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no sex before marriage
I was just wondering what peoples views on this were.
would you ever date someone who didnt believe in sex before marriage?
is it possible to change your mind?
would you ever date someone who didnt believe in sex before marriage?
is it possible to change your mind?
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yes to sex before marriage
but id still date someone who didnt believe in it
but id still date someone who didnt believe in it
I only plan to have sex within marriage and therefore hope that my future boyfriend will respect that. By "sex" I mean practically any sexual contact (well not kissing obviously). So yeah.
Hey I have a question for you,
If you believe in sex before marriage can you imagine yourself getting married to someone who you haven't slept with i.e. who doesn't believe in sex before marriage?
I'm sure it happens, but wondering what people of my age think about it.
If you believe in sex before marriage can you imagine yourself getting married to someone who you haven't slept with i.e. who doesn't believe in sex before marriage?
I'm sure it happens, but wondering what people of my age think about it.
tanusha-tomsk
Hey I have a question for you,
If you believe in sex before marriage can you imagine yourself getting married to someone who you haven't slept with i.e. who doesn't believe in sex before marriage?
I'm sure it happens, but wondering what people of my age think about it.
If you believe in sex before marriage can you imagine yourself getting married to someone who you haven't slept with i.e. who doesn't believe in sex before marriage?
I'm sure it happens, but wondering what people of my age think about it.
Smells like teen spirit.
When I started going out with my boyfriend, he was a Christian and I wasn't... so I believed in sex before marriage and he didn't. He only really spelt it out to me about 5 months in, when we'd done everything but.... 
Something I wouldn't advise, it was a huge shock. I was really upset and tried to change his mind, but he was pretty stubborn. Then we both got really drunk and slept together, and continued sleeping together for about 6 months. During that time I became a Christian and my beliefs changed hugely, we both knew that what we were doing wasn't right for us. So we stopped and haven't slept together since - that was 15 months ago (sheer will power in action there!)
So I guess my answer is that I unwittingly did, but by the time I knew, I was so much in love with him that I wouldn't have left him for the world. Guess it's better that way really, because if I'd known at the beginning of our relationship, I'm not that sure what I would have done.
Something I wouldn't advise, it was a huge shock. I was really upset and tried to change his mind, but he was pretty stubborn. Then we both got really drunk and slept together, and continued sleeping together for about 6 months. During that time I became a Christian and my beliefs changed hugely, we both knew that what we were doing wasn't right for us. So we stopped and haven't slept together since - that was 15 months ago (sheer will power in action there!)So I guess my answer is that I unwittingly did, but by the time I knew, I was so much in love with him that I wouldn't have left him for the world. Guess it's better that way really, because if I'd known at the beginning of our relationship, I'm not that sure what I would have done.
tanusha-tomsk
I only plan to have sex within marriage and therefore hope that my future boyfriend will respect that. By "sex" I mean practically any sexual contact (well not kissing obviously). So yeah.
well said. me too
we should start a soc. lol
May be they don't believe in sex before marriage, you just don't know they don't! It's personal for many people, and really none of one's business unless the two people are going out.
tanusha-tomsk
I only plan to have sex within marriage and therefore hope that my future boyfriend will respect that. By "sex" I mean practically any sexual contact (well not kissing obviously). So yeah.
impressive !!!
Psyk
I'm a strong believer in no sex before marriage so I probably couldn't go out with someone that believed otherwise. I would never be able to make that big a commitment without having sex first, so there's no way the relationship could work.
Is it just me, or does that sentence contradict itself...
Ok 1. Psyk has confused me by contradiction
2. I think you have to divide the question about 'Would you date...?' into somebody who believed in no penetrative sex before marriage, and somebody who believed in no sexual contact at all before marriage, as I think many people would be prepared to have a long term relationship where they couldn't have sex, but the number who would be in a relationship where they had to be celibate would be significantly fewer.
2. I think you have to divide the question about 'Would you date...?' into somebody who believed in no penetrative sex before marriage, and somebody who believed in no sexual contact at all before marriage, as I think many people would be prepared to have a long term relationship where they couldn't have sex, but the number who would be in a relationship where they had to be celibate would be significantly fewer.
I doubt I would date anyone who was saving sex for marriage. If it was for religious reasons, I wouldn't date anyone who was that religious in the first place...and if it wasn't for religious reasons, I wouldn't agree and don't generally get on with people who have such different opinions to mine.
Also, lets not confuse 'believing' in sex before marriage, because surely we all 'believe' in it, because it happens right?
We should simply ask if you would:
a) date someone who would have sex before marriage, or
b) date someone who wouldnt have sex before marriage.
Now personally, i won't have sex before marriage, because i believe that that is the right place for sex, and so it becomes difficult if you fall for someone with different views......
but then we cant help who we fall in love with right?
I guess that it comes down to how much you respect the other person, and if the answer to that is you respect them enough that you will happily not sleep with them before being married (without making snide remarks about being un-fullfilled, because this does NOT count as being respectful, for the record
) then thats fine and dandy, but if not, well, you surely can't respect them enough to want to have a long term relationship with them then, can you?
J x
We should simply ask if you would:
a) date someone who would have sex before marriage, or
b) date someone who wouldnt have sex before marriage.
Now personally, i won't have sex before marriage, because i believe that that is the right place for sex, and so it becomes difficult if you fall for someone with different views......
but then we cant help who we fall in love with right?
I guess that it comes down to how much you respect the other person, and if the answer to that is you respect them enough that you will happily not sleep with them before being married (without making snide remarks about being un-fullfilled, because this does NOT count as being respectful, for the record
) then thats fine and dandy, but if not, well, you surely can't respect them enough to want to have a long term relationship with them then, can you?J x
I would prefer to wait for marriage to have sex.
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