Feeling so used...

I've just been talking to my ex on msn. I still care about him so tried to help him with some personal issues (which I won't talk about in detail here). He has some serious social problems which he needs to sort out otherwise he will get nowhere in life. They are stopping him interacting with people healthly and getting a job.

Anyway, he didn't like the way I was telling him what would happen and how he could help himself. So he turned nasty. He told me to F off and that he only used me for sex. I feel really bad. When I was going out with him, I loved him very much so much I let him take my virginity. I should have kept myself for someone much better. I feel so used and I feel rubbish. I'm feeling down.

We officially broke up in April but I've seen him twice since, both times I was stupid enough to let him take advantage of me again. I slept with him. He managed to convince me to meet him, saying things like "I miss you" etc. He wanted to meet me next Monday, but I am definately not going to see him, because I'm not letting him use me again.

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

so what exactly do you want us to do about it???

Reply 2

Appanouki

You need to find the strength to not forgive him for being an ******* like that and never let him back into your life again. I know that's easier said than done, but it does have to be done.

Reply 3

MikeyB!

He's probably just trying to hurt you, ignore him.

Reply 4

cinder

This is why you avoid any ex like the plauge

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

I'm not going to see him again. I posted this because I thought that I'd probably get some emotional support because I'm feeling down.

Reply 6

Anonymous #3

I hate to say this but some guys are like that.. they try and tell you all the nice things in the world just so they can use you for sex. And we're so stupid we believe them. Please rise above it and don't let him use you again. Your worth more than that and dont sell youself short. I know you were trying to help him, but its not your duty to help him. He has to help himself. Hes old enough and aware of his problem, enough so that he should be able to get help for himself. SCREW HIM! if he can use you the way he did (it happened to me as well) he can do it again, and he will try. He'll have this ego that won't want you to let him go. Its not that he wants you.. its that he doesnt want you not to want him!
BE STRONG!

Reply 7

rocketboy86

telling her to screw him won't help the situation, isn't she trying to avoid that scenario? :P

Reply 8

indy_punk

Just tell him that you tried to help him and hes hurt you and walk away and never go back to him.Any person who makes you cry isint worth your tears!!

Reply 9

Anonymous #4

I never said I used you for sex. I will say that you are stupid though. Here is the conversation paraphrased:

Her: You were so clingy and affectionate to me because you've never had anyone care for you or love you at home...am I right?

Me: You're not a psychlogist or sociologist

Her: I know...but I just want to help...am I right?

Me: Maybe I was using you for sex

Her: Maybe...

Me: But you should know since you know everything

Her: Give me a straight answer and stop playing games

Me: I'm just trying to show you how you never knew me and don't trust me
[And are not qualified to give advice]

Her: So you WERE using me for sex

Me: **** Off

I think it was justified myself. Furthermore, I don't care.

Reply 10

username47781

cinder

This is why you avoid any ex like the plauge

totally agree who in the right frame of mind would slept with their ex just for sex, it just makes the whole thing worse and take longer to get over the ex.