Fustrated

I have been going out with my girlfriend for over a year now and I love her dearly, but somethings have been tearing at me for some time now. For last uni year it has been an LDR because she is still at college, but I got home around once every two weeks or so and everything was great. Around exam time this year things started getting rather strained as she didnt have much time for anything and she started txting me less.

It has now got to the stage where I have to be damn lucky to get a reply to any of my txts. Things have been busy lately but ive made much time for her as I can but she never takes it. Earlier in the week she talked to me about breaking up because things werent the same anymore. I have to agree they werent, but I didnt want to give up on our relationship without trying to make things better (and we do love each other very much). I suggested a short break just after the holidays start so she has had time to relax and she is under less pressure from school. She agreed as she didnt really want to break up anymore than I did.

So far though this week I have txted her a few times and havent had any replies. Its just really getting to me and Im looking for advice. I just dont know what to do. Sometimes I feel like Im the only one really making the effort. Quite a few times recently I just feel ignored as she decides to spend time with her friends and not me. I find this very strange as when we are together it is very clear she still has strong feelings for me :frown:

. Help.

Reply 1

dh00001

16

difficult situation but one which many people will have been in.
the best thing you can do is TALK to her. ring her and tell her everything youve said there.
if she doesnt answer your call i dont realy know what to suggest

Reply 2

Amnesia

2

Stop doing all the work and sending her the messages. The best thing you can do is to ignore her yourself and see what she does. If she tries to contact you then you will know that she is still interested, if she doesn't I would say move on and find someone else who is committed. From what you have said it seems like she is not making much of an effort at all and seems quite rude. So give her this test and if she fails it get rid of her.

Reply 3

Hallie

I agree. Call her and talk it through. Maybe she's run out of credit? If so lend her some money and call it conditional aid. My friend did that to his gf and insisted that she spend half of it calling him to talk. It worked. They lasted another 6 months! Then other stuff got in the way, like parents.
I hope it works out for you. You sound like a caring guy *hugs*

Reply 4

Amnesia

2

Hallie

Maybe she's run out of credit?

Nice excuse! He seems to be making all the effort here and according to him she has ignored his texts very regularly. That is not acceptable behaviour.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

I know she hasnt run out of credit. When she has been with me she has used it to txt the occassional friend. Plus when she ran out of credit in the past she used to email me to tell me :frown:

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Reply 6

wendizzle22

1

Um, I thought you agreed on a break - maybe she's confused as to why you don't seem to be giving her one. Maybe you should have one last call to discuss what constitutes a break (eg. whether texting is allowed and no meeting, or no contact at all.)

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

We did, but really I thought that just not seeing each other in person is enough. Plus she didnt complain when she was online on msn. Well I wont txt her for a few days then phone her. Time for bed now.

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