18 year old Male, still a virgin

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Im 18, a male, reasonably good looking, a nice guy, yet still a virgin. How? I really dont know, if it is not because I have never had a girlfriend, is it because I am too much of a "nice guy"?

Anyway it has come to depress me now, after discovering tonight that my friend who does not work, is not amazing looking, has no qualifications and lives off his mum had sex with a 32 year old, it does makes me feel hopeless. I have a friend who works in a coffee shop, he was having a fling with a 30 year old mother of three in which he brought evidence to my frontdoor, it is stuff like this which makes me look in the mirror and feel pathetic, everybody I know thinks im not a virgin due to my confidence and decent looks, yet it is the total opposite. The closest I got was when I was 17 and made out with a girl abroad with my mates, due to not having a condom the night was over fast, the sight of a bare penis caused her to conjur up about the only word she spoke in English, which was, "disgusting".

There has been two occasions where sex seemed inevitable, but there has always been something to get in the way. The first time I was pulled into a bedroom at a house party by a good looking girl, she found out I was a boxer and tried kissing me, groping me and then layed on the bed, but my loyalty to my bestfriend who passed out hours before meant I did not proceed, he had deep feelings for her at the time. On the second occasion I was visiting my future University, and me and some friends went clubbing. Two sisters (one 19 and one 26 + engaged) found out I was a boxer, and started putting hands up my shirt etc, they made it very clear they wanted me to come back to their house and I was confident this was the moment I would go from pathetic and weak boy into a man, but my ******* friend saved the day by scaring them off and trying to kiss them before we exchanged numbers, you are correct in thinking I had a go at him in the middle of the club. When I am out I get excited by the smallest interaction with females, a 26 year old aquaintance asked to dance with me recently when out, I would not have had sex with this particular girl but the feeling that she thought I was attractive enough to grind on made me feel good.

As I mentioned before, everyone assumes I am not a virgin because I seem to fit the bill as one of the guys who would have lost it early to a girlfriend, I am decent looking, confident yet humble and nice, an athlete with a good body among other positive things. I am by no means perfect, I have braces lol around socially confident people I can be awkward, I also get intimidated by people who have had sex due to feeling like they are more of a "adult" therefore "man" than me. I would be lying if I said a PART of the reason I am going to University is to discover myself better socially, sexually etc and I am really looking forward to it and hope it will help me.

Are there any other 18+ virgins here? would you consider yourself decent looking? do you think we are a minority?

I ask these questions because my friends who do know im a virgin always say I am late....

Thanks everyone, hope this sparks an intereting debate.

Why are you bothered? There's no 'mandatory age' you have to have had sex by.

Just try and enjoy your life and if sex happens then that's lovely

I'm A pretty ugly dude 18 and a virgin I'm socially awkward ever since I was diagnosed aspergers which means I am unable to feel emotions and social cue. I always say the wrong things to girls and afraid to speak to one randomly. I don't work or go out much dropped out of school got my ged I have arthritis in my neck and shoulders painful every day. I don't have looks neither the confidence but before I was diagnosed with all that **** I use to make out with girls in middle school I was still ugly I also made out with 1 girl in high school . No girl really wanted to go out with me my personality was great though. I no longer have it any more . I wear a hat to cover my face now and have not ever took it off when I'm outside now. I think I'm screwed. I also feel physically unconfident and as a guy it really sucks at 18 to be this way.

That's saying no additional grains if rice will ever make a heap. Absolute *******s.

You should have had sex by the end of year 11. Anything after that means you were a social failure.

I'm 35 m virgin. I stopped caring about it when i hit 30. It made me very sad and there are still times were i feel down but Like others have said there is more to life then loosing your verginity

Im 18, a male, reasonably good looking, a nice guy, yet still a virgin. How? I really dont know, if it is not because I have never had a girlfriend, is it because I am too much of a "nice guy"?

Anyway it has come to depress me now, after discovering tonight that my friend who does not work, is not amazing looking, has no qualifications and lives off his mum had sex with a 32 year old, it does makes me feel hopeless. I have a friend who works in a coffee shop, he was having a fling with a 30 year old mother of three in which he brought evidence to my frontdoor, it is stuff like this which makes me look in the mirror and feel pathetic, everybody I know thinks im not a virgin due to my confidence and decent looks, yet it is the total opposite. The closest I got was when I was 17 and made out with a girl abroad with my mates, due to not having a condom the night was over fast, the sight of a bare penis caused her to conjur up about the only word she spoke in English, which was, "disgusting".

There has been two occasions where sex seemed inevitable, but there has always been something to get in the way. The first time I was pulled into a bedroom at a house party by a good looking girl, she found out I was a boxer and tried kissing me, groping me and then layed on the bed, but my loyalty to my bestfriend who passed out hours before meant I did not proceed, he had deep feelings for her at the time. On the second occasion I was visiting my future University, and me and some friends went clubbing. Two sisters (one 19 and one 26 + engaged) found out I was a boxer, and started putting hands up my shirt etc, they made it very clear they wanted me to come back to their house and I was confident this was the moment I would go from pathetic and weak boy into a man, but my ******* friend saved the day by scaring them off and trying to kiss them before we exchanged numbers, you are correct in thinking I had a go at him in the middle of the club. When I am out I get excited by the smallest interaction with females, a 26 year old aquaintance asked to dance with me recently when out, I would not have had sex with this particular girl but the feeling that she thought I was attractive enough to grind on made me feel good.

As I mentioned before, everyone assumes I am not a virgin because I seem to fit the bill as one of the guys who would have lost it early to a girlfriend, I am decent looking, confident yet humble and nice, an athlete with a good body among other positive things. I am by no means perfect, I have braces lol around socially confident people I can be awkward, I also get intimidated by people who have had sex due to feeling like they are more of a "adult" therefore "man" than me. I would be lying if I said a PART of the reason I am going to University is to discover myself better socially, sexually etc and I am really looking forward to it and hope it will help me.

Are there any other 18+ virgins here? would you consider yourself decent looking? do you think we are a minority?

I ask these questions because my friends who do know im a virgin always say I am late....

Thanks everyone, hope this sparks an intereting debate.