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Holiday with 'friends'

Basically this summer im meant to be going on holiday with about 6 people i don't exactly get on with at all. ive known all the people going for years but have drifted out of the group as i have different interests/don't really have much in common with them. I haven't even seen most of them since finishing college... Theres only really one person i get on with ok but theyre closer to the other people going than me. I said i would go at the time after being put on the spot but am now regretting it... Im not sure whether to come up with an excuse to avoid going or just go as after september its unlikely i'll keep in contact with any apart from one of them...I feel if i do go that i'll be out of the group and won't be involved in whatever theyre doing but it might be difficult for me to get out of now :confused:

Reply 1

Hana_87

Cant you try and re-bond with them before you go?

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

you'll probably end up bonding during the holiday anyway, thats what tends to happen.

Reply 3

Happy1

Maye you could try to find some common ground before you go... go out for a pizza, or just bowling or something, so taht you can get to know them more before youre stuck on holiday with them.

Reply 4

RN hopefull

Last year i went tenerife with 6 others, one was a really good mate, one was a good friend and the others i said the odd word to here and there, never seen any of them outside of school or footy apart from my really good mate. Now,im best mates with one of the lads i never spoke to much,and very good friends with the other lads, although i dont speak to 2 of them much...i had an amazing time and you WILL get along with them and you will NOT regret it...im going on holiday with 19 mates this year and some i dont speak to much but i know we'll get on great...GO FOR IT

Reply 5

Sazarina88

Haven't you already paid for the holiday?

I think you are most likely to find that it will help you to spend some quality time with these people.

I went on holiday with 6 of my friends .. some I was very close to and others I was not. I found myself getting a lot closer to those I hadn't previously felt I was close to at all.

The holiday was 2 weeks ago and I have only seen a couple of the people since. These are the people I am likely to keep in touch with when I go off to uni but I certainly do not regret going on the holiday.

I had a fantastic time and enjoyed spending time with everyone.

I say go for it - if you find you don't get on you can always go off and do your own thing.

Sarah xx

Reply 6

Bubblebee

Right not to be too negative, but I went on holiday with my two best mates a little while ago and it ended up that after the whole ordeal I realised I actually can't stand one of them but the other is closer than ever.

Just think about being in a tense enclosed space with these people and make sure there is no one who will bug you into insanity!

Reply 7

swirl

As mentioned by previous posters, you're highly likely to bond with the group on holiday, providing you don't have some kind of an irretrievable personal vendetta against one another. You'll be surprised at how enjoyable it is.

If you still don't feel that much at ease though, again as mentioned by a previous poster (I'm beginning to think there was no point in me posting... :p:

) arrange to go out somewhere altogether before the holiday, and start familiarising yourself with potential scenarios.

Have fun!

Reply 8

Geerththanan

Anonymous

you'll probably end up bonding during the holiday anyway, thats what tends to happen.

Why the Anonymous posting...? :rolleyes:

Reply 9

zav

Original post by G&#949

Why the Anonymous posting...? :rolleyes:

I know it is so over used these days :p:

Reply 10

rikstaa

I recently went on a road trip to France with 6 other mates (7 seems a popular number so far!) - my best mate that i went with isn't especially good friends with the other 5 lads there, but whilst away everybody got on really well even with a few stressful situations!
At the end of the day everybody wants to have a laugh, i'm sure the fact you've become distanced from some of them won't matter... just go for it mate!

Reply 11

sax gal

I recently went to France as well! with 3 other people to do work experience. I was worried I wouldn't get on with them as they were all friends but it turned out really well, we all got on and had an amazing time! i would advise the OP to go for it and try and enjoy yourself!

Reply 12

Andronicus Comnenus

In my experience, this kind of thing normally leads to me wanting to tie them all up in a big bag and lob them into a river.

While on the one hand, this coul dbe because im a grouchy old bastard, on the other being locked up with people you don't like for a few days really helps to bring out the character faults.