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What do you imagine your wedding day to be like?
I'm dreading it. I don't enjoy being the centre of attention or being around large groups of people... my mother has hoards of friends who will all be expecting invites. We were talking about my future wedding (lol) and she insists they MUST be invited as a show of respect and friendship 
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I want it to be a small, intimate affair. My Mum, Dad, brother, other close family members and friends + my future husband's family and close friends. I don't want many guests or for it to be OTT. Is that weird? The wedding day celebration doesn't really mean as much to me as other girls I know as I've never really had the whole bride centre of attention fantasy. Wasting so much money for one day is just insane imo... My parents have told me how little they spent on their day (they couldn't afford much at the time) and they've been together for over 25 years!
I'm interested in how others feel about them/imagine their wedding day to be like.
.I want it to be a small, intimate affair. My Mum, Dad, brother, other close family members and friends + my future husband's family and close friends. I don't want many guests or for it to be OTT. Is that weird? The wedding day celebration doesn't really mean as much to me as other girls I know as I've never really had the whole bride centre of attention fantasy. Wasting so much money for one day is just insane imo... My parents have told me how little they spent on their day (they couldn't afford much at the time) and they've been together for over 25 years!
I'm interested in how others feel about them/imagine their wedding day to be like.
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Haha op i know how you feel.
Being somali, my mums probs going to invite the whole of England
I, like you, however want a small wedding (just family and close friends) and spend more money on the honeymoon, God willing. I honestly don't see the point of spending thousands on just one night. I know someone who spent a fortune on her wedding and got divorced a year later.
I already have an idea of what my wedding dress will look like lol
Being somali, my mums probs going to invite the whole of England
I, like you, however want a small wedding (just family and close friends) and spend more money on the honeymoon, God willing. I honestly don't see the point of spending thousands on just one night. I know someone who spent a fortune on her wedding and got divorced a year later.I already have an idea of what my wedding dress will look like lol
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I also want a smallish wedding but knowing my relatives they'll be bringing people I haven't seen before in my life 
A traditional heathen ceremony; dancing naked around flames with some sort of animal sacrifice
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Seriously though if I ever get married like you OP I'd want a small wedding with only mine and my partners close friends and relatives, I don't like being the centre of attention either. I'd probably get nagged into having a huge white wedding and reception by my mother though
Seriously though if I ever get married like you OP I'd want a small wedding with only mine and my partners close friends and relatives, I don't like being the centre of attention either. I'd probably get nagged into having a huge white wedding and reception by my mother though
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Original post by michaelhaych
A traditional heathen ceremony; dancing naked around flames with some sort of animal sacrifice
Original post by Secretnerd123
Haha op i know how you feel.
Being somali, my mums probs going to invite the whole of England I, like you, however want a small wedding (just family and close friends) and spend more money on the honeymoon, God willing. I honestly don't see the point of spending thousands on just one night. I know someone who spent a fortune on her wedding and got divorced a year later.
I already have an idea of what my wedding dress will look like lol
Being somali, my mums probs going to invite the whole of England
I, like you, however want a small wedding (just family and close friends) and spend more money on the honeymoon, God willing. I honestly don't see the point of spending thousands on just one night. I know someone who spent a fortune on her wedding and got divorced a year later.I already have an idea of what my wedding dress will look like lol
Looool! Same. My Mum will invite every person she has ever met *sigh*. Sadly, my idea of a wedding is completely incompatible with what every Somali woman in my family is expecting haha. Exactly, I'd rather spend more on the honeymoon instead of wasting it on the ceremony.
I want to wear flowers in my hair and a pretty white dress
Original post by thenewone61
I'm dreading it. I don't enjoy being the centre of attention or being around large groups of people... my mother has hoards of friends who will all be expecting invites. We were talking about my future wedding (lol) and she insists they MUST be invited as a show of respect and friendship .
I want it to be a small, intimate affair. My Mum, Dad, brother, other close family members and friends + my future husband's family and close friends. I don't want many guests or for it to be OTT. Is that weird? The wedding day celebration doesn't really mean as much to me as other girls I know as I've never really had the whole bride centre of attention fantasy. Wasting so much money for one day is just insane imo... My parents have told me how little they spent on their day (they couldn't afford much at the time) and they've been together for over 25 years!
