Mum won't let me travel alone

I hope someone can give me some advice on this, because I'm having a difficult time convincing my Mum to let me travel alone. The thing is, I'm going to a gig in Scunthorpe next month, and I live up in Aberdeen. I've got my heart set on seeing my favourite band and was hoping my mum could go aswell, as we love the same band. However, now she tells me that she can't go because she can't sort out childcare arrangements for my two little brothers and my younger sister. She says she can't get anyone to stay overnight while we stay over in Scunthorpe for the gig.
So I was all set for getting the train to Scunthorpe and arranging a hotel for myself, when she turns round and says I'm absolutely 100% not going alone. I feel absolutely gutted, I can't believe she won't let me go. I'm 18 and I can look after myself, all I'd have to do is write my exact list of train times, bus arrangements, hotel etc and tell her I'd phone her along the way, but she still won't let me go. Please help me, anyone give me advice?

Reply 1

*starry_eyed_*

14

can you not ask a friend to go with you? she'a only looking out for you, so you have to take into consideration her feelings about you travelling quite a waqy on your own :smile:

Reply 2

bunthulhu

14

That's ridiculous, you're 18, she can't stop you going!

Reply 3

sparkle86

11

Hmmm thats a tough one. Because you have told her that you will keep in touch along the way and also that you will give her the details of the train times and hotel etc. Just try and keep calm because if u lose it, then she'll think you're still a child and definitely wont let you go.

When is the gig?

Karen x

Reply 4

34253

2

Just go, or find a friend to go with...

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

I can't get anyone else to go, I've tried. She's always looking out for me, which is good but I wish she'd understand how important this is to me. I'm supposed to be meeting the band aswell, and although she says that can be arranged another time (which it can), it'll probably be the last time I see them live for a few years. What can i say to her?

Reply 6

Jen2327

1

take a friend?
then your not on ur own? surely u have a friend who would go?
explain 2 ur mum how much u wanna go?
and let her help u sort out the arrangments with u, so she knows whats going on?
xxx

Reply 7

Laura Lou

13

I would tell her that you appreciate her concern but you are 18 now - an adult - and this is something you want to do.

Reply 8

sparkle86

11

Its difficult but if I really wanted to go then i'd go. I'd give them all the details and tell them not to worry. Can you not take a cousin or something? Or find a friend or ring round yourself for someone to look after your siblings?

Reply 9

bunthulhu

14

That you're 18, a legal adult, and you can handle yourself perfectly well? That it's really important to you? Ask her how old you'd have to be for her to let you go. Probably 40, that's what moms are like :rolleyes:

Maybe she's jealous because she likes them too and she can't go?

Reply 10

gianthead

12

Just say (calmly) you're going and it's no use her arguing. Then make your plans. Tell her you'll keep in contact.

Reply 11

janesmith

whose the band by the way.
perhaps you could let a family member come with you like a cousin or even an aunt if you cant bring a friend. the trouble is parents find it hard to let their children go. i doubt its a trust thing its more of a protective nature they have. we will probably be like this with our kids but for now its frustrating. just show her how responsible you are. show her the hotel and recommendations
i hope u go

Reply 12

Laura Lou

13

bunthulhu

Ask her how old you'd have to be for her to let you go.

Yes, ask her that.

Reply 13

janesmith

or say to her if she wont let you go to the gig that you're going to ur mates bbq/party etc and make a run for it to the gig instead.

Reply 14

sparkle86

11

janesmith

or say to her if she wont let you go to the gig that you're going to ur mates bbq/party etc and make a run for it to the gig instead.

No, don't lie. When she finds out (because she will, shes a mum), she wont trust you when next time comes along.

Karen x

Reply 15

Girlie

1

My dad's like that! Apparantly I ''can't'' travel to Manchester or Liverpool on my own, but going to Uni by train to either York or Norwich will be fine! Which doesn't make sense... I don't listen though, I'm 18 and so, old enough to make my own decisions. Sit down and explain just how much you want to go. Book the train and given her a list of all your arrangements and contact numbers, and all the hotel details. If you show her how organised you are, she should realise you're grown up enough to take care of yourself. :smile:

Reply 16

kitty12

1

I love this 'Your 18!!'. It is indeed true but just coz your a year older doesn't mean parents suddenly stop worrying and class you a adult. (i know it seems unfair) At the end of the day there always going to worry and be protective. The key is to show you undestand how she feels and ask her when it would be acceptable. Dont get angry with her stay clam and see how it goes. Just going ahead with it regardless will only give your mum more ammo. I've missed importants things before and in turn been rewared later when i've asked again. Good luck

Reply 17

Cirsium

19

I'm guessing the issue is more with the being at the gig etc than travelling? My parents were fine about me getting the train cross country when i was 17 but there is no way on earth they'd have let me go to a gig.

Reply 18

aleathiel

16

I travelled to Portugal alone at the age of 9 heh then again family was waiting at the other end..

You're 18 whats the problem? Are u going to uni? that'll require you to travel alone, just tell her that :smile:

My parents let me see Shania Twain when I was 17, on my own, it was a coach thing I know.. Also at 18 I went 140 miles to meet someone and stay at her house for 2 nights, they didnt stop me then

Perhaps if you go with a friend you can persuade her?

Reply 19

Glory

1

Laura_M

I would tell her that you appreciate her concern but you are 18 now - an adult - and this is something you want to do.

i agree, my mum tried to stop me from going on holiday. She just had to realise that if she wants me to move out after uni, shes going to have to let go at some point.

Id basically tell her your going, you would just prefer it to be with her blessing.

Mum won't let me travel alone

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