Worried guys will be put off by my labia Watch

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Guys worry far more about the size of our penis' than you, and I mean 99% of guys. The other 1% worry that it is too big and will scare women. It's just one out of a thousand things a guy will be looking at while dating you! He should fall in love with you prior to ever seeing you naked and by that time he won't care. Change the thought process around. If you fell in love with a guy and then you decided to make love only to see that his penis looked different in comparison to society norms, would it be a big deal for you? Do you judge a man by his genitalia? Men all think that women do, but in reality people just want to experience love. Don't be concerned and just live life and enjoy
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(Original post by WesternCanadian)
Guys worry far more about the size of our penis' than you, and I mean 99% of guys. The other 1% worry that it is too big and will scare women. It's just one out of a thousand things a guy will be looking at while dating you! He should fall in love with you prior to ever seeing you naked and by that time he won't care. Change the thought process around. If you fell in love with a guy and then you decided to make love only to see that his penis looked different in comparison to society norms, would it be a big deal for you? Do you judge a man by his genitalia? Men all think that women do, but in reality people just want to experience love. Don't be concerned and just live life and enjoy
You really think guys care about the labia, as a guy myself I have never heard a guy complain about his sex partners genitals he's just happy to be getting it. Think about it penis size is completely different us guys just joke about it as we likie to think the bigger the slong the more masculine you are.
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If you and a guy get to the sex stage, then I doubt he will care about what your labia looks like, don't let it prevent you from having sex. I'm pretty sure the right person won't care (think of it more like he is the one who should feel lucky that he got the privilege to have sex with you - I hope this made you a bit more confident).
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Thank you. The doctor was quite unprofessional I thought.
At age 62 and still single, the number of women I've been intimate with was long ago forgotten, but virtually all of them, from my teen years to the present, if it seemed sex was in our future, would confess some shortcoming they felt they had and would try and prepare me for the shock I was going to receive upon seeing it. From their toes to their nose there was always something, including your perceived affliction.

I do know your fears are very real and NOTHING your perspective partner or I say will calm them. So USE IT GIRL!! turn it into an asset.

When the conversation turns to sex like it always does, direct the conversation toward the different things that turn people on and , at the appropriate time, tell the guy you have larger than average labia and, as a result are INCREDIBLY turned on by even the slightest touch down there. Most guys take this as a directive and when he does, your reaction has to be appropriate for the story you told him.
Is this being dishonest? Yes. So what.

It will work,especially if the guy is a sexual giver, because it transforms your labia into a thing of wonder. A mystery that has to be explored and understood. It will make him feel special and to a degree,privileged to get to experience this secret of yours.
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If a guy cant deal with it, hes probably a pussy himself and cant handle real sex and real bodies.

Chin up though, i once knew a guy that was completely obsessed with large labias. Back then i thought it was a strange fetish to have but its normal. People come in all shapes, colours and sizes. There are definitely people out there who will appreciate you for who you are.
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You should keep them the way they are. You are very lucky to have them. Do some research. According to some African tribes the longer the labia the better. Same thing with foreskins, the longer the better. Please just give it some time. As you get older and wiser then you will be very thankful to have luscious labia minora.
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I'm just like you, I was super self conscious and paranoid because I thought my labia minora was abnormally large, I went to the doctors, researched labiaplasty etc. I couldn't get into sexual relationships because I was so self conscious about my vagina. I finally met my boyfriend and lost my virginity to him. I apologised for the appearance of my vagina and he looked so so confused. I explained I think it's really ugly and he said it's completely normal and that almost every girl he's slept with has had labia which hangs down a bit and that I shouldn't worry at all. He now goes out of his way to compliment me on it and reassure me that it's perfectly normal and "cute" lol

Honestly porn made me think I was super abnormal but honestly I think most girls are similar to me/us, I've spoken to my friends about it and they all said there's isnt completely tucked away and "neat" so really don't stress. Besides, the right person will love you no matter what 'flaws' you might have! I know I wouldn't have cared if my boyfriend's penis was smaller than I expected because I love him and it really doesn't matter that much, so why shouldn't your future partners be the same?
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(Original post by ihasaquestion)
Guys - Would you be really put off by a labia like mine? It's making me really nervous about becoming intimate with someone.
If it really does bother you so much, you could have surgery. In the long term, do consider though that if you get pregnant, your vagina and labia will probably change again.

Whether or not they would bother me, personally no. I think they seem to be a novelty and I think I would grow to love them.

So I think you just need to find a guy who loves your vagina and labia as they are.

If you haven't found this, then you haven't found the right guy yet.
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I look EXACTLY like you!! Sometimes my labia will fall out of my undies! I have moments when I feel very insecure about them but there was a documentary I watched on labiaplasty that changed my mind about it. We are completely normal and BEAUTIFUL! I admit I am still sometimes uncomfortable when I see myself (and I stay quiet when I hear friends making fun of
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Hi


