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my parents are pressuring me
They are pressuring me to go and live in america and be a doctor. I did want to go live in america but not anymore. I like where I live, I couldnt leave my family, friends, teachers and people I know.
My parents say england is going to ruins with charvas and aslyum seekers and that I would have a better life in america. Is it so bad to want to stay where I live?
When I tell them to stop pressuring me they say im being immature and that I dont understand what they are trying to tell me. I fully understand but its my life, i want to do what I want but what my parents are saying to me is getting to me.
what can i do....
My parents say england is going to ruins with charvas and aslyum seekers and that I would have a better life in america. Is it so bad to want to stay where I live?
When I tell them to stop pressuring me they say im being immature and that I dont understand what they are trying to tell me. I fully understand but its my life, i want to do what I want but what my parents are saying to me is getting to me.
what can i do....
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whats a charvas?
no it isn't!!!benefit system isnt a complte joke, and why would asylum seekers make Britain bad? i think they make it great 
and what are charvas?
anyway.....i digress if you dont want to go, dont go. Its your life, dont do something you'll regret later. Life is too short to live it for someone else
and what are charvas?
anyway.....i digress if you dont want to go, dont go. Its your life, dont do something you'll regret later. Life is too short to live it for someone else
Dr_Evil_666
They are pressuring me to go and live in america and be a doctor. I did want to go live in america but not anymore. I like where I live, I couldnt leave my family, friends, teachers and people I know.
My parents say england is going to ruins with charvas and aslyum seekers and that I would have a better life in america. Is it so bad to want to stay where I live?
When I tell them to stop pressuring me they say im being immature and that I dont understand what they are trying to tell me. I fully understand but its my life, i want to do what I want but what my parents are saying to me is getting to me.
what can i do....
My parents say england is going to ruins with charvas and aslyum seekers and that I would have a better life in america. Is it so bad to want to stay where I live?
When I tell them to stop pressuring me they say im being immature and that I dont understand what they are trying to tell me. I fully understand but its my life, i want to do what I want but what my parents are saying to me is getting to me.
what can i do....
Go and study about the generalisations you are making; much of them are not true. Have you heard of "oxbridge"; it rightly has one of the best medical departments in the world, if not the best.
Try doing some research, and did you know the cost of going to America, the way in which you are describing it, it sounds like its your local town centre.
Are they wanting you to go and study in America? Or just move there when youve qualified? At 16 i think its really unfair to pressurise you into a decision this big. Most people don't have a clue what they want to do at your age. Do you want to be a doctor? Or is it just moving to america that you are against?
How are they pressuring you? Would they be paying for your education etc?
Sorry for all the questions! Just trying to get a better picture!
How are they pressuring you? Would they be paying for your education etc?
Sorry for all the questions! Just trying to get a better picture!
timharvey
no it isn't!!!benefit system isnt a complte joke, and why would asylum seekers make Britain bad? i think they make it great
and what are charvas?
and what are charvas?
I'm sorry, but when the state happily pays out money to the 'council estate culture' just because they're too lazy to get a job, yes it is.
Some people on benefits are on more per-year than others who work full-time.
Some teenage girls actually get pregnant because they know they'll have everything given to them on a plate. Now would they get pregnant if it was hard?
What about good old hooky? AKA: Abu Hamza. He spouted evil rhetoric and hated this country, yet we threw money at him. Do you not see the hypocritical nature of this?
We've turned too much into a nanny state and a fair proportion of our budget must be set aside for it.
The majority of people who claim it (minus job-seekers) are just a drain on the economy with no real intention of ever putting anything back in. The money wasted here could quite easily go back into funding the NHS.
We have money going to people who don't deserve it and not finding its way to those that do.
Dr_Evil_666
They are pressuring me to go and live in america and be a doctor. I did want to go live in america but not anymore. I like where I live, I couldnt leave my family, friends, teachers and people I know.
My parents say england is going to ruins with charvas and aslyum seekers and that I would have a better life in america. Is it so bad to want to stay where I live?
When I tell them to stop pressuring me they say im being immature and that I dont understand what they are trying to tell me. I fully understand but its my life, i want to do what I want but what my parents are saying to me is getting to me.
what can i do....
My parents say england is going to ruins with charvas and aslyum seekers and that I would have a better life in america. Is it so bad to want to stay where I live?
When I tell them to stop pressuring me they say im being immature and that I dont understand what they are trying to tell me. I fully understand but its my life, i want to do what I want but what my parents are saying to me is getting to me.
what can i do....
My parents do the same to me, my mum always used to go on about my ex boyfriend just because he was a med student even though he was boring and I FAR prefer my boyfriend now he's much nicer. My mum also goes round telling everyone I'm going to be a midwife even though I've told her I don't know what I'm going to do after I've done nursing.
I also met my uncle and his new family from australia for the first time a few weeks ago. One of his step-daughters is a similar age to me and her mum does EXACTLY the same to her.
Stick to your guns, after all it's your life not theirs.
