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Problem with the ex

I guess this is just me venting off and coming to an end- I've been crying my eyes out for hours on end and quite frankly I feel like I'm falling apart, because I'm afraid. I'm afraid of feeling this lonely. I split from my boyfriend a while ago, we ended on surprisingly good terms and have stayed friends. However, over the past few weeks, we've been flirting slightly more than usual. I thought it was ok, I was gaining my confidence and I knew I wouldn't get back with him.

However, things came to a head wednesday night, when he told me things can't go on like this and that this isn't the way to move on. I do agree, but still that doesn't stop me feeling distraught. I've now lost him as a friend; just like the other friends I recently lost. I feel so alone and just feel like I've been officially dumped again.

I know the answer is to get out there, have a good time with my friends and enjoy life. But I don't want to. Its taken me 3/4 months to get over him..and I thought I had.

So how do I get through this now? I'm totally clueless and want him. :frown:

Sorry for the length of the post.
Reply 1
DONT Worry it takes 4-6 months to get over them. just distract urself. it will feel like he is the best and u cant get over him but sure enough someone else will come along.

i just got this weird feeling now that i cant deal with the emotion orr not having my bf to emotionally depend on when/if we break up. that makes no sense right? well i just got a bit scared of putting myself on the line and then having to deal with the whole break up. but i guess when we do i will already have lost some of the feelings....
Reply 2
janesmith
DONT Worry it takes 4-6 months to get over them. just distract urself. it will feel like he is the best and u cant get over him but sure enough someone else will come along.

i just got this weird feeling now that i cant deal with the emotion orr not having my bf to emotionally depend on when/if we break up. that makes no sense right? well i just got a bit scared of putting myself on the line and then having to deal with the whole break up. but i guess when we do i will already have lost some of the feelings....



but I truly felt I was over him...and now I have to 'get over' him all over again. :frown:


You make total sense...being a aprt of a relationship means being able to balance and deal with both of your feelings.
Reply 3
To the OP,I get where you are coming from. I was in a very similar position & still am sort of. Thought I was over him, then felt I wasn't. Still feel lonely & a bit hurt even tho its been 8 months. I know this doesn't really help but its just to say I know how you feel! :knuddel: