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I'm such a softie

My heart goes crazy at little things and I'm a guy. How do I harden up? For example, if I saw someone I like - flirting harmlessly, I get really jealous. I get attached too easily aswell, and I get massive headaches.

How do I?

Reply 1

Gem

14

Sometimes being a 'softie' can be a good thing - it shows you're in touch with your feelings.

Don't change yourself to fit in with society.

Maybe we need more sensitive guys?

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

My heart goes crazy at little things and I'm a guy. How do I harden up? For example, if I saw someone I like - flirting harmlessly, I get really jealous. I get attached too easily aswell, and I get massive headaches.

How do I?

I dont get headaches but I do get really jelous and attached easily. From my experience I have had 2 relationships. One that lasted a year and one thats lasted 2 months. The one that lasted for 2 years was great at the beginning but died in the end because of my insecurity.
My 2nd relationship died because I got too attached.

Thing is some girls love the attachment but I would say most don't. Mixing the attachment and jelousy will be a bad mix when it comes to the dating stage.
Best thing to do is when you get a g/f try and control yourself. Its the only way possible way forward.

Reply 3

Cano234

Why do you need to toughen up for?

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

So I don't get hurt easily and for no reason.

Reply 5

Cano234

I dont know waht the answear is but i think changing yourself is not it, just need to find the right girl.

Reply 6

Juicy Fruit

10

Cano234

I dont know waht the answear is but i think changing yourself is not it, just need to find the right girl.

Good advice. :smile:

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

It's more of a general thing than about girls, I'm not neccessarily talking about girls.

Even so, some girls unintentionally 'hurt you'.

Reply 8

LIVELOVELAUGH

Cano234

I dont know waht the answear is but i think changing yourself is not it, just need to find the right girl.

really good advice!

and you will find the right girl.

Reply 9

LIVELOVELAUGH

Anonymous

It's more of a general thing than about girls, I'm not neccessarily talking about girls.

Even so, some girls unintentionally 'hurt you'.

yes and theres some that wont, countless numbers of girls that wont, you just need to find the right one. and maybe you havent in the, if yuor worried about girls 'hurting you' then trust may have been the issue. When you find the right one, or a decent gf, then you will have trust and insecurites will be a thing of the past!!

and talking about attchments, i have always found that boys get a lot more attached quickly than girls do.. i dont no if anyone else agrees??

:smile:

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

No matter how nice the "right girl" can be, people hurt eachother unintentionally. And I get hurt easily.

So it's not about finding the right girl, as I'd still feel it. No matter how perfect a relationship, there're always bad times.

Reply 11

LIVELOVELAUGH

Anonymous

No matter how nice the "right girl" can be, people hurt eachother unintentionally. And I get hurt easily.

So it's not about finding the right girl, as I'd still feel it. No matter how perfect a relationship, there're always bad times.

bad attitude to have, im sorry but you cannot look at every relationship with a view like that, or none will suceed. yes there are always bad times, but in most and the best relationships these bad times will be sorted out. if the hurting is unintentional then surely it can be sorted out as well.

Reply 12

tis_me_lord

14

Here I was expecting a nice erection problem thread. :frown:

Reply 13

LIVELOVELAUGH

tis_me_lord

Here I was expecting a nice erection problem thread. :frown:

why you got one??

:p:

Reply 14

Aeris

15

Yeah, I'm kind of that way too. However, the more I learn to be social and talk with people, the more I learn that my guy should be able to chat with other guys and girls and have a good time. I'll just have to trust him.

Reply 15

tis_me_lord

14

Triplet3

why you got one??

:p:

A female from somerset?

I could prove you wrong easily enough.

Reply 16

LIVELOVELAUGH

Aeris

Yeah, I'm kind of that way too. However, the more I learn to be social and talk with people, the more I learn that my guy should be able to chat with other guys and girls and have a good time. I'll just have to trust him.