Worried guys will be put off by my labia Watch

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i have the exact same worries that every other person is having on here. i've tried to make myself accept them but i just hate them so much. I'm a 16 year old girl and swimmer and i always get scared that people might be able to see it 'bulging'. It's quite uncomfortable and i'm so scared of anyone seeing it that i'm genuinely considering staying a virgin forever because i'm that self conscious about it. i don't know if this is the same for everyone else but when i've read the other comments i immediately think that mine must be bigger, even though i have no proof that it is.i want to learn to love it about myself but i am really struggling and i am considering going to the doctors about it just gets in the way, especially if i'm wearing underwear that it falls out of because it starts to rub against my thigh. has anyone got any advice? like will i learn to accept it as i grow older? will teenage boys be put off by it (especially as the majority of them are just so used to watching porn)?
You might get a guy who makes comments, but often they won't realise that it's hurtful, and it won't put them off in any way. My boyfriend - maturely - tells me that I have "really flappy flaps" on a regular basis, yet it doesn't stop him having sex with me, touching me, and performing oral sex on me.. so go figure. I was a bit miffed when he first said it because I thought it was some kind of problem, but it's really not, he just thinks he's being funny.
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i have the exact same worries that every other person is having on here. i've tried to make myself accept them but i just hate them so much. I'm a 16 year old girl and swimmer and i always get scared that people might be able to see it 'bulging'. It's quite uncomfortable and i'm so scared of anyone seeing it that i'm genuinely considering staying a virgin forever because i'm that self conscious about it. i don't know if this is the same for everyone else but when i've read the other comments i immediately think that mine must be bigger, even though i have no proof that it is.i want to learn to love it about myself but i am really struggling and i am considering going to the doctors about it just gets in the way, especially if i'm wearing underwear that it falls out of because it starts to rub against my thigh. has anyone got any advice? like will i learn to accept it as i grow older? will teenage boys be put off by it (especially as the majority of them are just so used to watching porn)?
Take a moment to take a breath and Relax.

You're letting it get into your head that that is the most important part of who you are. WHO you are and what you do will matter most to a guy that's worth giving yourself to and not whether or not they will be put off by the fact that they are big. But I will tell you this, you can relate that feeling of being scared that people will see a bulge with every other guy that is afraid that someone will see their bulge, because that's just about how it feels at times. And yes, it is hard to love some things about ourselves that we are afraid nobody else will, but no one said you have to love it. It's almost common for people to dislike some features about themselves simply because its not something they personally find attractive or have been taught that its 'weird'. But it's not your job to love it. When you find a guy who loves you, it will be his job to love all of the little 'flaws' and 'weird' things about you because those are apart of you.

Really, what you need to be told most of all, is that its okay. And anyone with any decency that's worth giving time will say the same thing and won't judge you.

Now, if you really are firm in your position that it is something that you yourself want rid of, feel free to take the reigns of what you think is best. Whether you choose to live with what you've got because it's what you've been given and you think it would be best left alone, or if you choose to change it to what you think is best, it's entirely up to you. As for advice, first try to realize that labia's come in many different shapes and sizes and just because it doesn't sound "normal", doesn't mean they aren't. Clearly you aren't the first to have some that are larger than whats apparently "normal", otherwise this wouldn't be a post, so I wouldn't be to embarrassed as you're not alone. Secondly, perhaps see a gynecologist if you really are concerned, or try emailing one for their opinion. And don't be stressed about talking to one, it is literally their job and I'm sure that they've seen so much more than what you're embarrassed of. (Seriously, some doctors have seen and dealt with things that could probably be considered human cruelty. I feel bad for them sometimes.)

Will you be able to except them some day? I'd say yes. More people than I can count through history have had to live with birth defects, abnormalities, and more, to a point to where a 'problem' such as this truly pales in comparison to all of theirs. And yet, almost all of them lived with it. A good deal of them excepted it as their 'normal' to, because it was normal to them. Just as a family grows accustom to its own chaotic and seemingly dysfunctional ways of living, so can anyone grow accustom to their own body and its 'oddities'.

And will a teenage boy be put off? Perhaps. Really can't give a good answer here as every boy is different, and with or without porn won't make much a difference as it will come down to who they are and whether or not they respect YOU over your body. But when you find the guy that your comfortable with being with, don't be afraid. Obviously it will be nerve wracking and dizzying for the first time regardless, but don't let this stop you. Be confident. Be yourself. And really, don't be afraid of that little threshold that might keep you from being happy. From a guy whose a little bit older, let me tell you that some of us do mature and we really aren't put off by that sort of thing anymore. It might be a surprise. We might be shocked, even. But a true man will still take you into his arms regardless and love you.

