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Another sex question.

The Problem is that when I have sex it is very painful for me, even as my partner has barely penetrated the vagina it hurts and I don't know what to do.

Has anyone else experienced this problem because I can't help but feel alone with this problem.

Reply 1

tbm

13

Use lubricant/lubricated condoms and make sure you are relaxed.

Reply 2

Glory

1

Your hymen is probabily still intact and the pain your feeling is it streching. People say it will get easier with more practice, or they also you could try streching it when your by yourself throught mastabation.

Reply 3

silverbolt

19

adverse_reaction

Use lubricant/lubricated condoms and make sure you are relaxed.

exactly, relaxing is the key, if your boyfriend has any skills he should get you wet before hand, going in dry is going to be painful

Reply 4

Happyness

14

adverse_reaction

Use lubricant/lubricated condoms and make sure you are relaxed.

Also oils, if need be.

Reply 5

Tarts_n_Vicars

13

Are you sexually experienced? Not a rude question, but if you do have sex regularly and it is painful most of the time it may be worth a trip to the GP. If you're new to it then relax and take the advice of the other posters.

Reply 6

la fille danse

17

Protruding _ahead

Also oils, if need be.

OILS with a condom? What?

Reply 7

Segat1

16

Protruding _ahead

Also oils, if need be.

Er no. NEVER use oils in conjuction with condoms as it will weaken the rubber. REPEAT! use KY Jelly or other water based lube.

Reply 8

FeedTheGoat

I'm sure I've seen this posted over 30 times on these forums... If you people are for real then surely you'd be quite embaressed by putting it into words and would rather 'search the net' for a solution instead of typing your own message. Search the forums man instead of starting posts that have been said loads before.

Unless you're taking the piss because this is worded just about word for word identical to a number of other posts.

Reply 9

WokSz

17

Use plenty of lubricant and relax. My gf had that initially too, but once the hymen broke it was fine.

Reply 10

Candy-Kills

1

FeedTheGoat

I'm sure I've seen this posted over 30 times on these forums... If you people are for real then surely you'd be quite embaressed by putting it into words and would rather 'search the net' for a solution instead of typing your own message. Search the forums man instead of starting posts that have been said loads before.

Unless you're taking the piss because this is worded just about word for word identical to a number of other posts.

yes, and about penis size threads, and masturbation, and "does he love me" really sad threads. but without them H+R would become so small that pig would probably close it down.

(that's pig's job right?)

Reply 11

FeedTheGoat

Candy-Kills

yes, and about penis size threads, and masturbation, and "does he love me" really sad threads. but without them H+R would become so small that pig would probably close it down.

(that's pig's job right?)

Or simply archive the older threads and enable a search function of sorts.. or compile a sticky thread for all these daft questions. Guidelines about what not to ask and telling people to search the former threads/stickies. Instead of this spam with the same answers to the same questions.

Reply 12

Shreerac1

10

Surely this is a sex tips thread?

Reply 13

unfinished sympathy

15

Shreerac1

Surely this is a sex tips thread?

no more of a how to have sex without feeling as though i've been ripped to pieces thread .

Reply 14

Candy-Kills

1

FeedTheGoat

Or simply archive the older threads and enable a search function of sorts.. or compile a sticky thread for all these daft questions. Guidelines about what not to ask and telling people to search the former threads/stickies. Instead of this spam with the same answers to the same questions.

sure. imagine.

Thread title:
STICKY: Does he love me? yes.

people wouldnt even need to click and view the first post because they would already have the answer! :biggrin:

Reply 15

Clarence

14

Maybe your just small?

Reply 16

just do it

Clarence

Maybe your just small?

yh you might be right the annoynymous person might be 13 or something and has never passes puberty propely, but what i say is if having trouble having sex then try to oveocme that trouble, and then just do it and go to your gp and get it checked out. then you could just do it

Reply 17

foxiroxi

10

I had this. When I first had sex I didn't feel any pain at all, however after that night, the following few times it did hurt "on entry" so to speak. It got fine again now and it doesn't hurt at all unless I manage not to relax (I always have fears of people walking in on us! )

Reply 18

Kura1984

2

Er, vaginismus? The technical term for 'you're tense'.

If you've never been able to have pain-free sex, you might have primary vaginismus, whereas if this is a new feeling, you may have secondary vaginismus. The vaginal muscles spasm during (the attempt for) intercourse, causing pain and tightness.

The cause for this condition can either be physical or emotional. But, it's very common for the cause to be a simple matter of lack of experience.

http://www.vaginismus.com

It's just a guess. Don't start fretting. You may not have it but, if you do, it's a common and treatable condition.

EDIT: this link may well be deleted from the post.

Reply 19

janesmith

honestly its not vaginisimus or any other problem you just need lube and i swear u wont feel a thing. dont worry as well.

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