Why do some girls wear revealing clothes and then get angry at unwanted attention?

probably because they mainly get the most attention from losers. I think many parents adivse their daughters not to flaunt their body too much otherwise they will attract perverts, and sons not to flaunt wealth/success too much or they will attract gold-diggers. its a balancing act attracting the right partner

Because then you can't complain about the consequences of that choice. The fact of the matter is that hormonal adolescents will stare if you have chosen to wear revealing clothing.

I don't intend to offend anyone but why is it that many girls in today's society choose to wear revealing clothes (very short skirts, low neck tops etc.) and then get annoyed when perverted men in the street wolf whistle and try to harass them? Like today for example, I was at the mall and this girl started insulting this dude for 'staring at her breasts' when she chose to wear a low neck top? Surely, if she didn't want such attention, she wouldn't have worn that top? This isn't the first time i've witnessed something like that in public and just curious as to why some women act like this?

Why do women who don't wear the hijab complain when men harass them??

It's so ridiculous that some do - why not started with advising children not to be those perverts, and making it so that they won't have to be gold-diggers or see the allure in living off of someone else.

Girls are taught to avoid rape - men are rarely taught not to rape/harass. Sigh.

We aren't talking about 'hormonal adolescents' though.

Why do women who don't wear the hijab complain when men harass them??

It's so ridiculous that some do - why not started with advising children not to be those perverts, and making it so that they won't have to be gold-diggers or see the allure in living off of someone else.

Girls are taught to avoid rape - men are rarely taught not to rape/harass. Sigh.

Why are you recommending other things for me to wear when I've made it clear I want to wear my dresses?
Because I like those dresses, whether for style, material, or sentimental reasons; because I never really wear shorts, because I don't find them comfortable, because I'm not comfortable in a 't-shirt' either and barely own any apart from novelty ones as a result... because I shouldn't have to structure what I wear to avoid someone else's gaze, especially when what I wear isn't even ever skimpy. How are these things an issue that I should have to explain.



The point is surely the same - my summer dress is someone else's shorts and crop top. It shouldn't be about the actual garment, that's the whole point.

Why can't strangers on the street just respect others and not feel that their oh-so-flattering come-on is at all welcome, why do they think they have to say these things, that the world needs to hear what they think of this person's legs or arse or hair.

Are we talking about grown men and women doing this? Making lewd comments and wolf whistles? That's rather immature of them if that's the case and I can understand where you're coming from.

if we could condition all children to grow up to be 100% law abiding, moral, considerate adults, we would be instigating a monumental shift in society. I think you are setting sights unrealistically high

Why do some girls wear revealing clothes and then get angry at unwanted attention?

- how is it not obvious to you, when you identified it in your initial question? O.o

I wear pretty modest clothing all year round, but when it gets really hot, I dread wearing my summer dresses - even though I love them! I wish I could just put them on and love the fact that I know I look good in them, I'm not boiling up beneath a cardigan, etc. But I can't, because of unwanted attention. Why should anyone have to wear something they don't really want to wear, just because some strangers can't respect another human?! It doesn't matter what the stranger looks like to me - I don't wear anything for anyone apart from myself and occasionally my partner in my day-to-day, and it feels like violation when the attention comes just because I've taken the risk to wear a particularly nice top that might be reveal something inadvertently.

Surely it matters more that people think their cat calling and 'endearing' insults and come-ons are more important than the feelings of others, than what you're suggesting - i.e someone should just 'not wear a top' if it's revealing, despite them perhaps loving how it fits, feels, looks, etc?

Don't dress like that if you don't want that sort of attention is why i think.

Please don't drag religion into this and i wear the hijab so i don't know.

Indeed.





Er. It's called decent parenting. It is not an unrealistically high expectation to desire parents to teach their children appropriate respect free from misogyny and gender scapegoating... it would be as easy as what most parents are doing now, just right instead of grossly harmful and wrong.

Well surely we should be wearing burkah to avoid any unwanted attention? I just don't get it.

You should be able to dress how you want.