I'm interested in how others feel about them/imagine their wedding day to be like.
.I want it to be a small, intimate affair. My Mum, Dad, brother, other close family members and friends + my future husband's family and close friends. I don't want many guests or for it to be OTT. Is that weird? The wedding day celebration doesn't really mean as much to me as other girls I know as I've never really had the whole bride centre of attention fantasy. Wasting so much money for one day is just insane imo... My parents have told me how little they spent on their day (they couldn't afford much at the time) and they've been together for over 25 years!
I'm interested in how others feel about them/imagine their wedding day to be like.
You should put your own selfish excuses aside and make this happen for your parents who want to show everyone how proud of you they are and this sort of makes up for their own small wedding.
Everyone will be there for you, so you need to put your guard down and stop being para gurl.
I will invite everyone I know, even my nemesis
Original post by Maximillion.
You should put your own selfish excuses aside and make this happen for your parents who want to show everyone how proud of you they are and this sort of makes up for their own small wedding.
Everyone will be there for you, so you need to put your guard down and stop being para gurl.
Everyone will be there for you, so you need to put your guard down and stop being para gurl.
Surely a wedding should really be how the couple getting married wants it?
Original post by gemmam
Surely a wedding should really be how the couple getting married wants it?
I don't think the OP is white perphaps Asian, there are certain expectations - a duty if you will.
Original post by Maximillion.
You should put your own selfish excuses aside and make this happen for your parents who want to show everyone how proud of you they are and this sort of makes up for their own small wedding.
Everyone will be there for you, so you need to put your guard down and stop being para gurl.
Everyone will be there for you, so you need to put your guard down and stop being para gurl.
Oh shut up, it's my wedding day LOL. Wanting to have an intimate, quiet wedding with close family and friends means I'm putting my guard up?
Tone down the BS superior psychologist act, you're not fooling anybody.
Don't worry.
I'll make sure your mother invites all of England
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Original post by Maximillion.
I don't think the OP is white perphaps Asian, there are certain expectations - a duty if you will.
I'm half Somali, half Russian. Not Asian. There is no "duty", only the expectation of a huge party as a majority of girls are pressured to do. I don't want one, so there will not be one. My parents respect that (my Dad does not care one iota) and my Mum has said if it were her own wedding she would have loads of people there etc. She is aware that it is not her wedding and therefore not her responsibility. No duty here!
I'm almost sure we'll be getting married abroad with a large reception when we come back. I was looking at a hotel in Cyprus right by the sea and it has a long, wide stone pier that goes out in to the sea with a large stone circle on the end which is where the ceremony takes place. It looks breathtaking. I'd need a rather lightweight dress, something between these two gorgeous pieces.
Original post by Katie_p
I hope it will be me, the lucky man/woman, witnesses and registrar. Possibly parents. Possibly.
Followed by a party of about 200-300 people.
Followed by a party of about 200-300 people.
Lol that's a lot of people! Who would all them be? If you don't mind my asking, why is the presence of your parents not so certain?
I'd love a wedding near the coast just so after getting married I can just go for a peaceful walk along the coast with my new wife.
Original post by thenewone61
Lol that's a lot of people! Who would all them be? If you don't mind my asking, why is the presence of your parents not so certain?
Party would be my extended family - roughly 30 people, plus partner's extended family. With current bf that could easily reach 50 people including all the plus ones and kids.
Then close friends - 15-20 each, some old school/family friends - 10 each, and the extended friendship circles and all their plus ones! I can't imagine inviting fewer than 150 people and having fewer than 100 actually present, even if we tried to limit the invites somewhat!
And parents in uncertain because if I have the kind of tiny ceremony I want, I wouldn't want parents there - my current bf's parents are separated anyway, so there's twice as many. Plus if I invited parents, they'd expect my to invite siblings. It's just that once you start inviting anyone, it's difficult to draw the line.
If I'm perfectly honest, my absolute perfect wedding would be spur-of-the-moment squeeze us in before the end of the day, wearing jeans and a t-shirt or whatever, followed by party a few weeks later.
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