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My Hearts Breaking

i feel depressed almost to the brink of suicidal. Yesterday i got dumped by my boyfriend of 2 years, although there is a chance of us getting back together i just feel sooo depressed that he can even think of us splitting up. I love him so much too much i hate feeling like this i hate it i hate it. I cant handle it anymore my heart is physically breaking apart in my chest i can feel it. I feel like a mug because no matter what he does i still love him and know i always will. He said he will see me on friday to talk but i want to see him now i love him so much and just want to feel him giving me a cuddle, and to say he loves me. I know he loves me i asked him on the phone if he did a little while ago and he said yes. i feel like such a mug because i am the one always arranging to call him/have him call me and it just seems like he hates me at the moment and i cant take it i just feel it would be easier to just go and go to sleep and not wake back up again because i just cant take this pain its not worth it.
Reply 1
Slight reality check coming up. Just because he said it doesnt mean he ment it. Some guys (note not all) will say anything and lie about what they say to please people, probabily more so if they think there getting something in turn, Sex for example.

What were his reasons for breaking up, do you agree with them?
i tried talking to him he just says i will never change.
Its because we keep arguing but when we dont argue things are great. He says i start arguements its as if i enjoy it which i dont. I just think i push people to the limit i think its just in my personality and i hate it because i hate my life at the moment and i dont want to lose him because of my demented personality. He said to me thats it youve pushed me to the limit i dont want to be with you any more. But then he said when i spoke to him today that he loves me. Please someone help me to stop feeling like this.
Glory
Slight reality check coming up. Just because he said it doesnt mean he ment it. Some guys (note not all) will say anything and lie about what they say to please people, probabily more so if they think there getting something in turn, Sex for example.

What were his reasons for breaking up, do you agree with them?


What you mean when he said "i love you"? if so then he isnt lying because i know him well enough to know that he would tell me if he didnt love me anymore. He has told me before that he loves me less than he did when we first got together and never argued. so if he didnt love me then he would definitely tell me.

His reasons for breaking up that he doesnt want to keep arguing with me and its making him angry all the time and he doesn't want it.
I just want to make him happy.
Reply 4
Maybe he needs time to calm down.

Maybe you just have to let him go, do you really want to be with someone who hates your personality? because i certainly wouldnt, you shouldnt have to change to suit him. Dont feel so bad about yourself, everything happens for a reason.
Reply 5
Whistle_1989
What you mean when he said "i love you"? if so then he isnt lying because i know him well enough to know that he would tell me if he didnt love me anymore. He has told me before that he loves me less than he did when we first got together and never argued. so if he didnt love me then he would definitely tell me.

His reasons for breaking up that he doesnt want to keep arguing with me and its making him angry all the time and he doesn't want it.
I just want to make him happy.


well yeh about the love stuff. Remember love is blind, maybe you cant see the real him.
but we have been together for 2 years and he doesnt hate my personality he just hates part of it when i cause arguements. I know everything happens for a reason but i just feel like i dont want to go on anymore.
Reply 7
advice anyone?
Reply 8
hun, i have been in the exact same position where it was like i physically felt my heart aching and it was such an indescribable pain deep down. i reacted badly, i went and hid in some bushes and almost slit my wrists with some glass lying around BUT i didn't, why? i don't know, i felt there was more to live for and i was right, there is. it took a while, loads of tears and large amounts of chocolate to get there but i did and i don't regret one minute of it. i learnt a lot through that experience including how strong i can be and it lead me to mature. there are many situations in life which can seem hopeless but the reality of it is they aren't and when you focus on this and focus on taking each day as it comes, things get better and you get to a point where you can look back and be proud:smile:

