Why I think casual sex aint no good

So I don't think casual sex is something that someone should practice. Why you say? Well...

When you don't sleep around but only have a handful of partners, you're like a Stately home:

Traditional, sophisticated, timeless; a true classic. It's something everyone can appreciate from the outside, but not everyone is going to be lucky enough to pop in for a quick visit. The upkeep may be higher than normal, but for what you are getting, it seems to be worth it.

On the flip side of it, people who sleep around are more like this:

The brilliant tower block. Common, cheap, many, many occupants over the course of a few years and if you sleep in one, there's a good chance you'll catch something. Plus who knows what state they'll be in a few years from now...

Thoughts?
And to the peep saying "It's none of your business", it's about choosing which you'd want to stay in rather than anything else.

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Bravo! Bravo!

I disagree. Casual sex doesn't mean you have to be a slut about it, not that there's anything wrong with sluts. I'd rather go with how I want to than abstain simply because of what others may think.

Reply 3

mrhedgehog

Good analogy! Looks like you spent some valuable time and effort :biggrin:

Reply 4

Philbert

Well, I'm glad you said "people" rather than just "girls" like most do on these sorts of threads. But anyway, it's none of your business what people do with their genitals.

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geoking

Original post by Plantagenet Crown

I disagree. Casual sex doesn't mean you have to be a slut about it, not that there's anything wrong with sluts. I'd rather go with how I want to than abstain simply because of what others may think.

Original post by Philbert

Well, I'm glad you said "people" rather than just "girls" like most do on these sorts of threads. But anyway, it's none of your business what people do with their genitals.

Why isn't it? I'll use it to judge someone's character whether they like it or not, just like the rest of society. And as I said above, it's about self respect rather than "what does Mr and Mrs X think of me?!"

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Ridiculous thread.

Original post by geoking

Again I disagree. You can have casual sex whilst being intimate with someone, friends with benefits is an example. It's only the social stigma that's attached to sex which has caused the whole attitude that having too much sex is shameful.

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meenu89

It's none of your business really.

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minimarshmallow

Original post by Philbert

Well, I'm glad you said "people" rather than just "girls" like most do on these sorts of threads. But anyway, it's none of your business what people do with their genitals.

There were references to being 'in' the person though, so women and gay men really.

Reply 10

Add!ction

Yes but that stately home has a lot of bush.

Reply 11

kumon

Too many slags and sluts these days anyway, that fantasize about sex to the point they don't do any academic work and cause nuisance on the streets and don't know who their father of their child is.

Reply 12

Philbert

Original post by minimarshmallow

There were references to being 'in' the person though, so women and gay men really.

Well yes, but I just took that as being part of the metaphor. I know he was probably getting at girls more than guys.

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syrettd

But stately homes are often open to the public, so lots of visitors everyday at the same time, almost orgy-like. The stately home picture you posted is Castle Howard, one of the largest visitor attractions in Yorkshire. That building is a massive slut.

Reply 14

redferry

I disagree, stateley homes have a lot more visitors each year than tower blocks on the whole. They are open to the public rather than private property in most cases.

That is castle Howard, it attracts thousands of visitors per year. No tower block has that many people in and out of it.

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Philbert

Original post by geoking

It's about self respect - not what others think. Casual sex is a giant contradiction. Sex is something intimate (anyone who wants to argue this can then attempt to explain why rape is such a heinous crime) and so being intimate casually makes little to no sense.

Why isn't it? I'll use it to judge someone's character whether they like it or not, just like the rest of society. And as I said above, it's about self respect rather than "what does Mr and Mrs X think of me?!"

But why can't someone have high self respect and casual sex? Not everyone values sex/intimacy in the same way.

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geoking

Original post by Plantagenet Crown

You missed out a key part. And it is in my view because if you have standards, then you shouldn't be wanting to sleep with anyone and everyone but only a select few. You'd have to have low standards to be able to sleep around.

Original post by Philbert

But why can't someone have high self respect and casual sex? Not everyone values sex/intimacy in the same way.

See above.

Reply 17

minimarshmallow

Original post by kumon

Too many slags and sluts these days anyway, that fantasize about sex to the point they don't do any academic work and cause nuisance on the streets and don't know who their father of their child is.

These people are problematic. The first is hurting themselves, the second is hurting others and the third (only one that's definitely a woman) is potentially hurting her child.

But seeing as none of these things are synonymous with casual sex, I don't see what the problem is.