I think that 16 is a bit early to be thinking about where you will want to live in the future. Do you actually want to be a doctor or is it just your parents who want that? And then there are other countries apart from the US.
US is also a country with lots of immigrants and asylum seekers aren't all economic refugees. I do think your parent's arguments are quite reactionist and rather generalized although there is some truth in them.
US is also a country with lots of immigrants and asylum seekers aren't all economic refugees. I do think your parent's arguments are quite reactionist and rather generalized although there is some truth in them.
they can literally make you go anywear?
the uk offers many chances!
Living in america, if u think about it, your 16 there not gonna send you packing their on your own?
and then when your 18, you have the choice what to do.
If you going to do a levels, just do the best you can, and try and get a place in a uk uni, they cant literally plan your live for you,
and at 16 you could legally move out and rent etc neways.
the uk offers many chances!
Living in america, if u think about it, your 16 there not gonna send you packing their on your own?
and then when your 18, you have the choice what to do.
If you going to do a levels, just do the best you can, and try and get a place in a uk uni, they cant literally plan your live for you,
and at 16 you could legally move out and rent etc neways.
Nix!
I'm sorry, but when the state happily pays out money to the 'council estate culture' just because they're too lazy to get a job, yes it is.
Some people on benefits are on more per-year than others who work full-time.
Some teenage girls actually get pregnant because they know they'll have everything given to them on a plate. Now would they get pregnant if it was hard?
What about good old hooky? AKA: Abu Hamza. He spouted evil rhetoric and hated this country, yet we threw money at him. Do you not see the hypocritical nature of this?
We've turned too much into a nanny state and a fair proportion of our budget must be set aside for it.
The majority of people who claim it (minus job-seekers) are just a drain on the economy with no real intention of ever putting anything back in. The money wasted here could quite easily go back into funding the NHS.
We have money going to people who don't deserve it and not finding its way to those that do.
Some people on benefits are on more per-year than others who work full-time.
Some teenage girls actually get pregnant because they know they'll have everything given to them on a plate. Now would they get pregnant if it was hard?
What about good old hooky? AKA: Abu Hamza. He spouted evil rhetoric and hated this country, yet we threw money at him. Do you not see the hypocritical nature of this?
We've turned too much into a nanny state and a fair proportion of our budget must be set aside for it.
The majority of people who claim it (minus job-seekers) are just a drain on the economy with no real intention of ever putting anything back in. The money wasted here could quite easily go back into funding the NHS.
We have money going to people who don't deserve it and not finding its way to those that do.
Did you quote this directly from the Daily Mail?
You just have to stick to your guns and say that you are not going to study in America. In the end there is no way they could force you to go there and anyway there would be no guarantee that you would be excepted into the American University anyway. They have a completely different Uni system and have different ages for going than we do.
So dont worry about it.
So dont worry about it.
Never EVER do what your parents tell you with regards to your future. Its YOUR future, and YOU will have to live it, so do EXACTLY what YOU want and follow your own dreams. Their opinions are not yours, and so you need to tell them that you want to live your own life, with your own decisions
If they dont like that - tough. They have to learn to. You should never live your life someone else's way.
If they dont like that - tough. They have to learn to. You should never live your life someone else's way.
You are your own person - people change and grow, and you don't have to be what people want you to be, especially when it makes you unhappy. If you explain that what you once wanted is no longer and thats what is right for you then tell them so - but make sure you tell them what you intend to do and if you do have any plans. I'm pretty sure they just want to know that you have aspirations like most parents.
Nix!
I don't read the paper. I look at things objectively as I can and this is what I've concluded.
Maybe you should start reading it. With opiniosn like your's you'd feel right at home reading the stuff they try to pass off as news in that paper...
Suzi_law
Never EVER do what your parents tell you with regards to your future. Its YOUR future, and YOU will have to live it, so do EXACTLY what YOU want and follow your own dreams. Their opinions are not yours, and so you need to tell them that you want to live your own life, with your own decisions
If they dont like that - tough. They have to learn to. You should never live your life someone else's way.
If they dont like that - tough. They have to learn to. You should never live your life someone else's way.
Not everyones' parents are ******* that give **** advice, doing the opposite of everything they say is childish.....you can usually tell when they give you sound advice. But yeah, you can blame them now for 'pressuring' you into making a decison, but if you make a decision that is only to please them, you will only have yourself to blame.
In this case i think (unless they are i*i*t* trying to make small talk with you) that there is probbly another reason they want you to go to america... tbh id love it, but its up to you, when they 'ask' just say no. If they keep asking you, and you dont want to be rude or disrepect them, put a case together that explains why the reasons they gave you for moving are not good enough...i dunno what your parents are like so i dont know how they will take it, but i think its probbly best to be civil when talking about it...
Mangaroo
Not everyones' parents are ******* that give **** advice, doing the opposite of everything they say is childish.....you can usually tell when they give you sound advice.
I didnt say do the OPPOSITE. I said that the OP shouldnt do what their parents tell them to. There's a difference. If the OP wants to do what they say then fine, but they should do it for their OWN reasons.
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