all the best to you, i really hope you get through this, pm me anytime :hugs:
Been through this and my post will b a little like a section from the Sun's Agony Uncle.
It seems from your original post that you stil love the guy. Nothing is more painful than a break up in which the other party still have feelings for the other person. My advice, as vague as it would be is to move on. However, the brealk up is rather questionable.
As a man mysef, the reason for the break up is not strong enough. I mean 2 years of going out. If you really had that strong relationship then a few arguments wouldn't actually caused the break up because al couples have arguments. I just think that your boyfriend have a hidden agenda for the break up that he isn't telling you. I mean If I was in his situation, I would probably do the same in order not to hurt you even more by telling you the real reason. Men are complicated. What I would advice is on Friday, be strong and don't be such a mess i.e. tell him straight you still love him. Try to have a normal chat and everything. Just think of him as a friend, hard as this will seem and ask him straight to his face, why did you ever broke up. I mean is the reason sufficient enough. then if he said yes, tell him that that means you two just wasted 2 years of your life just because of this really pathetic excuse. If he still don't tell the truth, he's not worth it. I mean would you actually want a relationship with a person who is dishonest and doesn't trust you.
It would be hard of course as I have fallen in love and fell out of love. What I would suggest is that spend more time with your real world friends rather than the TSR crew as although we can offer you advice, nothing beats an advice of a friend who have known you for ages.
Love is indeed pretty tricky. But falling in love to someone is easy but felling out of love is hard. Try your hardest to do this as it just seems, from my point of view, that he isn't worth it as he's blatantly lying to you. If he don't tell you the real answer move on, if he did then either you two can work on it or you can improve yourself not for him, but for you, and you alone.

When he said "i love you" on the phone, i do feel that he is lying. I have done it numerous tmes, awful it can be but it is an effective way of getting out of a very awkward conversation without us knowing how it affects girls.

anyway, when you talk to him on friday, make him feel comfortable so that he'l be able to tell the truth. no touchy feeling crying conversation coz we just hate that. Try to go to the pub actually! that'll actually work!
Anonymous
Been through this and my post will b a little like a section from the Sun's Agony Uncle.
It seems from your original post that you stil love the guy. Nothing is more painful than a break up in which the other party still have feelings for the other person. My advice, as vague as it would be is to move on. However, the brealk up is rather questionable.
As a man mysef, the reason for the break up is not strong enough. I mean 2 years of going out. If you really had that strong relationship then a few arguments wouldn't actually caused the break up because al couples have arguments. I just think that your boyfriend have a hidden agenda for the break up that he isn't telling you. I mean If I was in his situation, I would probably do the same in order not to hurt you even more by telling you the real reason. Men are complicated. What I would advice is on Friday, be strong and don't be such a mess i.e. tell him straight you still love him. Try to have a normal chat and everything. Just think of him as a friend, hard as this will seem and ask him straight to his face, why did you ever broke up. I mean is the reason sufficient enough. then if he said yes, tell him that that means you two just wasted 2 years of your life just because of this really pathetic excuse. If he still don't tell the truth, he's not worth it. I mean would you actually want a relationship with a person who is dishonest and doesn't trust you.
It would be hard of course as I have fallen in love and fell out of love. What I would suggest is that spend more time with your real world friends rather than the TSR crew as although we can offer you advice, nothing beats an advice of a friend who have known you for ages.
Love is indeed pretty tricky. But falling in love to someone is easy but felling out of love is hard. Try your hardest to do this as it just seems, from my point of view, that he isn't worth it as he's blatantly lying to you. If he don't tell you the real answer move on, if he did then either you two can work on it or you can improve yourself not for him, but for you, and you alone.

When he said "i love you" on the phone, i do feel that he is lying. I have done it numerous tmes, awful it can be but it is an effective way of getting out of a very awkward conversation without us knowing how it affects girls.

anyway, when you talk to him on friday, make him feel comfortable so that he'l be able to tell the truth. no touchy feeling crying conversation coz we just hate that. Try to go to the pub actually! that'll actually work!


im sorry but i feel that you have no reason to say that he is lying because he is the most trustworthy person. I have just kept pushing and pushing him without realising it.
Reply 11
hes lying about why he broke up with you.. Its obviously and its nice to see a guy agree with me about it too. Some guys do it, because they think the lame reasons they give is better than the truth. And also you could be the most trustworthy person in the world, but youd still tell white lies to protect someone else. Its human nature, to lie to protect someone elses feeling.
Ok, now i think you're being deluded. just calm down.
Reply 13
Whistle_1989
im sorry but i feel that you have no reason to say that he is lying because he is the most trustworthy person. I have just kept pushing and pushing him without realising it.


Well, there's your answer. An argument here or there can be survived, but if your actions (whether on their own or in reaction to something of his which was wrong) are leading to lots of fights, then there's something wrong. Maybe he did mean it when he said he loved you a while ago, but realised that it wasn't worth the trouble and pain of the arguments you were having.
Agree with Glory

Lying is the currency of the world