Hating your mum...

Does anyone else hate their mum sometimes so much that they just wish she was dead, and other times love them so much that they wouldnt be able to live without her.

Im 17 btw, and wish she would just disappear sometimes cos shes always nagging, disapproving, arguing when she thinks shes right (she thinks shes always right), shouting, etc. Yet other times, shes so caring. Anyone else feel the same.

Reply 1

girl afraid

I don't think this will do you any favours...

Reply 2

bobbington

OP

OK, maybe I went over the top by saying dead, but what I mean is, sometimes, you love her and sometime you hate her. i.e. its like shes a totally different person. (btw I dont want her dead, its not that bad) And Im male.

Reply 3

billbonesknowswhatimean

im guessin he's a bloke from his username

and..i kinda see ur point but f*****g hell aint that a bit extreme?

(after seein ur last post): haha that's a completely different post to ur first one

Reply 4

A Y A Z

11

Man..!

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

yes but for me i have good reasons. shes always having a go at me and putting me down like saying i'm thick and saying she wants me dead or to leave home for NO reason at all. i really hate her.

Reply 6

randum_nandom

ya i get that about my mum 2, but then i just consentrate on the good things shes done

Reply 7

Angelil

19

I used to think that about my mum, mainly back when I was about 15 (I'm 20 now).

I was going for counselling at the time and at one session I said I didn't love my mum. Not that I hated her - just that I felt NOTHING for her. I'm glad I said it there and not to her face, because after I came home from that session I felt so guilty - proof that I couldn't possibly have meant it.

Obviously I don't fully know your circumstances, and I don't want to sound patronising, but you should make sure you've really thought about what saying such a thing means.

Reply 8

Sithius

16

Edited~

Reply 9

bobbington

OP

Yeh, this is what she does:

has a go when im playing comp games as it could harm my eyes, but thinks its OK to spend the same amount of time doing school work as long as it isnt games. Argument begins...

has a go when I watch football, saying I should be studying, even when I spend like 2 hrs a week, and she insists I watch it everyday.

not allowed to go out too often

Moans about certain clothes I buy

If she disagrees with something I do, she shouts at me for half an hour even if shes wrong. She thinks shes always right.

Threatens me when we get into heated arguments, saying shell leave and wishes I werent born, etc.

Always moaning about my academic results, i go to a top grammar school and have got good grades, but she keeps saying her friend's sons and daughters are smarter than me, when clearly they arent. Like, I get 2nd highest mark, and instead of congratulating, she moans and shouts, why didnt you get the top. ANd we argue.

BUT
The thing is other times shes so caring.

Reply 10

gas_panic!

12

emo

Reply 11

Angelil

19

Just sounds like her being a normal mum to me...
The only circumstance in which you have the right to hate your mother is if you're being horribly abused. Which you apparently aren't.

Reply 12

bobbington

OP

lol, emo, no way, but at least im not alone in thinking this. Like today, I said mum, I want to buy a guitar, and she flipped. She said, it was a waste of money, i should be studying(its the summer holidays), I already play the piano, I should help with painting the house instead, she wouldnt pay for my driving lessons if i got a guitar. Its these stupid little things that she gets worked up about. Other times, it escalates from watching a bit of football. Whenever I do slightly badly in an unimportant test, she blames it on football, games, etc. She never seems to realise and take notice when I do well.

Reply 13

Sithius

16

Angelil

Just sounds like her being a normal mum to me...
The only circumstance in which you have the right to hate your mother is if you're being horribly abused. Which you apparently aren't.

Anon, I can see I was being a prick so ignore my other post.

Angelil, if you believe that is the actions of a normal mum then you are really mistaken. She is mentally abusing him by the sound of things when she is like that and most mothers (I imagine) don't behave like that to their children.

Reply 14

high priestess fnord

9

Angelil

Just sounds like her being a normal mum to me...
The only circumstance in which you have the right to hate your mother is if you're being horribly abused. Which you apparently aren't.

i only love my mother when shes very far away from me and i havnt been "horribly abused" as you put it. the way i see it just because your related to someone doesnt mean you have to like them.

Reply 15

bobbington

OP

But why are mums like that. They give mixed messages. I hate it when we argue, cos it goes on for ages. Then I hate her afterwards. The next day, or two, shell be realy nice again, and Ill love her. But the things shes says when shes angry, are really hurtful. Its like she doesnt even know shes saying it, or does she. And just stuff that she disapproves of, she wont let me do, or shell say, she wont care about me anymore. A few days ago, I was filling out my driving license form, and I asked her, should tick the organ donation box, she was like, if you do, then you can leave my house. And I was like, what! In my head, I was thinking, have I just done somthing wrong, Im potentially saving lives, yet if I ticked the box, shed kick me out.

Reply 16

high priestess fnord

9

roonaldisterooy

But why are mums like that. They give mixed messages. I hate it when we argue, cos it goes on for ages. Then I hate her afterwards. The next day, or two, shell be realy nice again, and Ill love her. But the things shes says when shes angry, are really hurtful. Its like she doesnt even know shes saying it, or does she. And just stuff that she disapproves of, she wont let me do, or shell say, she wont care about me anymore. A few days ago, I was filling out my driving license form, and I asked her, should tick the organ donation box, she was like, if you do, then you can leave my house. And I was like, what! In my head, I was thinking, have I just done somthing wrong, Im potentially saving lives, yet if I ticked the box, shed kick me out.

just dont show her the form :rolleyes:

parents suck but tbh your mum doesnt sound too bad. more irritating than anything else. ive no idea what goes through my mums head. ive just told my bf to shoot me if i ever get anything like her :smile: