feel rubbish

lots of bad things have been happening to me recently. as a result i feel like self harming...well i just feel suicidal and sooo down. this year has to be the worst ever, i dont know what to do. i feel soo isolated like theres no one to talk to about how i am feeling

i dont really want to say what bad things have been happening to me since i feel its really immature (some of them) but heres some of them

-dislocated my knee, torn tissue, couldnt walk, nearly jeopardised family holiday, might need operation
-family problems/arguments
-rubbish exam performance
-family pressuring me
-lots of embarasing moments at school
-feelings for someone arent reciprocated back

trust me they are worse than you think and i feel soo crap

Reply 1

Dramatic Star

2

It sounds like you have a lot of pressure on you at the moment. :frown:

Lots of things seemed to have built up and you seem like you are struggling to cope (although you probably already know that!). The best thing to do is to put things into perspective- issues will come and go. Yeah, you'll have new ones but life is all about facing the challenges and overcoming them. It may seem like a struggle, but you can do it!

How about going to see a councilor? You say you have problems with your family- is there no way you can talk to them about it and say that you have a lot of problems and tension in the family really isn't helping? & I'm not being funny, but have you had your results back from your exams yet? You may have done great- most people think the worst about exams until they get their results. As for feelings for someone- everyone has to get hurt before they find someone. Yeah it hurts like mad but time is a great healer (what a cliche!) & you will soon move on.

Just keep smiling. Life is a bitch but its up to you to make life fun.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

i have thought about seeing a councilor but im off school till september. (theres a school councilor) i really do feel suicidal...i cant cope.....ive lost my appetite..im crying all the time

and well i would be a bit embarased talking to the school councilor about it...i think its stupid and immature- some of my problems but its a problem for me

i missed out loadsa questions and guessed most of them so i cant have done very well in my exams...espesh chemistry/physics/maths

Reply 3

Dramatic Star

2

You really need to go and see a councilor asap! Go to your doctor & they should be able to point you in the right direction. Your problems are not stupid & immature- they are affecting your life. You need to talk to someone professional or at least a close friend about it. Believe me it will make you feel 10 times better.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

ill go and see a councilor asap. i just feel really stupid and useless...i really dont want my parents knowing though, theyll just criticize me and say im chilidish. ive tried talking to them but they just dismissed it...

Reply 5

abc101

17

Your problems aren't stupid if they're affecting you so much, so please don't feel embarrassed about talking to someone. Everyone feels really down at some point, and even the smallest things that you don't think anyone else will care about can make you feel absolutely terrible. But you won't feel this down forever! There's no point worrying about your exams until you get your results, so just try to relax till then. Hope your knee's better by the way! Try and keep your chin up and just try to find little things to cheer you up - watching a funny cartoon or anything to bring a smile to your face. Maybe you could go to your GP and ask to be referred to a counsellor? I'm pretty sure they wouldn't have to notify your parents about it. Talking things through with someone can really help! I hope you feel happier soon.

Reply 6

David Beckham

Anonymous

lots of bad things have been happening to me recently. as a result i feel like self harming...well i just feel suicidal and sooo down. this year has to be the worst ever, i dont know what to do. i feel soo isolated like theres no one to talk to about how i am feeling

i dont really want to say what bad things have been happening to me since i feel its really immature (some of them) but heres some of them

-dislocated my knee, torn tissue, couldnt walk, nearly jeopardised family holiday, might need operation
-family problems/arguments
-rubbish exam performance
-family pressuring me
-lots of embarasing moments at school
-feelings for someone arent reciprocated back

trust me they are worse than you think and i feel soo crap

Let's talk on a higher level.

I feel rubbish too. Everytime I take out the trash for Victoria, y'know. So what I do is I.....

identify the trash in my life, the stuff I don't like feeling
find a bin, an outlet of some sort
and let go, yeah, just let go of it

Reply 7

Sezkin

11

Anonymous

lots of bad things have been happening to me recently. as a result i feel like self harming...well i just feel suicidal and sooo down. this year has to be the worst ever, i dont know what to do. i feel soo isolated like theres no one to talk to about how i am feeling

i dont really want to say what bad things have been happening to me since i feel its really immature (some of them) but heres some of them

-dislocated my knee, torn tissue, couldnt walk, nearly jeopardised family holiday, might need operation
-family problems/arguments
-rubbish exam performance
-family pressuring me
-lots of embarasing moments at school
-feelings for someone arent reciprocated back

trust me they are worse than you think and i feel soo crap

I felt so upset for you reading that post, this post sounds similar to someone I know, however I'll try and help; first of all don't feel suicidal at all, think of what the future can bring to you if you improve and get help from other people like friends, countillors..etc.

Plus if it is you, I want to say that you're a fabulous friend probably the best I've ever had, I love sharing funny stories with you and going out with you to fun places! You make my days light up and I'm missing you whilst you're on holiday right now :biggrin:

.

To summarise: You're a funny, fabulous, bubbly and pretty friend! And I wish you've told me how you felt inside, I would have tried to help however,I know you might try to hide those feeling inside and let out a funny, bubbly personality to dismiss those feelings... try and talk to someone, it really does help .

I think everyone has these moments were they feel like ****e and can't be bothered with life; I know for a fact that I do but I talk to someone about it, we all have these up and downs in life, all you have to do to bring those 'up' in life is to work at it and get help whilst you're at it :smile:

.

"Dislocated my knee, torn tissue, couldnt walk, nearly jeopardised family holiday, might need operation"

You're on hoilday now so try and relax and enjoy it as much as possible, deal with your problems when you get home.

If your knee is suffering; try and rest your knee when you have time and rest it for many hours possible. When you're walking, wear those knee brace as they help stop the knee going out of place. Also do those excerises that your doctor has told you to do possibly every day for a few minute, it's worth a try :nurse:

.

Most people worry about operations, but think of the positive outcomes to it; your knee will recover and you won't have more problems with it in the long run. Also your friends, family, teachers and people like nurses, doctors..etc would be there for you; gosh most people would have to love you, you're the funniest person I know! :p:

;kissing2;

:suitd:

"family problems/arguments"

This can affect homelife and confidence, but when your family has an arguement, try to stay calm; take a deep breath. Count to 10, or 100, if it helps.

If you want to talk to the family, it's best to talk to one of the family member so you can have a heart to heart talk, just think before you speak, and consider whether it is something you might regret having said tomorrow!

Don't say something stupid or mean just because you are angry and upset like this :grr:

. But if one of the family member won't cor-oprate try and talk to your whole family about how you feel. Make sure that everyone is there - not just the family member you've been having trouble with. The conflict affects everyone in the family. Let the person you've been fighting with also have their say.

Also let the other person know that you consider what they say to be important, and that you will treat them with respect whether or not you agree or disagree with them. Do not scream at the other person, or speak abusively. Be kind even while you differ, and be willing to be reconciled to them (whether or not you reach an agreement in your argument). :cool:

;sorry; Apologise if you have done anything wrong (even if it was only a bad attitude). The other person will be more motivated to apoligize if you do and If you have done all this and have failed to diffuse the argument, walk away for the time being and allow the other person (and yourself) to cool off. The next day, when they have had time to think about the situation , they may change their mind and decide to make up with you.

There are other ways to deal with it if your family arguemenst are getting worse:

You could find someone outside of the conflict to confide in. Make sure that it's someone who will listen to you without taking sides or spreading your confidence. Vent to them when something goes wrong, and let them help you sort out your feelings. ;grouphugs;

OR consider going to family therapy. Someone with professional training might be able to find the source of the problem and help solve it. Take it seriously.

:suitd:

" rubbish exam performance"

I have to say, what done is done, you can't go back and change the time but you can learn from it for next time.

Try and keep motivated; Always, always, always stay with the good people in your life and listen to the good encouragements.

Tell yourself that you want whatever it is very badly. The more you feel the urge to have it, the more motivated you'll feel. To get yourself to realise your urge for wanting something, take a couple of minutes and think about how much you want it-this is guaranteed to evoke motivation.