If your labia hangs out like a flower , fantastic, I love it very much. The more and longer the better - does not matter if inner labia hangs out for 5 inches stretched or longer, same goes for clitorus. For men like me, it is like finding the pot of gold hidden somewhere. I really hope you find a man that like it "the way I do" and give it ALL the attention you desire/need/wants/expect. All the best for the future.
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I felt the exact same way. When i saw those comments or programmes of men saying how disgusting it was too them that just made me even more nervous. I watched an embarrassing bodies programme once and she was conscious about hers so she opted for surgery and hers wasnt even that big. But in her mind it was. I just remember thinking oh my god mines bigger than that. I tried too speak too my mum about it once and she just told me i was being silly and basically didnt want to have the conversation. Shes not good at discussing things like that. So that hurt that i couldnt talk to her about it. I used to google it all the time and found comfort in seeing other people that have the same concern. Its true that all women look different. I wouldnt look at porn starts as reassurance because they all have surgery and cosmetic procedures too look perfect anyway. When it came down too having sex for the first time surprisingly i didnt think about it and my partner has never one said anything or looked remotely bothered. I havent really had any bad feelings about it since then. No more googling.
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Just remember God made you... so be confident within your own body. everyone comes in different shapes and sized. embrace your body.
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Wow, rude doctor...
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I have the exact same issue. I had sex over the summer for the first time. My boyfriend didnt care about this, granted it was his first time too, but he simply said,
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I feel so lucky and happy because my wife has really long labia minora. I find them really sexy and a huge turn on. I think that long labia are beautifully erotic and feminine and a mark of a goddess. I love to drop to my knees and worship my wife and her voluptuous vulva. You may encounter some people who aren’t attracted to long labia, just like there are people who aren’t attracted to short people or people with blue eyes etc. But for every person who doesn’t find long labia attractive there will be many more who do find long labia a total turn on. I have been turned on by beautiful voluptuous labia since my early teens. I had a few girlfriends with this sexy physical attribute. I am not turned on by little immature looking pussies, I like lovely big womanly ones. Hope you start to feel lucky with what you have. Please don’t have surgery. Don’t feel offended by people with poor taste. Hope you have a great life!
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Does it really matter as its personality and attraction that matters
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I’m in exactly in the same boat as you. I consider myself to be very beautiful, I model. But my secret is that I also have excess Labia skin. Everyday I look in the mirror before or after I shower and I want to cry. I hate myself and I know that it should be embraced, I praise other women who have it. But I hate myself because I have it. I recently got a boyfriend who I am deathly scared to get intimate with because I don’t want him to look at me negatively. I’m doing everything I can to get a surgery but it may take a while, and I don’t want to get intimate with him until it looks good and I don’t want him to break up with me because I don’t want him to do stuff to me due to my insecurity ...
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Surgery is a big step. How would you feel if your partner said, 'Mmmm, it's a pity you had it, because I like real women, not porn'?

Sadly, it looks like the original large labia project on tumblr has gone but someone's at largelabiaproject.tumblr.com with pictures of other real women and supportive comments.

But believe that when when someone who loves you sees you naked, they are going to be thinking 'wow, she's naked!!!', not 'omg, her labia are like 2mm too long'.

If they don't, you can consider the surgery.. after you've kicked them in the balls.
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I have never been intimate with a guy before (I'm 21). One thing that really worries me is that a guy will be put off by the appearance of my labia...

I know there are guys that do like larger labia but I'm acutely aware that more often than not, guys like small, neat labias, which can probably be put down to the way porn presents women's genitalia.

There are a lot of guys that say they don't like it when there's absolutely nothing there because a bit of labia can make sex better. But my labia is really quite pronounced and it's making me really nervous.

I saw this image today

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and I've read so many comments online from guys that say they think that it's disgusting when a girl's vagina looks like a 'beef sandwich' or if they have 'meat curtains'. This is making me very self-conscious (more than I already am) and I've even been looking up labia-plasty procedures. I can't afford one, and even if I could I probably wouldn't anyway because I'd be worried about complications.

My inner labia is very long and it sometimes becomes uncomfortable in certain clothing and when exercising. The skin is stretchy, wrinkled and brown and I also have a long clitoral hood. I'm just worried that when I do feel comfortable enough to be intimate with someone, that he'll be put off by it. Obviously, I wouldn't ever consider being with someone who put me down or made me feel bad about my body, but I'm anticipating nasty comments as almost an inevitability from insensitive sexual partners I may come across.

I went to the doctor about it and she seemed pretty surprised. I mean I removed my underwear and she went "Oh, wow. They really do hang down a lot don't they?' So I asked her about it and she said it was completely normal and that some women are just naturally like that and that she wouldn't recommend me getting them shortened. But it was quite clear that hers weren't like that and that she didn't think it was aesthetically pleasing...

For obvious reasons, I'm not going to post a picture of my labia, or link to one that looks similar. However, I have drawn a diagram (cringe) of what I look like (Fig. 1) and what I would like to look like (Fig. 2). I wouldn't want to get rid of my inner labia completely, and I know it's impossible to change the colour, but I just wish they weren't SO big.

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Fig. 2

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Guys - Would you be really put off by a labia like mine? It's making me really nervous about becoming intimate with someone.
In all honesty, there's nothing you can do about the size of your labia so you have to suck it up and accept that it is what it is. Any man who respects you will not be put off by the size, because at the end of the day, they are still getting sex. Any man who comments negatively on your labia size is immature and most likely expects you to perform the way porn has shown him; so not worth your time.

I suggest that if any guy makes a negative comment on your labia size you put your clothes back on and leave. Do NOT let him insult you and do not let him sleep with you because that facilitates the idea that you are "not normal", and that he can be disrespectful to you, which isn't true.
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of cource you're allowed to have your own opinion but suggesting surgery goes a little too far. NO ONE should feel like they'd have to undergo surgery just to feel or look sexy. and honestly I know you mean it well but you're just an *******. I know it's a bit of a turn off for SOME guys but it should matter so much, and it feels to determines whether you want to be with someone or not is SO inappropriate and childish. no one deserves to be with a person like you or any other guy like you. I hope you and your
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