The Student Room Group
Reply 1
maybe you should think about why shes telling you these things. mayb she feels your relationship has become too comfortable and she no longer feels like you feel the need to try and win her love, you just expect it to be there? if tahts the case thn her comments are a way to make you realise that she still needs to be worked for and appreciated.
Reply 2
I would recommend you to be very observant of her behaviour and don't let your guard down. Otherwise just lock her in the house!
Reply 3
there are two ppl in the relationship, he can clearly see her behaviour so mayb he shud analyse his own
Reply 4
The fact that she is increasingly mentioning other guy's advances shows that she is not as content in the relationship as before. It could be a sign that she is losing interest. In my opinion that means a greater chance of her cheating. To the OP makesure you keep watching her closely especially if she is getting a lot of male attention.
Reply 5
not everyone is looking for an excuse to cheat, there are some people who just wouldnt cheat no matter how unhappy they are in a relationship. tbh to the op if you have that little faith in ur gf anyway and feel the need to b suspicious of her every move (i know u didnt say that and im not saying you think that, just if you did) then it seems like there are large problems in your relationship anyway
Reply 6
...not necessarily. Sometimes it's an attention thing. If she would never go as far as cheating, flirting and telling you about advances maybe her way of telling you she wants more attention. I know she's going about it in totally th wrong way... but hey it happens... :frown:

If you trust her, tell her it upsets you, and ask her why she tells you these things. If it's because she feels you need to know then she might just be worried, or would want to know if a girl made an advance on you. So that's more innocent.

Hope it helps...
Chin up
Reply 7
I'd agree with the others in that it means she is probably losing interest. However, I dont think she is cheating on you yet or about to, otherwise she wouldnt be telling you about the other guys advances. It seems to me like she is testing the water about something, trying to see how you react to other guys advances on her. Also, try listening to what she is saying these guys are doin, it may be that she is wanting you to do the sorts of things that these guys are doing. So maybe surprise her with a special treat, and perhaps play out some of the things she is finding so enticing about the other guys.

I would also recommend that you talk to her about it, after all the key to all relationships is communication. Let her know that your feeling a bit threatened, and she should talk you out of it and help show everything is all right.
Reply 8
MMA
The fact that she is increasingly mentioning other guy's advances shows that she is not as content in the relationship as before. It could be a sign that she is losing interest. In my opinion that means a greater chance of her cheating. To the OP makesure you keep watching her closely especially if she is getting a lot of male attention.

But the fact is, I should not have to watch her, if she is loosing interest it would only be fair to let me know, and end the relationship on equal grounding. If she cheats, then I don't want her as a gf, simple as.
Reply 9
....two years. If you think she'd even consider cheating then the trust isn't there and the relationship isn't right.
Reply 10
Anonymous
But the fact is, I should not have to watch her, if she is loosing interest it would only be fair to let me know, and end the relationship on equal grounding. If she cheats, then I don't want her as a gf, simple as.


Of course you should not have to watch her but my point is that she is getting a lot of male attention and she is not likely to tell you if she has been cheating. I am just trying to look out for you here- you have to be careful.
talk to her about it, theres no need 2 assume u have to watch her or shes thinkin gof cheating, mentioning guys is in a whole different universe to cheating, theyre just not on the same level
Reply 12
squigaletta
talk to her about it, theres no need 2 assume u have to watch her or shes thinkin gof cheating, mentioning guys is in a whole different universe to cheating, theyre just not on the same level


^ definetely listen to this. Not on the same level, at all.
Reply 13
MMA
Of course you should not have to watch her but my point is that she is getting a lot of male attention and she is not likely to tell you if she has been cheating. I am just trying to look out for you here- you have to be careful.

Sorry- didn't mean to be rude, so the best course of action is simply to talk it over with her? Seems fair enough.
I think you should pay this guy a visit: ;catfight;
Reply 15
squigaletta
talk to her about it, theres no need 2 assume u have to watch her or shes thinkin gof cheating, mentioning guys is in a whole different universe to cheating, theyre just not on the same level

Of course, yes, I do trust her implicitly. I guess i'm just insecure about how she is only starting to mention guys advances now, and telling me about previous encounters.
Reply 16
Yes... but the only way you can work out WHY she is doing this...is to ask her?