cinvincing parents to let me get a peircing

for a long time now ive wanted to peirce either my nose or my lip but im still only 16 and unless i want to be ripping out my new peircing within an hour or two i need their blessings. both of them are STONGLY against it and even talk about how it's "disgusting." they're also convinced that it's a symbol of rebellion, which isnt the case here...does anyone have any ideas on how to approach them with this??

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

Learn to spell first and then they might take you seriously

Reply 2

Juno

20

Do a lot of research, both on the studio you want to get pierced at, and the aftercare. Also, decide which piercing you want. Then once they see you're serious, it will be easier to convince them.

Reply 3

zav

14

Your 16 you can have a piercing if you want and they can't do anything about it.

I have 2 and it was never a problem, i just got it done and came home from holiday and mum was like "oh you have a eyebrow piercing"

My dad does not really like it but its not his choice either. Just explain it means a lot to you and if you don't like it you can always take it out. Say you don't like there dress scence but you think it is up to them what they wear.

Finish with i am going to get it done and i would rather do it with your blessing but if not then its an issue you will unfortunatly have to deal with.

Something like that anyway

Good luck :smile:

Reply 4

pissface

OP

Anonymous

Learn to spell first and then they might take you seriously

haha, aren't you a funny one :rolleyes:

everyone makes a typo once and again.

and in response to Juno, then they'll just think i was plotting behind their backs. what i really need is something to tell them to make it seem less awful than they're convinced it is...

Reply 5

zav

14

Just say its no different to wearing a ring as you can take it off anytime you want once its healed. If you don't like it you don't have to wear it :smile:

Reply 6

pissface

OP

zav

Your 16 you can have a piercing if you want and they can't do anything about it.

I have 2 and it was never a problem, i just got it done and came home from holiday and mum was like "oh you have a eyebrow piercing"

My dad does not really like it but its not his choice either. Just explain it means a lot to you and if you don't like it you can always take it out. Say you don't like there dress scence but you think it is up to them what they wear.

Finish with i am going to get it done and i would rather do it with your blessing but if not then its an issue you will unfortunatly have to deal with.

Something like that anyway

Good luck :smile:

thanks, that was helpful. but they CAN make me take it out...dunno if things are different in the uk...

Reply 7

Juno

20

No they won't. And if you do research, you'll know how to make it seem less awful, because you'll know the risks and how to reduce them

Reply 8

lovelee-jublee

12

Hey

I was in a similar situation... my parents were totally against me getting my nose pierced so I had to persuade them to let me.

First off, I printed off a load of information on nose piercings (or whatever piercing it is you want to get) that details the procedure, aftercare, risks involved etc. Alternatively, you could direct them to a site like www.bmezine.com that gives information on piercings and also member's stories and experiences of their piercings. This shows your parents you are researching your decision and are being sensible about it.

Secondly, as your parents are strongly against piercings as they think it's a sign of rebellion, you need to show your parents that your reason for wanting a piercing is NOT for rebellion - tell them it's for your personal reasons, not because you want to rebel or look different to everyone else. Think of the reasons you really want your piercing and tell them to your parents.... they need to be assured.

Another thing you might like to do is offer to let your parents come with you when getting your piercing (either if they say you can go ahead, or say this whilst persuading!) - that way they can see the standards of the place, talk to the piercer personally about any worries they may have and basically to ease their minds. They might have to come with you anyway, depending on the piercer and if you need parental consent.

The important thing is to try and make your parents feel comfortable with your decision... if you act openly and encourage them to come along, view the piercing studio and things like that it gets them involved and eases their minds.

Hope this helps. If you need any more help PM me or post back here :p:

Reply 9

pissface

OP

lovelee-jublee

Hey

I was in a similar situation... my parents were totally against me getting my nose pierced so I had to persuade them to let me.

First off, I printed off a load of information on nose piercings (or whatever piercing it is you want to get) that details the procedure, aftercare, risks involved etc. Alternatively, you could direct them to a site like www.bmezine.com that gives information on piercings and also member's stories and experiences of their piercings. This shows your parents you are researching your decision and are being sensible about it.

Secondly, as your parents are strongly against piercings as they think it's a sign of rebellion, you need to show your parents that your reason for wanting a piercing is NOT for rebellion - tell them it's for your personal reasons, not because you want to rebel or look different to everyone else. Think of the reasons you really want your piercing and tell them to your parents.... they need to be assured.

