social activities preferably to distract yourself.

seems hard but people heal from these kinds of things all the time so don't worry about it. besides, she sucks.

Reply 3

username47781

20

I wonder how her and her ex broke up, i mean i wonder what the chances are of them working out anyway, i mean if she breaks up with her ex again don't take her back.

Reply 4

Amnesia

2

Although it will be difficult if you still have feelings for her, I think the best advice is to cut contact with her. She has treated you badly by leaving you like that and then ignoring you. I think you should forget about her and try to move on with your life. As someone else said people do get over these kind of things and from the sounds of it she is not really worthy of your attention anyway.

Reply 5

*titanium*

12

The situation is obviously very hurtfull for you, these things happen sometimes. However as far are her saying that you should be happy for them, thats like a slap in the face, its a sensitive situation for you and she comes out with what i consider to be a disgusting comment.

Not only has she broken up with you she has obviously done it with complete disregard for your feelings and no effort to try and stay on good terms, so if i where you i would forget her and move on.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Carl1982

I wonder how her and her ex broke up, i mean i wonder what the chances are of them working out anyway, i mean if she breaks up with her ex again don't take her back.

They broke up because her bf is a flirt and a mutual friend thought her bf and some random girl were going out so their trust got damaged. They got through that though, my ex just criticises every little aspect when she is in a relationship and when she eventually breaks up with that person she then looks at the positive aspects thus messing everyone around because she'll come back crying/begging to go out with that person and it's kinda hard not to say no when someone is so upset like that.

Can't believe i fell in love with this girl, she doesn't seem to care about me at all when i've done so much for her. I don't get it :confused:

Reply 7

username47781

20

Anonymous

They broke up because her bf is a flirt and a mutual friend thought her bf and some random girl were going out so their trust got damaged. They got through that though, my ex just criticises every little aspect when she is in a relationship and when she eventually breaks up with that person she then looks at the positive aspects thus messing everyone around because she'll come back crying/begging to go out with that person and it's kinda hard not to say no when someone is so upset like that.

Can't believe i fell in love with this girl, she doesn't seem to care about me at all when i've done so much for her. I don't get it :confused:

View it this way, it's her loss, she will never be happy in life, i am sure he will dump her again when he see's another girl come along, unfortunatly some people are like that, as nice as you are to them, they will never appreciate it.

Ex gf is happy and i'm not... what to do :S

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