:suitd:

"family pressurising me"

your family pressurising you to get top grades than you think you're capable of must feel awful, an example could be when you get a good grade like B but they're not happy about it and wnat you to get A.

You could try and talk to your family about this and sort things out between you both. If that doesn't work,consider writing a letter from your heart to your parents about how they have made you feel. Don't make it a letter full of blame. Talk about how their unrealistic expectations cause you to feel lots of pressure and tension. Tell them that you don't want them to love you or be proud of you only when you live up to their expectations. Though It would be great if you could sit down with them together and have a calm talk about what you feel

:suitd:

"lots of embarassing moments at school"

Don't worry about this too much, everyone would have forgotten about it by teh end of the school holiday. Try to forget about it as the days go by and learn from it. you could even go back to it in the future and laugh at the embaressing things as if it's no big deal.

:suitd:

Feelings for someone arent reciprocated back

Clear everything out of your life that reminds you of him. Pictures, songs, clothing articles, other personal items - everything must go! Also commit completely to getting over him. If you allow yourself to have doubts, or be weak, it will drag on and on. Repeat over and over to yourself - I don't need him.

Get out and meet people. If possible, try to meet another special somene. Having a new man in your life is the best way to forget about someone. Not only will they keep you busy, they'll put in your mind all the good things your ex never did, or the bad things your ex did but your new boyfriend doesn't.
Hang out with your girlfriends as much as possible. They'll help you get through it, listen to you rant, keep your mind off things, and eat ice cream with you. Plus, you'll remember how much you like them all, and how fun they are.

Write 20 or more of your good qualities and keep reading them over and over, adding as you think of some. It's important to remember that you are a beautiful, amazing person and you will find love again. AND last of all let time pass. The more it goes, the easier it will get. Time DOES heal all.

Sorry that this is too long, but I hope it helps you out with life. :hugs:

Sezkin

XxX

Reply 8

David Beckham

Sezkin

I felt so upset for you reading that post, this post sounds similar to someone I know, however I'll try and help; first of all don't feel suicidal at all, think of what the future can bring to you if you improve and get help from other people like friends, countillors..etc.

Plus if it is you, I want to say that you're a fabulous friend probably the best I've ever had, I love sharing funny stories with you and going out with you to fun places! You make my days light up and I'm missing you whilst you're on holiday right now :biggrin:

.

To summarise: You're a funny, fabulous, bubbly and pretty friend! And I wish you've told me how you felt inside, I know you might try to hide those feeling inside and let out a funny, bubbly personality to dismiss those feelings... try and talk to someone, it really does help . I think everyone has these moments were they feel like ****e and can't be bothered with life; I know for a fact that I do but I talk to someone about it, we all have these up and downs in life, all you have to do to bring those 'up' in life is to work at it and get help whilst you're at it :smile:

.

"Dislocated my knee, torn tissue, couldnt walk, nearly jeopardised family holiday, might need operation"

You're on hoilday now so try and relax and enjoy it as much as possible, deal with your problems when you get home.

If your knee is suffering; try and rest your knee when you have time and rest it for many hours possible. When you're walking, wear those knee brace as they help stop the knee going out of place. Also do those excerises that your doctor has told you to do possibly every day for a few minute, it's worth a try :nurse:

.

Most people worry about operations, but think of the positive outcomes to it; your knee will recover and you won't have more problems with it in the long run. Also your friends, family, teachers and people like nurses, doctors..etc would be there for you; gosh most people would have to love you, you're the funniest person I know! :p:

;kissing2;

:suitd:

"family problems/arguments"

This can affect homelife and confidence, but when your family has an arguement, try to stay calm; take a deep breath. Count to 10, or 100, if it helps.

If you want to talk to the family, it's best to talk to one of the family member so you can have a heart to heart talk, just think before you speak, and consider whether it is something you might regret having said tomorrow!

Don't say something stupid or mean just because you are angry and upset like this :grr:

. But if one of the family member won't cor-oprate try and talk to your whole family about how you feel. Make sure that everyone is there - not just the family member you've been having trouble with. The conflict affects everyone in the family. Let the person you've been fighting with also have their say.