I hope that this helps and don't be afraid to ask for more help or advice.
And if you ever need a pep talk, we'll all still be here to help remind you that even if you still think that your 'weird', you're actually normal, because we're all afraid of being judged as 'weird'. At least we all were at one point, until we finally figured out or were told that its normal to feel like we're weird. It's just what makes us human.
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it's ok everyone vagina is beautiful and guys don't, they just wanna get it in!
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Never be worried about it. There is a filthy woman in the uk who appears in adult material and she has a big labia and is she ashamed?
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Never be worried about it. There is a filthy woman in the uk who appears in adult material and she has a big labia and is she ashamed?
Are you talking about Theresa May?
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I have the same thing and I´m still insecure about it as well. I do have to say though, three guys have seen it and two of them didn´t comment on it at all and the third one actually said he thinks it´s sexy.
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I like a big labia. They are fun to lick and suck on
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I have the same stpe of labia and im insecure about it too. My boyfriend did see them but didn't say anything. we've been together for 5yeats and he has seen my labia recently.. So yeah I'm really worried that he might not like it or he might leave me.
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This is the same problem to me but I’m quite young I’m 14 and I have a boy friend and I can’t have sex or anything incaaee he doesn’t like me because of my dangly ham I’m so uncomfortable people say to me you get dangly labia when your a **** and ave too much sex but some people tell me it’s attractive and everyone I know do don’t have a dangly labia it’s annoying I think I should go to the doctors but I don’t want to tell family members becasue I’m on the low with my mam and brother they hate me so much now so they don’t come to the doctors becasue the don’t know I have some thing wrong with me and I’m under age I think to go my self
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There's nothing wrong with you and you shouldn't be scared
(Original post by raganrose)
This is the same problem to me but I’m quite young I’m 14 and I have a boy friend and I can’t have sex or anything incaaee he doesn’t like me because of my dangly ham I’m so uncomfortable people say to me you get dangly labia when your a **** and ave too much sex but some people tell me it’s attractive and everyone I know do don’t have a dangly labia it’s annoying I think I should go to the doctors but I don’t want to tell family members becasue I’m on the low with my mam and brother they hate me so much now so they don’t come to the doctors becasue the don’t know I have some thing wrong with me and I’m under age I think to go my self
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(Aloy of complaining but trust me it's worth if you can make it till the end!)Increase the left side of fig.1 , by an inche. And short the right side by half an inche.BAM that's my uneven ballsack of a labia minora. Are you ethnic by any chance?I'm Asian, Chinese American. And I my la boo is literally 1 of 5 things aesthetically unpleasant about my body. No even an A cup, yet left side is , again, bigger than the right. My rib cage sticks out PAST my nonexistant breasts. My hip, feet, and stomach even are all somehow bigger then the right side of my body...It's strange AF. BUT. I used to, and once in awhile would feel VERY insecure about my body. LIGHTS OFF. Type of situation. Or just stop me from having those rare moments of unplanned intimacy because it was
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If you find someone that doesn't like any of you don't waste a moment of your time, get rid of them and find someone who loves you for the way you are. There is someone who will go wild for your bits the way they are. This whole talk of "normal" like some kind of thing that people need is ridiculous and many love what isn't normal anyway. I actually like the Labia's that being talked about here anyway. If it's attached to someone I'm very attracted to the shape of the Labia makes absolutely no difference to me.
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Anyone who rejects you simply on the basis of that one little thing is not worthy. Everyone has something about them that can be mocked and there will always be those - men with little dicks, for example - who mock others to make themselves feel better.Those nice long lips are full of lovely nerve endings which will give you nice tingles when kissed, Other women should envy you.
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Mines like that... I used to be insecure about it but I basically just wouldn't let guys eat me out. Now idgaf.... This is the first I've heard of surgery to fix that or a meme like that. Although my friend made a joke at Arby's about it looking like a black woman's labia which cracked me up cause mine looks like that but I'm Mexican American. We hooked up a while after that and he didn't say anything... Guys don't care, if they do and say something just be like ok bye. Trust me it'll hurt him more than you, he'll be the one with blue balls. BTW on this topic... What about dude's? Their scrotums aren't perfect, I've seen some nasty guys junk it wasn't bad enough to kill the mood though. Sex can be gross in general if you think about stuff.. that's why you're supposed to be with someone you actually like or love. The best sex is emotional, when you just want to satisfy each other and that is your focus.
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Seriously???? You think he would leave after 5 years over pussy lips??? And how has he not seen them?
(Original post by f_a_r_z_a_h_a)
I have the same stpe of labia and im insecure about it too. My boyfriend did see them but didn't say anything. we've been together for 5yeats and he has seen my labia recently.. So yeah I'm really worried that he might not like it or he might leave me.
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I have the same long stretched out kinda lips, crooked, grey and smallish crooked boobs. I have to wear a c cause I'm wide but I don't fill in the bras right, reality they're like between a and b, constantly fixing them. I was self conscious when I was young.. but I'm 30 and officially dgaf when the time comes I'm quick to strip down I'm not embarrassed of my body. I want to change a few things like weight and I'm working on my tan, but I'm not ashamed. Not even of my knarly stretch marks, that's what happens when you gain 100 lbs in like 4 months. Embrace your body, you can change few things without a knife but frankly it's not worth the risks. Your big long pussy lips and bitty titties are natural, getting a Dr to cut them short or slice open your chest and put silicone in it is not natural.
(Original post by ChinkyChan)
(Aloy of complaining but trust me it's worth if you can make it till the end!)Increase the left side of fig.1 , by an inche. And short the right side by half an inche.BAM that's my uneven ballsack of a labia minora. Are you ethnic by any chance?I'm Asian, Chinese American. And I my la boo is literally 1 of 5 things aesthetically unpleasant about my body. No even an A cup, yet left side is , again, bigger than the right. My rib cage sticks out PAST my nonexistant breasts. My hip, feet, and stomach even are all somehow bigger then the right side of my body...It's strange AF. BUT. I used to, and once in awhile would feel VERY insecure about my body. LIGHTS OFF. Type of situation. Or just stop me from having those rare moments of unplanned intimacy because it was
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