Another thing you might like to do is offer to let your parents come with you when getting your piercing (either if they say you can go ahead, or say this whilst persuading!) - that way they can see the standards of the place, talk to the piercer personally about any worries they may have and basically to ease their minds. They might have to come with you anyway, depending on the piercer and if you need parental consent.

The important thing is to try and make your parents feel comfortable with your decision... if you act openly and encourage them to come along, view the piercing studio and things like that it gets them involved and eases their minds.

Hope this helps. If you need any more help PM me or post back here :p:

Thank you very much! :biggrin:

Reply 10

lovelee-jublee

12

~*PinkTeaCozy*~

Thank you very much! :biggrin:

That's fine :redface:

I was in a similar situation, except my parents weren't so worried why I wanted it, but concerned about the risks involved, which is why I thought it would be a good idea to show them my research and get them involved. My mum eventually said to me I can get it done - she even came with me to the studio, but she couldn't watch!!! She just told me that if I didn;t look after it or it got infected etc then it'd come out, which gave me the incentive to really take good care of it!!! :p:

Straight after I had it she said it looked pretty, so you never know, they might come round!!! Fingers crossed, good luck!!! :smile:

Reply 11

r0manticide17

3

I think starting with an ear piercing is always better. I asked my parents could I get my ear pierced (NOT my lobes or helix, my conch :smile:

) and they said yeah, no question. My mum would hate it if i got a facial piercing, though she really wont be able to do much about my tongue in september!

Reply 12

supertramp

9

they're also convinced that it's a symbol of rebellion

When I told my mum I was getting my naval pierced properly (allowed a friend to do it at 14 when I was drunk and it grew out) SHE was convinced it was a sign of satanism and violence against your mother (umbilical cord). I calmy explained to her that she was a mentalist, and am going to get it done anyway when it heals up properly. I'm 18, though, and she's not going to seeing my naval.

Think hard about the lip one - I've wanted one for a long time but am not getting one because it can be very bad for your teeth.

Reply 13

omfgski

Another thing to consider about the lip piercing, is when/if you eventually do get bored of it/don't want it anymore, the scar can be quite bold for a long time afterwards. Also, it can affect jobs in the future as many places don't like piercings to be in such a visible place.

Reply 14

high priestess fnord

9

i just bugged mine till they let me have it. took me about 6 months of constant pestering tho

Reply 15

shady lane

16

For most parents, they'll never like it, so if you are legal and you are sure you really want it, just do it. I waited until 18 to get my navel pierced, they never liked it, but I told them I would do it anyway and that it didn't mean I would be naked all day long to show it off. They have to learn to let go at some point, this is one of the first areas where they have no say. It's your body.

I also agree with the person who said it may affect your career choices. My cousin had a lot of piercings, then once she started her LLB they slowly disappeared...

Reply 16

Caribou

1

Tell them that HagerVor thinks that a piercings (in moderation, and not on the lip..well of the face anyway :rolleyes:

) can be hot.

What about a nipple piercing? how often do they see your nipples?
or a labia piercing? I mean.. they're REALLY going to notice that :wink:

Reply 17

Juno

20

HagerVor

Tell them that HagerVor thinks that a piercings (in moderation, and not on the lip..well of the face anyway :rolleyes:

) can be hot.

What about a nipple piercing? how often do they see your nipples?
or a labia piercing? I mean.. they're REALLY going to notice that :wink:

You can't get genital/nipple piercings til you're 18

Reply 18

Caribou

1

Juno

You can't get genital/nipple piercings til you're 18

You can't buy alcohol either.. yet it happens. In the end, piercers are trying to make a living.

Reply 19

Luize

13

I wasn't allowed any non ear piercings. And my mum doesn't like the idea of facial ones. I got an A in my AS levels and asked if I could have my nose pierced as a reward (I had never asked for it before). She said yes. Although this was after telling her about how to peirce things and the pros and cons etc and showing her websites about it all. (originally wanted my lip pierced)

I've moved to uni and only live at home for a few months of the year and now have my tongue pierced which she likes as well. She did say that I had to wait until I moved out to get it though so just obeying her wishes seemed to help a lot.

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