Why do the guys I fancy seem to be hung up on other girls?

Yeah kinda... (what constitutes 'first move/indication of interest'?)

??

Well it's damaged my confidence massively and now I just try not to show any interest in guys. But as that can be quite difficult(/impossible?), I've decided to change my looks as well; I'm trying to lose even more weight, change my hair, improve my fashion sense (although I've always been quite the fashionista), invest in more make-up etc Tbf, I'm doing those things for me; to make myself feel confident again, but in all honesty, I feel like the way I look is the biggest problem, so I'm hoping that all this change will help things.

They're quite interpretive. Why don't you tell us what indications you picked up on.

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This happens to me ALL the time. It's so damn frustrating. And I don't fall for guys easily (I'm actually quite picky) so when I do and find out that there's another girl involved I just.. It's like what's the point in even trying anymore if there's always going to be that one girl from their past that they've known for a while and have feelings for. How can you compete with that? You can't.

Approaching, asking for a number, texting ?? Call me clueless but I never know if these are indicative of interest as some guys cycle through this stuff for an ego boost or to 'practice' their 'game' or summat or might just be friendly. A guy once did this (approached, got chatting) but then asked me who this other chick was standing nearby (wtf ???) but continued to chat and asked for a number. Found it difficult to take any IOIs seriously after that I mean who does that? (these situations are why I get confused and often dismiss/remain oblivious to IOIs)

Well if he didn't receive one back is logical he'd give up and move on.

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Because they are better then you im afraid. Men in demand rarely settle for second best.

The same way that you don't want to .

I see. In what way might I ask? Bear in mind these guys I've met only recently and starting to get to know when I find out that they might hold a flame for someone else - would the statement still hold true? How could I rectify this issue and become 'better'?

(this is doing wonders for my self confidence )

I'm sorry babes but its a part of life , everyone has gone through this at one point , even the hottest of chicks because there is ALWAYS someone out there more attractive and appealing then you .

All you can really do is move on , accept it and work to make yourself more attractive / appealing (thats if this is the issue) , it might just be that your crush actually loves this person and there is nothing you can do to change this.

I wouldn't really ask you to rectify anything , as long as your confident in your appearance and you have a outgoing personality then it's only a matter of time until someone shows interest in you . Though it seems to me that your very picky so obviously your gonna have a harder time . If you want to take fate into your own hands then perhaps learning to flirt well , investing effort into your appearance and widening your social circle / going out more / expanding your interests is a good idea ?

i think your "intuition" may be wrong, just because hes in photos with other girls doesnt mean anything.

Really? What about multiple photos with a certain girl where he's leaning in towards her and has a sort of 'puppy dog' expression on his face?

yes, that may be the case some of the time but not always, you shouldnt just give up based on a photo