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Making the first phone conversation count

Hi all at TSR,
I have been speaking to some girl (whoi met a while ago) on the net, and she gave me her number. I really want to call her but i'm feeling too nervous!, but i wish i could drop little hints to her that i really want this to go further. I want this relationship to actually go somewhere, any tips for a first ever mobile conversation or should i just stick to texting?

Also,
We were hoping to arrange going into town together one day, although she insisted that it would be cool to let her brother and his girlfriend come- ( a slight hinderance) any ideas about how i could suggest we go alone without making her feel uncomfy etc?

Thank you to everyone in advance

Reply 1

Geerththanan

17

Yeah go on give her a call...! Just say...you thought you would give her a ring rather than a text...

With the going into town together case...maybe you could try and choose a day where a brother and his girlfriend won't be able to come..? :biggrin:

Reply 2

bunthulhu

14

Clearly she isn't comfortable meeting alone first and so you shouldn't pressure her especially as this is an internet relationship which may further the uneasiness for her.
Not sure about the mobile convo - never been very good at them, I am queen of awkward silences so definitely don't follow my advice!

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

Sorry guys, just to clarify, this isn't an internet relationship, I have met her before through friends at a party, it's just we have been chatting online that's all, but now she gave me her number...

sorry i should have made it clearer

Reply 4

Bubblebee

15

Yeahy I defo wouldn't presure her into going alone, you know your not a psyco but she might not...

As for the phone conversation, why dont you ask her to call you?

Reply 5

Bubblebee

15

Oh in that case, I dunno what to suggest.
Perhaps they won't be so much of a problem, whats the age gap?

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

same age, but i'm still nervous, **sorry**

Reply 7

Bubblebee

15

I think that they will most likely be really cool about it. Think of it this way, if there are any awkward silences between you and her at least maybe the others will cover it.

Reply 8

skylite

phone her for a quick chat and then if u think things will turn awkward pretend someones at the door or u need a poo or something.. :smile:

Jk

Reply 9

fizzerz

phone her to arrange going to town. that way you have a reason to phone her and it wont be wierd or difficult!

Reply 10

rubytuesday

skylite

phone her for a quick chat and then if u think things will turn awkward pretend someones at the door or u need a poo or something.. :smile:

Jk

lol! my friend used to take the phone into the toilet with her.. ! obviously not for a poo but still! yes she was a little bit weird, still is :p:

Reply 11

Ron Stoppable

14

Anonymous

Hi all at TSR,
I have been speaking to some girl (whoi met a while ago) on the net, and she gave me her number. I really want to call her but i'm feeling too nervous!, but i wish i could drop little hints to her that i really want this to go further. I want this relationship to actually go somewhere, any tips for a first ever mobile conversation or should i just stick to texting?

Also,
We were hoping to arrange going into town together one day, although she insisted that it would be cool to let her brother and his girlfriend come- ( a slight hinderance) any ideas about how i could suggest we go alone without making her feel uncomfy etc?

Thank you to everyone in advance

Your aim is not to make her fall head over heels for you over the phone; all you really need is to find out if you two could hang out in real life without bugging each other.

Your choice of thread title makes me think of a footballer going to their coach and asking how to score from the first throw-in! It doesn't work like that. All you have to do is keep it simple and not do anything massively silly. It's easy - ring her and say "hi!" now. You can even do it while talking to her online; just play up the "wow - looooong time no talk, what are you up to nowadays?" charade. :wink:

Reply 12

UpliftMof0

2

dont phone with nothing to say.
phone her when you have something to tell her, something happened at school, you did something cool, she was ill, your gonig away, you won something, you have a funny story etc etc. just have something decent to talk about otherwise its "hi", "bi" type thing which isnt good. use the phone call as an excuse to ask her to come and meet you. " thats something to talk about!.

Reply 13

bullyfish

12

UpliftMof0

dont phone with nothing to say.
phone her when you have something to tell her, something happened at school, you did something cool, she was ill, your gonig away, you won something, you have a funny story etc etc. just have something decent to talk about otherwise its "hi", "bi" type thing which isnt good. use the phone call as an excuse to ask her to come and meet you. " thats something to talk about!.

Definatly, maybe use the phone call to start chatting about when your meeting up, gets the conversation going, and is a great excuse to talk.

Oh, and if she wants her brother and his gf to come along, maybe shes thinking double date...

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