Can't help planning my relationship

Hi, first of all sorry for posting anonymously but i know my gf comes on here sometimes and i would like her to see this. im going out with this girl and im madly in love with her. we've been going out now for about 6 months and to me she is perfect. The problem I normally have is that i like to have in life everything planned in advance. When it comes to relationships I guess it's not something useful. Here's the thing: I'm leaving this year away from her in order to go to uni. It's most likely that I'll go to Paris. We both decided that we'd deff want to try long distance although I've been thinkink for a while about it and there's something that annoys be a bit. Eventually her and I will break up; we both know that its impossible for two 18 years not to get bored after a few years. So it's deff ending at some point. To me there are 3 possible ways: 1. Before I leave for uni 2. Next year when she goes to uni and meets some1 else 3. while we are both at uni
Tbh the worst for me would be n2 since i would have sacrified a lot for nothing (altho she did say she would still want to be with me), then n3 coz we could both still meet new people at uni and then n1 because we would only break up after a little amount of time (i.e. not as painful) I know this may sound ridiculous to most of you, planning when to break up with your gf, but i like to have things a lil bit planned ahead. I also dont want to end it badly (e.g. one of us slept with some1 else or found some1 new) So right now i havent got a clue what to do. I deff want to be with her as long as possible but at the same time I dont know what's most convenient for us both. Some people have said that even if we break up and then have some fun of our own with other ppl, there's nothing stopping us from getting back together and in order for her to want such thing that i should make the best out of it now so that she'd remember the good times we had together ... She even said that yeh when couple get bored that they might feel attracted towards some1 else but then realize that its not worth it and that they were happier with who they were before...Dont know, really confused. Please help me!

Reply 1

A Y A Z

Option number 2.
Wait for it. You'll feel less guilty, and it will be easier.
But don't rub it in her face when you DO break up! LOL

Reply 2

looking_fr_SomeOne

A Y Z

Option number 2.
Wait for it. You'll feel less guilty, and it will be easier.
But don't rub it in her face when you DO break up! LOL

Reply 3

janesmith

just go with the flow and let it happen. dont think about it. it might be inevitable but then again you might never get bored of each other while you're at uni. the emotional stress of choosing one of those options isnt right. u should grow apart naturally or you'll be thinking what if what if

Reply 4

Redapple

Well if you’re thinking when and how to break up, maybe you’re not madly in love with her after all. When you love someone you don’t think it’s ever going to end. Why do you have to think the relationship has no future? Does she know how you feel? I think you should be more confident. Any relationship can end, being long distance or not. Your gf can meet someone else even if she lives in the same city as you. So if she only has eyes for you, why would she dump you next year for someone else?

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