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What does this mean?

Sorry if this ends up too confusing/ long. I started at uni in Sept and quickly got with my then bf, who id met on a student website before getting to uni. All was good until we split up in Nov. After a couple of weeks we became **** buddies, until like jan. After his exams he got a new gf, but after they split up a few weeks later we started with the **** buddies thing. I confessed that i was only doing it because i missed him and was trying to win him back, he said he didnt want a relationship, so we stopped talking for a few weeks, but then quickly turned back into **** buddies until the end of term. Since being at home another guy has been casually flirting with me, but is too shy to actually lay his feelings down, i dont know whether its because hes shy, or he doesnt fancy me but wants the attention. The ex bf is in an open relationship at the mo and why we were chatting on msn, i said i liked the other guy better, and then confessed to me that him and this new girl wont ever probably be bf and gf and was constantly flirting with me. Is he doing this because i said i liked another guy better, so he was seeing if he could get me back, or generally that he does want me back?
Sorry for that long ramble, and its probably been confusing
Just a bit confusing. I think you've gotta decide: a) carry on with the the double arrangement- not really that good cos it may generate a lot of distrust and nightmares

b) Decide who you really wanna be with

And why not try asking your ex how he really feels (not on msn, not on the phone but face to face)
Reply 2
Havent got the foggiest.
Reply 3
Anyone else have any ideas? Basically my ex could be genuinely interested and if he was id pick him, or he could be seeing whether id give up the other guy, who im flirting with for him, so could all backfire. Or see what the other guy really thinks and get him to open a bit and then see i supose, i hate the mind games :mad:
Reply 4
It means you should stay the hell away from him. I've seen that sort of thing before and it ends in a bit of a mess. Leave it. It's better that way.
deep for a second post, but..you keep going back to him cos you think he might want you back. clearly i don't know him so can't make any judgements but..u sure he doesnt keep going back to u cos...well, he knows he can? if u actually reject him next time he tries it on, you'll see what he wants
YOu need to stop being **** buddy with your 1st guy the longer it goes on the harder to get away emotionally you still have feelings for him but he don't for you, he is having his cake and eating it and your letting him in so easily and while you do that he is gonna come back for more thinking your easy meat, do you want to be seen like that. Why not try getting to know the other guy more.
Reply 7
He's playin you
Reply 8
I think hes probably using u...if u two have been sleepin together while hes been datin someone else, he clearly has no regard for ur feelings or his girlfriends :frown:

hes being a player, dump him, hes a Knob!