Also let the other person know that you consider what they say to be important, and that you will treat them with respect whether or not you agree or disagree with them. Do not scream at the other person, or speak abusively. Be kind even while you differ, and be willing to be reconciled to them (whether or not you reach an agreement in your argument). :cool:

;sorry; Apologise if you have done anything wrong (even if it was only a bad attitude). The other person will be more motivated to apoligize if you do and If you have done all this and have failed to diffuse the argument, walk away for the time being and allow the other person (and yourself) to cool off. The next day, when they have had time to think about the situation , they may change their mind and decide to make up with you.

There are other ways to deal with it if your family arguemenst are getting worse:

You could find someone outside of the conflict to confide in. Make sure that it's someone who will listen to you without taking sides or spreading your confidence. Vent to them when something goes wrong, and let them help you sort out your feelings. ;grouphugs;

OR consider going to family therapy. Someone with professional training might be able to find the source of the problem and help solve it. Take it seriously.

:suitd:

" rubbish exam performance"

I have to say, what done is done, you can't go back and change the time but you can learn from it for next time.

Try and keep motivated; always Always, always, always stay with the good people in your life and listen to the good encouragements.

Tell yourself that you want whatever it is very badly. The more you feel the urge to have it, the more motivated you'll feel. To get yourself to realise your urge for wanting something, take a couple of minutes and think about how much you want it-this is guaranteed to evoke motivation.

:suitd:

"family pressurising me"

your family pressurising you to get top grades than you think you're capable of must feel awful, an example could be when you get a good grade like B but they're not happy about it and wnat you to get A. You could try and talk to your family about this and sort things out between you both. If that doesn't work,consider writing a letter from your heart to your parents about how they have made you feel. Don't make it a letter full of blame. Talk about how their unrealistic expectations cause you to feel lots of pressure and tension. Tell them that you don't want them to love you or be proud of you only when you live up to their expectations. Though It would be great if you could sit down with them together and have a calm talk about what you feel

:suitd:

"lots of embarassing moments at school"

Don't worry about this too much, everyone would have forgotten about it by teh end of the school holiday. Try to forget about it as the days go by and learn from it. you could even go back to it in the future and laugh at the embaressing things as if it's no big deal.

:suitd:

Feelings for someone arent reciprocated back

Clear everything out of your life that reminds you of him. Pictures, songs, clothing articles, other personal items - everything must go! Also commit completely to getting over him. If you allow yourself to have doubts, or be weak, it will drag on and on. Repeat over and over to yourself - I don't need him.

Get out and meet people. If possible, try to meet another special somene. Having a new man in your life is the best way to forget about someone. Not only will they keep you busy, they'll put in your mind all the good things your ex never did, or the bad things your ex did but your new boyfriend doesn't.
Hang out with your girlfriends as much as possible. They'll help you get through it, listen to you rant, keep your mind off things, and eat ice cream with you. Plus, you'll remember how much you like them all, and how fun they are.

Write 20 or more of your good qualities and keep reading them over and over, adding as you think of some. It's important to remember that you are a beautiful, amazing person and you will find love again. AND last of all let time pass. The more it goes, the easier it will get. Time DOES heal all.

Sorry that this is too long, but I hope it helps you out with life. :hugs:

Sezkin

XxX

I

Geordies, always so friendly and helpful! Sezzy, izzat a skort roond ya belt or a belt roond ya skort?

Reply 9

Sezkin

11

[QUOTE]

David Beckham

I

Geordies, always so friendly and helpful!

Thank you!..I think

Sezzy, izzat a skort roond ya belt or a belt roond ya skort

?

Whaaaattt? :eek3:

Sezkin

Reply 10

David Beckham

[QUOTE="Sezkin"]

Thank you!..I think

?

Whaaaattt? :eek3:

Sezkin

Something Mikey Owen said to Victoria for a laugh. You're from the Toon, you should know what it means.... say it as it sounds!

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

aww thank you sezkin. i have to say that was beautiful, im missing you soo much, i havnt spoken properly in 3 weeks....i want to talk to you..spending 3 weeks with family.....its brilliant here....but i wish you were with me :smile:

feel rubbish

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