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Does anyone else feel intimidated in nightclubs?
I enjoy having nights out with my mates, but a lot of them usually want to go to nightclubs and I feel so intimidated in them. I'm an 18 year old girl and I always feel a bit weird there. I hate the crowded environment and I always feel slightly threatened by the other people (who are usually so drunk they dont know what theyre doing). I do drink, but I dont like getting really drunk - maybe thats part of the problem lol.
I always feel intimidated by the bouncers on the door - like I'm being judged or something, especially if theres a dress code. And when Im inside, I find it hard to enjoy myself as most of my mates are there just to get wasted and get off with everyone in sight. The clubs are usually dirty too and me and my mate actually got spat on once! I feel so out of place. I
Maybe its because most of the clubs round my way are grotty, but does anyone else feel like this? Or do you think once I've gone to uni and found like-minded friends that I'll feel differently? I like the idea of clubs but I just hate going to them and being expected to get blind-drunk and be felt up like a piece of meat or something lol
I always feel intimidated by the bouncers on the door - like I'm being judged or something, especially if theres a dress code. And when Im inside, I find it hard to enjoy myself as most of my mates are there just to get wasted and get off with everyone in sight. The clubs are usually dirty too and me and my mate actually got spat on once! I feel so out of place. I
Maybe its because most of the clubs round my way are grotty, but does anyone else feel like this? Or do you think once I've gone to uni and found like-minded friends that I'll feel differently? I like the idea of clubs but I just hate going to them and being expected to get blind-drunk and be felt up like a piece of meat or something lol
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Anonymous
I hate the crowded environment.. I always feel slightly threatened by the other people..I dont like getting really drunk..I always feel intimidated by the bouncers on the door...I find it hard to enjoy myself as most of my mates are there just to get wasted and get off with everyone in sight..I feel so out of place
Anonymous
I like the idea of clubs
lol
That was helpful 
I know that sounds a bit contradictory but I have had good nights out before at some clubs, its just ones round me where people seem quite threatening
I know that sounds a bit contradictory but I have had good nights out before at some clubs, its just ones round me where people seem quite threatening
every club's different..depends on the crowd and also the owners (and bouncers etc)..ya just gotta find the right one for you really
Anonymous
That was helpful
I know that sounds a bit contradictory but I have had good nights out before at some clubs, its just ones round me where people seem quite threatening
I know that sounds a bit contradictory but I have had good nights out before at some clubs, its just ones round me where people seem quite threatening
Don't goto those clubs then. Why on earth did someone spit on you?
I guess your feelings may stem from the surroundings. Would you feel better if you were in some trendy cocktail bar / club rather than a club with chewing gum for carpet? What if you were there with some male friends to look after you?
i hate them too
Not a Club person either to be honest, i tend to go out with my mates to nice bars and pubs, and when they go to Clubs i just dont go with them. I find not only do i feel a bit intimidated going in, but once im in there for a while i feel really dirty. Just generally dont like them at all.
i enjoy clubs, but can feel claustrophobic when they are busy and smoky...i feel like i cant breath, so that means i dont enjoy it as much.
Anonymous
I enjoy having nights out with my mates, but a lot of them usually want to go to nightclubs and I feel so intimidated in them. I'm an 18 year old girl and I always feel a bit weird there. I hate the crowded environment and I always feel slightly threatened by the other people (who are usually so drunk they dont know what theyre doing). I do drink, but I dont like getting really drunk - maybe thats part of the problem lol.
I always feel intimidated by the bouncers on the door - like I'm being judged or something, especially if theres a dress code. And when Im inside, I find it hard to enjoy myself as most of my mates are there just to get wasted and get off with everyone in sight. The clubs are usually dirty too and me and my mate actually got spat on once! I feel so out of place. I
Maybe its because most of the clubs round my way are grotty, but does anyone else feel like this? Or do you think once I've gone to uni and found like-minded friends that I'll feel differently? I like the idea of clubs but I just hate going to them and being expected to get blind-drunk and be felt up like a piece of meat or something lol
I always feel intimidated by the bouncers on the door - like I'm being judged or something, especially if theres a dress code. And when Im inside, I find it hard to enjoy myself as most of my mates are there just to get wasted and get off with everyone in sight. The clubs are usually dirty too and me and my mate actually got spat on once! I feel so out of place. I
Maybe its because most of the clubs round my way are grotty, but does anyone else feel like this? Or do you think once I've gone to uni and found like-minded friends that I'll feel differently? I like the idea of clubs but I just hate going to them and being expected to get blind-drunk and be felt up like a piece of meat or something lol
The bouncers arnt there to be your friend, they're there to keep the scallies out. The dress code is there also to help the scallie filtering process, and if anyones being an arsehole at the door, its easier to keep them out by telling them they dont match up to the dresscode. just enjoy yourself with your friends.
all local clubs are crap, it's a scientific fact
alternatively go indie clubbing, they're all weedy wallflowers compared to the hordes of rapists at yr average nightclub
alternatively go indie clubbing, they're all weedy wallflowers compared to the hordes of rapists at yr average nightclub
D to the G
all local clubs are crap, it's a scientific fact
alternatively go indie clubbing, they're all weedy wallflowers compared to the hordes of rapists at yr average nightclub
alternatively go indie clubbing, they're all weedy wallflowers compared to the hordes of rapists at yr average nightclub
yes but then indie clubbing is full of 13year old 'cliques' with everyone stood around in circles, like some glorified school disco.
and normally there is a lack of air (small venue) and the previously mentioned 13year olds are smoking like steam trains.
so its swings and roundabouts IMO
I agree, massive variation exists between clubs. Some are vast tacky meathalls full of chavvy under 18s, and some are slightly smaller.
Joking aside, its unfair to take a swipe at all the clubs, although the local ones are fairly awful and can be intimidating. I've personally found the best ones are in central London - had a great night seeing Benni Benassi at Turnmills on Friday for example, with good people and vibes all round.
Joking aside, its unfair to take a swipe at all the clubs, although the local ones are fairly awful and can be intimidating. I've personally found the best ones are in central London - had a great night seeing Benni Benassi at Turnmills on Friday for example, with good people and vibes all round.
Rooftopcowboy
yes but then indie clubbing is full of 13year old 'cliques' with everyone stood around in circles, like some glorified school disco.
and normally there is a lack of air (small venue) and the previously mentioned 13year olds are smoking like steam trains.
so its swings and roundabouts IMO
and normally there is a lack of air (small venue) and the previously mentioned 13year olds are smoking like steam trains.
so its swings and roundabouts IMO
yeah but never ever have i ever had or heard of any trouble at an indie night ever, which seems more relevant than cliques - take yr friends! be yr own clique!
Loadsa ppl don't like clubs, me included. I trhink they're pretty fake and most of the time, I feel people just talk to you because they want in your pants - not because they actually like or want a conversation with you. I'd prefer to go to a pub or a festival or a gig or just hang out with mates any day 
dont worry you're quite normal 
dont worry you're quite normal and anywhere with a dress code is crap by default, if yr punters aren't classy making them wear loafers instead of trainers isn't going to improve anything
D to the G
and anywhere with a dress code is crap by default, if yr punters aren't classy making them wear loafers instead of trainers isn't going to improve anything
Totally right!
D to the G
yeah but never ever have i ever had or heard of any trouble at an indie night ever, which seems more relevant than cliques - take yr friends! be yr own clique!
true, we should try and out Clique the Cliques!
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