Ain't No Sunshine When Shes Gone

A relationship which ended in a very confused conclusion.
We decided to stay friends and its been two days since shes gone back home to Italy for 2 months.
She told me the last time I spoke to her on the phone she would text me her new numba but shes just left me in the dark.
Im hopeing she will contact me tommorow and if she doesn't well I guess it will hit me more as I still have this hope.
Long Story cut short - we both want to be together but we can't hence why we have split but im still trying to hold on to her but I dont know if shes given up on total hope or she still has a side to her where she will still fight to make things work when shes back.
I guess im using this current situation of her new number as an indicator of whether or not she on the same mentality as me?

Reply 1

El Scotto

15

Dont be all desperate with her like that, best thing you can do is pretend you dont care... then you'll get a reaction from her and find out how much she likes you by the way she reacts to if she thinks you dont care.

Reply 2

FadeToBlackout

15

Have you been watching Notting Hill again? :p:

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

FadeToBlackout

Have you been watching Notting Hill again? :p:

LoL not yet:P I got attachment issues majorly. Get too attached too quickly and find it hard to let go its a child hood issue I aint been able to shake off yet. I aint majorly depressed over her though.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Hmm I just went over her offline msn name and realised she had her foreign number on the contact card. I gave it a call using a witheld number and she answered, so I hung up.
I guess I got my answer regarding where me and her stand now.

Reply 5

username47781

20

I'd move on she obviously was looking for an excuse to get out of it, that sort of girl its not worth wasting anymore time on, if she does contact you and want you bad, play the part of hard to get that will see how much she cares then.

Reply 6

Candy-Kills

1

it hurts, i know, maybe the best thing is to try to forget about her, i mean, if you know you wont see her again for a long time.

If after those 2 months you'll see her again, then forget a bit about her anyway, its always good to not look desperate and let the lazy girls make the move. ignore her completely, just let her phone you, or text you first.

besides, if she thinks you're loosing interest in her, she will try to contact you more.

hope this helped :wink:

Reply 7

lou p lou

2

Anonymous

Hmm I just went over her offline msn name and realised she had her foreign number on the contact card. I gave it a call using a witheld number and she answered, so I hung up.
I guess I got my answer regarding where me and her stand now.

wow that seems really mature and is definitely going to sort things out... :rolleyes:

lou xxx

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

I didnt go through her msn I went through my offline contacts and as all members they have a contact card. Whats so bad?

Reply 9

WokSz

17

I think what you need is your friends and family at the moment. Try and go out a lot more, concentrate on things you might have neglected while in the relationship. It might help you get over her.

Reply 10

Ghetto_Princess12

I suppose you can stop wasting your time however if you truly love her and you consider she is worth holding on to then in that case do so but if she has moved on then i think it would be time for you to follow into the same direction

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

Glamour Girl

I suppose you can stop wasting your time however if you truly love her and you consider she is worth holding on to then in that case do so but if she has moved on then i think it would be time for you to follow into the same direction

What really hurts is the fact is she was the first girl I had intercorse with and she told me I was the first guy. I thought I knew her inside out as she said to me since the day we started going out that she doesnt want to be like my x and she will tell me everything straight to my face.

I always thought for a girl who has intercorse for the first time would be a very special moment in her life but she acted very casual about it and even afterwards was very casual.

She told me she wouldnt never lie to me but it feels she just been very clever and done it in such a mannor that makes it seem shes so innocent.
I guess because I am not 100% sure about her that theres still that chance she might be honest but theres no way of telling and the other complications don't make it easier to understand what really is going on.

Reply 12

dh00001

16

It's not warm when she's away.....

sounds to me likes shes messing you around quite abit. id try and move on and forget her if i was you

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

dh00001

It's not warm when she's away.....

sounds to me likes shes messing you around quite abit. id try and move on and forget her if i was you

Thats the thing, it sounds like it but can't be sure.
I mean I have enough knowledge that shes trusted me with to break her with but then again my last x did the same but she played about with me.

Shes trusted me with allot of info, shes introduced me to most of her close mates as just a friend and shes told me about all her private affairs with family and actually witnessed some of the family talks which got her really emotional.

She feels reality has hit her and because of the lack of chances we will be together in the future and hurting her parents shes moved back out of the ring of a relationship. She was talking about being friends and how she would of loved that but the indication of not giving her new number even though shes reached home to her family shows otherwise...

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

OP

Anonymous

Thats the thing, it sounds like it but can't be sure.
I mean I have enough knowledge that shes trusted me with to break her with but then again my last x did the same but she played about with me.

Shes trusted me with allot of info, shes introduced me to most of her close mates as just a friend and shes told me about all her private affairs with family and actually witnessed some of the family talks which got her really emotional.

She feels reality has hit her and because of the lack of chances we will be together in the future and hurting her parents shes moved back out of the ring of a relationship. She was talking about being friends and how she would of loved that but the indication of not giving her new number even though shes reached home to her family shows otherwise...

She just came online and we spoke. First thing she said after saying hey was 'got a phone, but havent got any credit on it yet so cant make calls or texts'. I didnt reply to it just asked about family and herself. Thens she said she had to go and I said 'do I get ur new numba?' and she replied as 'oh yeh' and gave me it.
I think im still going to wait until she contacts me via phone rather then vice versa.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

Ok so I messed up and ended up calling her. She was at home alone doing nothing. She said she didnt text me as she used her credit on her teacher or somthing. Then we was just generally speaking about stuff and she mentioned she was going to watch a Movie that me and her watched on the 2nd date of ours. I said to her it would be as good as you dont have my comfort or humour around. She said well she doesnt need that as she isnt in a relationship no more.
I was like o..k... then.
I asked if she was over us and she said no but she doesnt think about it.
Then she was talking about how one of her american guy friend will be comming over for brunch and stuff.
In the end she said she had a headache and went.

Shes able to refrain from contacting me but I kind of contact her after a few days. Im hoping this time round im strong so I dont end up contacting her.

Reply 16

rosetinted

2

Sounds like she's very over this. It's easy when you move away to leave everything behind and forget about it. For God's sake stop phoning her though, just makes you look desperate. You two have split up, so move on.

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

rosetinted

Sounds like she's very over this. It's easy when you move away to leave everything behind and forget about it. For God's sake stop phoning her though, just makes you look desperate. You two have split up, so move on.

Shes back in 2 months though, still should forget about her even though theres a chance things can be different when shes back?

You deserve better.

OP

alias25

You deserve better.

I just dont know her any more. As in I can't tell if shes doing this as shes really over us or shes doing it as shes genuinly scared. She hasn't texted since saturday (since she went home), when mentioned yesterday regarding my texts she said how she didnt have credit until tuesday and when she got credit she used it all up on her teacher.
She spoke to me for a good 30mins, told me about some of her family issues and shes taking up two sports.

The fact she was talking to me and then when we brought up the past from the movie she ended up getting a headache and she still couldn't say she was over me when asked (She might not be saying it out of politeness or maybe its true?).

Ain't No Sunshine When Shes Gone

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