"I'd feel emasculated if my wife earned more than me"'Thoughts?

Me and my mates were chatting about careers, futures, life post uni etc. the other day and one of them said the above.

I was a bit surprised, it's just never something I've considered, but about a third of my mates agreed with him. I think my view may be coloured by my parents' leapfrogging each other's salaries throughout their careers and ending up with basically the same job (albeit my dad is paid a bit more) and those agreeing tended to be those where their dad was the principal breadwinner.

Anyway just wondered how many guys on here felt the same as my mate really.

I think it is very relevant and highly illuminating. Women obviously feel that if the guy isn't richer / more powerful that they won't feel "loved". It shows what the agenda is only too clearly. Going directly on point earning less than a wife is fatal normally. They all deny it obviously.

I think it is very relevant and highly illuminating. Women obviously feel that if the guy isn't richer / more powerful that they won't feel "loved". It shows what the agenda is only too clearly. Going directly on point earning less than a wife is fatal normally. They all deny it obviously.

You're just pulling that straight out of your arse. Have you not considered that women who are incredibly wealthy off their own back are rare and move in circles where the men are also incredibly wealthy? It's hardly rocket science. Why would you expect incredibly wealthy women to even be meeting men who are not wealthy on a regular basis?

Oh I see. You are saying men feel emasculated if they earn less, because they know women want men who earn more than them. I think the opposite interpretation is just as valid though - women know men feel emasculated if they don't earn more, so they look for someone who does earn more. I guess which way it goes depends on whether ultimately the man chooses the woman or the woman chooses the man - in either case they seem well suited to each other though.

Me and my mates were chatting about careers, futures, life post uni etc. the other day and one of them said the above.

I was a bit surprised, it's just never something I've considered, but about a third of my mates agreed with him. I think my view may be coloured by my parents' leapfrogging each other's salaries throughout their careers and ending up with basically the same job (albeit my dad is paid a bit more) and those agreeing tended to be those where their dad was the principal breadwinner.

Anyway just wondered how many guys on here felt the same as my mate really.

No no. It is very simple and easy to understand. Women just love rich men. Always.

I agree with your mates.

My parents, both of them are lawyers in Singapore they always told us that whenever we find for a life partner they should make within 20% of each other's income and that the man should always earn more than his wife or else there will be all kinds of negative connotations to it.

I don't really follow their 20% advice but do follow that we should always earn more.

I wouldn't ask her how much she made or to show me her payslip to find out as I wouldn't want her to know how much I make.

As for why, it isn't really anything to do with emasculation, essentially if you are in a relationship with a woman from a Nordic country in one way or another she will do something that will make you feel emasculated. Me making more than her generally keeps it in my head that I'm still more powerful.

Their 20% rule seems reasonable, because it makes sense to choose an equal to enter a partnership with. But the man having to earn more is ridiculous - why does the man have to be more powerful?